what words or phrases are off limits in your famly?

[OnourwaytoWDW]

Ok, of course the major swear words off limits in our family. And we don't say "Oh my God" , oh my gosh is ok. But not really crazy about it.

Crap is ok. I often use it cooking because I am horrid in the kitchen. "Craaaap, I burnt the eggs."

Stupid is semi ok, but not to be used against another person. As in, You're stupid!

Duh is off limits as an insult to another person. If you want to duh yourself, it's ok. Duh Gayle, it says 1 cup not 1 Tbs.

I call my kids nerd and ding dong as an affectionate name, but still trying to get the point across. "Hey, ding dong, pick up your socks"

I caught myself saying "flipping" to much to hear my 10yo ds repeat. So I stopped.

And I do remember once ds was about 6 and we were playing a game, his turn didn't go the way intended and he said "Damn" I said, "Excuse me?" and he then said as if correcting himself and asking if the next phrase was right "Damn it?!?!" Uhhh no. We had a talk over that.

Then one day about the same age, he asked me was b-i-t-c-h meant. And he spelled it out and then said it. I asked where he say it. It was written on the seat of the bus ok, but how did he know how to say it.
He said the girl next to him told him what it was, and then told him it wasn't a nice word to say and don't say it. I could hug that girls mother!

 

[TinaLala]

Okay, every swear word is a given. We don't say stupid, darn, frickin, friggin, hate, idiot and I've even thrown in the word 'no'. When my kids are being really 'wonderful' I call them Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum. When they are really being wonderful I call them Turds. Yes you heard right Turds. It's said in the most loving way I know how.

I stopped saying sh** after I heard my DD-3 at the time say it out loud with perfect tone. My favorite swear is F*** me and I find myself trying not to say it as often as I can.

 

[minkydog]

"********" and "Stupid". My youngest child is mentally handicapped. It rankles me when i hear other people use the word "********" to describe something they think is dumb or ridiculous. I caught my own DD15 saying something was ******** recently and it took everything in me to stay calm, to remind her that we don't use epithets and that includes any kind of name-calling.

 

[Wendy*Darling]

All swear words, stupid, ********, gay (when used as an insult) and fat. My kids can say overweight or chubby but "fat" was being tossed around in an awfully cavelier manner and after seeing what a friend's 6th grade daughter is going through after convincing herself that she is fat (which she is SO NOT) because her legs aren't stick thin like her best friends, I decided that "fat" was going to become a no-no word in our house.

 

[Perditamarie]

We don't say OMG, dumb, stupid, idiot, swear words or shut up...was feeling a bit prim about monitoring this, especially OMG, but there are such better choices--current faves are "oh, pickles" and the kids picked up "snap" from Phineas and Ferb! We try not to watch TV shows that say them either, and my kids always looked shocked when they hear other kids saying those words.

 

[minniebeth]

Of course curse words, but "Idiot" has got to be the #1 taboo word otherwise in our house, and it is my DD's favorite word.

 

[sunnyday123]

"********" and "Stupid". My youngest child is mentally handicapped. It rankles me when i hear other people use the word "********" to describe something they think is dumb or ridiculous. I caught my own DD15 saying something was ******** recently and it took everything in me to stay calm, to remind her that we don't use epithets and that includes any kind of name-calling.

that is the one word that will send me over the edge. I've learned 4th grade is when they start with that, as well as gay. DD said ******** and we had a BIG talk about it. She said someone in her class said it meant stupid. Which just made me madder. I had a talk with her and then went and talked to the teacher. I am very big on not making fun of anyone because of what they wear, look like, have, don't have, and any handicaps whatsoever. When DD was born, they weren't sure if she would have severe/mild/none brain damage and I remember looking at her and thinking she was perfect the way she was, and God help the person who tried to say different.

 

[sunnyday123]

Of course curse words, but "Idiot" has got to be the #1 taboo word otherwise in our house, and it is my DD's favorite word.

I say that all the time too. Sorry.

