What to do?

[Tricia819]

I'm not sure what you expected to happen with this thread. Your original post spelled out all the justifications you had for doing what you're doing, but you posted it here Did you expect that no one would disagree with you. Just the fact that you were unsure about what to do means there are two sides to this issue. People here have stated their opinions. Some of them disagreed with you. That's what happens in a discussion.

It's one thing to disagree, I disagree with people on this board all the time, it's another thing to be so completely nasty about it.

 

[bluesaturn]

Since you are so quick to judge others when you know nothing of their situation, I hope you all never have any phobias that prevent you from what others think is the "right thing".

I'm sure some of these people have been in the exact same situation, which is why they can't imagine not being there. By posting on this board (or anywhere on the internet) you are going to get honest reactions.

 

[just4today]

It's one thing to disagree, I disagree with people on this board all the time, it's another thing to be so completely nasty about it.

I don't think I was nasty about it.

 

[bluesaturn]

It's one thing to disagree, I disagree with people on this board all the time, it's another thing to be so completely nasty about it.

No one was nasty. No one called her names, used bad language etc. But some things you just can't sugar-coat. She was matter of fact regarding the whole situation, so the posters replied in a matter of fact way as well.

 

[wall*e2008]

Since you seem to have "missed" my post. Are you going to the funeral? Viewings are not funerals and happen one or two days before the funeral.

 

[piney]

Since you are so quick to judge others when you know nothing of their situation, I hope you all never have any phobias that prevent you from what others think is the "right thing".

We can only draw our conclusions on the facts you gave us. In your original post I didn't see a phobia mentioned, sorry if I missed something after that.

 

[Ellester]

it was really only a time for the siblings to argue over who got what out of the house. Sad, really.[/QUOTE

It will be interesting to see if my other aunt shows up with her hand out considering she hasn't had any contact with her parents in 11 years.

Well, I'm glad it wasn't an issue after all.

I would not be surprised to see a long lost relative or two! It's amazing who can pop out of the woodwork sometimes.

I do hope you have a wonderful trip.

 

[douglisa]

This place sure has not changed much I see. Everyone deals with grief in their own way. In some areas of the world it is a happy celabration. You go to Disney and have a good time.

 

[bluesaturn]

Everyone deals with grief in their own way. In some areas of the world it is a happy celabration. You go to Disney and have a good time.

That's why she got many different opinions when she came to this message board and asked.

I would also guess that most people are shocked at her opinion of the entire situation before the death (the details of which she volunteered freely) rather than her actual decision to go to Disney after the funeral.

 

[piney]

This place sure has not changed much I see. Everyone deals with grief in their own way. In some areas of the world it is a happy celabration. You go to Disney and have a good time.

That is absolutely fine. But if you come here and ask what we think, we are going to tell you.

 

[wall*e2008]

This place sure has not changed much I see. Everyone deals with grief in their own way. In some areas of the world it is a happy celabration. You go to Disney and have a good time.

Really!!! Where is this happy place?

 

[douglisa]

Age aint nothing but a number baby.

 

[I_Know_You2!]

Uranus

Better to remain silent and be thought a fool then to speak out and remove all doubt.

Thank you Abe Lincoln...

 

[bluesaturn]

Uranus

That was incredibly rude. I really didn't think anyone needed to resort to name calling.

 

[islangrl]

That was incredibly rude. I really didn't think anyone needed to resort to name calling.

I don't think she was calling anyone names. I believe she was saying where this happy place is! I'm a catholic, and of course we mourn death, but we are also "supposed" to be happy for the deceased that they now get to return home to heaven. So we can also celebrate, respectfully of course. The day of the dead, a hispanic celebration, is just that a celebration.

 

[bluesaturn]

I don't think she was calling anyone names. I believe she was saying where this happy place is! I'm a catholic, and of course we mourn death, but we are also "supposed" to be happy for the deceased that they now get to return home to heaven. So we can also celebrate, respectfully of course. The day of the dead, a hispanic celebration, is just that a celebration.

You may missed it because some posts are missing now, but she wasn't implying heaven. I think she was telling us to shove off, which I think is rude.

 

[mjkacmom]

I don't think she was calling anyone names. I believe she was saying where this happy place is! I'm a catholic, and of course we mourn death, but we are also "supposed" to be happy for the deceased that they now get to return home to heaven. So we can also celebrate, respectfully of course. The day of the dead, a hispanic celebration, is just that a celebration.

Yep - we mourn because we are selfish. My uncle (a priest) mentioned at my grandmother's funeral that life is bootcamp, something we have to go through before we are rewarded with heaven. We don't cry much at wakes and funerals - lots of laughter though - and a trip to WDW wouldn't be frowned upon.

 

[bluesaturn]

Yep - we mourn because we are selfish. My uncle (a priest) mentioned at my grandmother's funeral that life is bootcamp, something we have to go through before we are rewarded with heaven. We don't cry much at wakes and funerals - lots of laughter though - and a trip to WDW wouldn't be frowned upon.

I'm all for celebrating a life well lived. But I'm assuming most people do this with their family members and friends. Which is not exactly the same situation the OP proposed.

And as I said before, I think many people were shocked by her attitude before the actual death more than anything.

 

[I_Know_You2!]

I don't think she was calling anyone names. I believe she was saying where this happy place is! I'm a catholic, and of course we mourn death, but we are also "supposed" to be happy for the deceased that they now get to return home to heaven. So we can also celebrate, respectfully of course. The day of the dead, a hispanic celebration, is just that a celebration.

Posts 74 and 75 both quote her childish/rude answer.

 

[I_Know_You2!]

I'm all for celebrating a life well lived. But I'm assuming most people do this with their family members and friends. Which is not exactly the same situation the OP proposed.

And as I said before, I think many people were shocked by her attitude before the actual death more than anything.

Exactly. When grandpa went to that icky old nursing home she chose to abandon him. I suspect that the family does not need her support now, either.

We have wakes in our family, life and death are both celebrated and honored. That is far different from relief that grandpa died so that she can head off to WDW with her little family.