What traditions/non traditions are you doing?

[Brittanyxsue]

My future hubby and I are very non-tradtional and are doing things not everyone usually does. I was wondering what everyone is doing that either is traditional or non-traditional in their wedding?

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

We are not having a cake and having a chocolate fondue dessert bar instead, and we are not doing the bouquet or garter toss. Also, I think having a Disney wedding in general is not very traditional IMHO.

 

[Evi]

I've been thinking about this quite a bit. I wanted a formal Spanish catholic wedding growing up with the lasso(double rosary) and arras(13 coins). Unfortunately our families have become less and less religious over the years. I felt like I was pulling teeth inviting people to come to church on Easter. It only ended up being df, his nieces, my niece and myself. We both have very large families and no one else wanted to come. Honestly at this point I don't see myself having my big formal catholic wedding. I do see myself having a private small ceremony with df and a few others and receiving the blessing of the church.

I think I will still incorporate the lasso in my service but more in the form of a rope I've seen some lovely ones online.

I think if there is something traditional in your culture or a family tradition its a beautiful thing to share and be able to pass one.

 

[Jilian]

We're tossing most of the tradition out the window, we tend to do things backwards anyway. Our wedding was a JP ceremony on the beach with just our parents present, I had been divorced and never planned to remarry but after H and I started a life together he confessed that he did want to get married and I agreed. Here we are 4 years later planning a VR so we can have the wedding that we never had. We're skipping cake, garter toss, dances, etc. Our kids will walk me down the aisle, H will probably meet me halfway and we'll walk down together. I'm letting him see me before the ceremony because we're doing a GF photo shoot. We'll probably still do a toast with dinner though, and I suspect that he'll do a small speech too.

 

[kharmagirl]

I was raised Catholic but no longer subscribe to a religion. DF is Jewish but is not religious at all. I have always loved the idea of someone I know and love to be the one to perform the ceremony - so we are having one of my closest friends and one of DF's closest friend perform the ceremony. I haven't written it yet, but in addition to a chupah, we'll probably do the traditional celtic hand tying (I'm Irish) and the stepping on the glass. I found some Ketubah's on-line with a beautiful saying that is about the couple and not religious at all. I"m just going to combine all sorts of things in the ceremony that I like. We're also not having a wedding party or a MOH/BM. I like the idea of it just being about the two of us.

At the reception we are not doing the bouquet/garter toss - but I think that's becoming more and more common.

DF and I are very non-traditional people, so I'm sure there will be more things that I do/don't do that people will see as different. If someone is so upset by us not having something expected, like a Rabbi, and they feel like it's going to ruin the experience for them, then they don't need to come. That may be harsh, but I only want people who are happy for us and want the best for us not matter what we choose to do. I say It's your wedding - do what makes you happy and don't do what you don't want to do.

 

[sambycat]

we did NOT see each other before the ceremony. our ceremony did end up being slightly more "religious" than i expected. we did NOT do a garter or bouquet toss. we didn't really do any of the "ceremony" things (sand ceremony, candle lighting, roses for the moms) in the ceremony that seem to be "new" traditional things. we had once song for all the attnedants/groom/etc.. to enter to (there was just moms/groom/officiant/MOH/BM), of course, i got my own solo song (heh). we didn't have much floral. we did have TWO cakes - yum! we did not have "dancing" or a DJ or really the usual more traditional reception entrance deal, no "recieving" line. i didn't tell my MOH what to wear.

 

[geek+nerd]

Like another poster said, we are not having a traditional officiant. We didn't want someone who doesn't know us to perform our ceremony, and neither of us is religious at all. So, my brother-in-law was ordained online and will be performing the ceremony that DF and I put together (basically, we Googled a bunch of secular wedding ceremonies and cut and pasted a few together to get ours).

We are not doing a traditional reception. We are simply having a lunch at a Mexican restaurant and doing a dessert party at Epcot later that night. We are having a non alcoholic toast and not serving alcohol at the DP; however, guests (there are two who will probably drink) can order alcoholic beverages at lunch.

We aren't doing any dances, receiving line or bouquet/garter toss. In fact, I don't have a garter.

The guys aren't wearing tuxes. They are all wearing navy sport coats, khakis, and white shirts. DF will be the only one wearing a tie.

Just about the only traditional thing we are sticking with is not seeing each other before the wedding.

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

We're having a non-religious ceremony, but I've been thinking, and I think I might take Jack Day's ceremony and tweak it a lot. Gotta put that english degree to some use, right?? We're also not doing the garter toss/bouquet toss; not having any of our parents/grandparents walk down the aisle (except for my dad with me--- I think my dad would burst into tears if I told him he couldn't walk me down the aisle!); no sand ceremonies or anything like that; and I let all of my girls choose their own dress (I did, however, choose the color.) We are NOT seeing one another before the ceremony though, and we're still going to do the first dance.

 

[Brittanyxsue]

We're doing a bouquet toss, but not a garter toss because future hubby thinks it's too disrespectful to do that in front of the family. I plan to see my future hubby before the wedding, and since we're having a lot of drama with my family we might do what Pam and Jim (The Office) did and go get married with just us before our actual ceremony. And he's wearing his ring now but our wedding isn't until July. I don't have a problem with it because he feels like since I have a ring showing I'm taken, he wants to wear his so it looks like his taken too. I found it cute so I don't have any complaints. We are very nontraditional as your can see.

 

[princess_ariel_85]

We're a little mix and match on traditional things.

We're not doing the bouquet or the garter toss.
we're not doing the first dance, I really really wanted to do one but DF 'doesn't dance' lol
We wont be seeing each other before the wedding.
We're not doing a sand ceremony
I will be having a sixpence, though not necessarily in my shoe because I'll constantly be worried about losing it.
We probably will be doing some sort of bachelor/bachelorette event (The girls are wanting to do a DP & the men..well who knows)
We're not walking down the aisle to tradional music, we've picked all disney music.