 

[eliza61]

My kids were not allowed to call each other stupid and the couldn't use the "N' word. We're AA and my kids would get mad at me because they could not even listen to rap music that had that word or called women " itches". I use to embarass them when they friends came over because I would say "hey Brian whatcha listening to on your ipod"? and then ask their friends why they would download a song like that?

Unfortunately I had the "saltiest" language in teh house, so I had to pay my kids $1.00 every time I used a swear word. Every time I would mess up (burn a meal, drop a dish etc) I would say son of a ??? I've gotten out of the habit but I must of paid the equivalent of Costa Ricas yearly budget.

 

[polineedyan]

We dont say that anything sucks. I hate that. Basically in our home, if it isnt allowed in first grade, it aint allowed here.

 

[minniebeth]

I say that all the time too. Sorry.

It's not really the word, it's HOW she says it! Oh, the attitude!

 

[sunnyday123]

Unfortunately I had the "saltiest" language in teh house, so I had to pay my kids $1.00 every time I used a swear word. Every time I would mess up (burn a meal, drop a dish etc) I would say son of a ??? I've gotten out of the habit but I must of paid the equivalent of Costa Ricas yearly budget.

Lol....we did that here, too. DD pretty much has college paid for, and is working on her vacation home. I get all my cussing out at work. It truly can be a great stress reliever. I do it very quietly.

 

[sunnyday123]

It's not really the word, it's HOW she says it! Oh, the attitude!

I hear you on the attitude! "whatever" is a 10 yr olds way of saying F/U!!!

 

[agentpleakley]

Hmm -- good thread.

Prohibited words/phrases in our house:

1. anything that involves taking the Lord's name in vain
2. ********/retard
3. stupid
4. hate, as in "I hate you." -- you can hate something but not someone
5. all swear words
6. freakin' (because DS - was using it and it sounded like the f word)
7. pig, freak, turd, gay, ***, ****, etc
8. Just remembered one -- shut up. I despise this word. UGH!!!! my kids are constantly telling each other to shut up.

 

[momto2girls]

We don't use any swear words, of course, plus we don't say:

Oh my G-d (we say "Oh my goodness" or "Oh my gosh" instead)

Crap

Stupid (we substitute "silly")

Idiot

Darn

Hate

 

[tebi73]

Curse words are off limits @ our house too. We also don't like: stupid, idiot, shut-up, retard, and "i hate you".
My 6 year old has a friend in school that tends to use a lot of foul language (at 6! can you believe it!!!). My DS doesn't really understand what he's talking about, but then he comes home and says S*** or D***A** or S-O-B and I have to educate him!
He was trying to come up with words that rhymed with CLASS the other day and he said A$$. I told him that we don't use those kinds of words. He says "Mom, the Bible says Mary rode to Bethlehem on an A$$!" How can you argue with that?!?!?!?!

 

[lrab1126]

pretty much all the one's already mentioned, the big one we have been fighting lately is the "oh my g-d", makes me crazy. And though it's not a swear, the girls are not allowed to call each other "baby" because it instantly causes a battle between them... so baby is off limits these days.

 

[agentpleakley]

pretty much all the one's already mentioned, the big one we have been fighting lately is the "oh my g-d", makes me crazy. And though it's not a swear, the girls are not allowed to call each other "baby" because it instantly causes a battle between them... so baby is off limits these days.

Both of my kids (6 years apart) -- used Babyhead - as the ultimate insult when they were 3-4 years old. I have no idea where this came from.

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

thankgoodness for this post. I thought I was the only non cursing family. ALL and I mean ALL of my siblings and Dhs siblings curse freely. I can't stand it. But tolerate it to see them occasionally. We live with my mom and she is a free curser too, but does not say the F*** word. And you simply can not correct my mother cause she just doesn't give a hoot. I think we will put up a curse jar, my mom could pay off our DVC membership.

 

[gris gris]

Here's a different one - we don't say "perfect" in our house. I grew up in a "perfect" house and I vowed my house would not be perfect. We don't live in a perfect house and we don't strive to be perfect I'm much more relaxed this way!