twoprincesses
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Hey guys... It's about time for me to start making my itinerary for our up and coming New Year Disney trip. Last November we went for Thanksgiving with my mom, DH, DD 3, DD 4, and my younger sister who was 10 at the time. Since my mom was with us she helped with the expenses while I planned our days at the park. Well, this time around it's different and it's getting kind of complicated for me. Let me explain and see what some of you think.
I'm a 20 year old full-time junior in college and an at home agent. I am married with two daughters who are now 4 and 5. My husband is in the Fire Academy and currently works for my father. In a nutshell, are income isn't all that great and every penny we do earn either pays our bills or I save it for Disney. Our next trip will be a special one because it will be our children's second time and we invited two couples to join us. They are my two best buds and their boyfriends. One of my friends will be bringing their brother and the other friend's boyfriend will be bringing his brother. My two girlfriends have never gone to Disney so this is really a treat for me to share the magic with them! So, each of us will have our own little family. Here's my dilemma: The three of us girls have another good friend but we haven't invited her. We have all known her the same amount of time and we love her to death. She is getting married in a year and well, we cannot stand her fiance. We've all said that we wished we could tell her to go by herself but yeah right, like that will ever happen.... The guy is almost 24 years old and thinks its hilarious to fart, belch, and be obnoxious in public. He is very loud and will make it a point to be annoying. I do not want him around my children and I do not want to go out with him in public. However, I feel really bad that we've been keeping the trip a secret. My husband said we should just tell her the truth but I think it's easier said than done. I know if one of my good friends said they were going on a trip and they didn't want my husband to go, I would be torn up inside. But this guy is beyond immature. At first I thought it was me being unreasonable but then my other two friends addressed the situation to me and said that he was unbearable. My husband and I have really worked hard for this second trip. Going to school, saving money for a trip, and paying bills isn't an easy task. I would hate to save all this money for a trip that may be ruined by this guy. I can just see it now. Our group will be the one talked about on this message board. It's title will be "Can you believe this??" and in the post it will be about a nice family trying to have a good time at Disney but some guy had to ruin in it by breaking wind more than once in line, then laughing about it and trying to get everyone to pull his finger. UGHH! I will be mortified! What do we do?? We love this girl but we know that this guy comes first...
I'm a 20 year old full-time junior in college and an at home agent. I am married with two daughters who are now 4 and 5. My husband is in the Fire Academy and currently works for my father. In a nutshell, are income isn't all that great and every penny we do earn either pays our bills or I save it for Disney. Our next trip will be a special one because it will be our children's second time and we invited two couples to join us. They are my two best buds and their boyfriends. One of my friends will be bringing their brother and the other friend's boyfriend will be bringing his brother. My two girlfriends have never gone to Disney so this is really a treat for me to share the magic with them! So, each of us will have our own little family. Here's my dilemma: The three of us girls have another good friend but we haven't invited her. We have all known her the same amount of time and we love her to death. She is getting married in a year and well, we cannot stand her fiance. We've all said that we wished we could tell her to go by herself but yeah right, like that will ever happen.... The guy is almost 24 years old and thinks its hilarious to fart, belch, and be obnoxious in public. He is very loud and will make it a point to be annoying. I do not want him around my children and I do not want to go out with him in public. However, I feel really bad that we've been keeping the trip a secret. My husband said we should just tell her the truth but I think it's easier said than done. I know if one of my good friends said they were going on a trip and they didn't want my husband to go, I would be torn up inside. But this guy is beyond immature. At first I thought it was me being unreasonable but then my other two friends addressed the situation to me and said that he was unbearable. My husband and I have really worked hard for this second trip. Going to school, saving money for a trip, and paying bills isn't an easy task. I would hate to save all this money for a trip that may be ruined by this guy. I can just see it now. Our group will be the one talked about on this message board. It's title will be "Can you believe this??" and in the post it will be about a nice family trying to have a good time at Disney but some guy had to ruin in it by breaking wind more than once in line, then laughing about it and trying to get everyone to pull his finger. UGHH! I will be mortified! What do we do?? We love this girl but we know that this guy comes first...
OMG I totally feel for you. My FIL is the same way. I know it is very hard, and trust me if your friend finds out about this trip she will be extremely hurt she wasn't invited. Maybe you could broach the subject that it is a family with kids kind of thing. You are going on a trip centered around the children and thought she and her DF would be frustrated or bored. Of course when it comes down to it your DH is probably right. Eventually you will probably have to talk to her about your feelings. Maybe not in the context of "by the way this is why we aren't inviting you", but keep it a seperate conversation. Say hey, we really want to get to know this guy because we love you but there are certain behaviors we really can't let our children be around as you will come to find out someday when you are blessed with kids of your own. My DH actually had the convo with my FIL and I think it did hurt him a little but he makes an effort for me now. No more burping at will in public at least. Of course he tortures me with it at family dinner tables when it is just us (on purpose for daring to make him be civilized- oh well) 
