What makes a job "worth it?"

[Jey12]

Did you say your shoes were more important than your child too? Missed that. Or are you just the same poster different name? Of course there are variances in the choices and situations. I'm rather partial to inhome care, and that was what we did too. It was the best choice at the time. The fact is that the majority of group daycares are below the best standard of care.

Random "what ifs" are amusing to me. So sue me. lol. (lawsuits aren't funny either, are they?) The OP isn't living that situation, if it occurred she would by necessity have to deal with it. Just like the choices would change if she passed, they won the lottery or whatever life brings.

I am not any other poster but myself. I also am not so arrogant to think that because I didn't feel some of the group daycare facilities were good for my child that they aren't for someone else's. My own isn't always the best way for everyone but it works for us.

I'm glad hypothetical situations are amusing to you. Personally I'd find another form of entertainment. I find nothing amusing watching my mother struggle to keep her head above water right now after the loss of my father a month ago. To me finding humor in what is a very real reality for many people is not funny even if it is discussed hypothetically.

To the OP I am glad you are enjoying class. I went back to school to finish my bachelor degree last year and it's been a struggle to manage the extra load but it has been rather rewarding. I decided to take online courses just because finding time to physically attend class would have been next to impossible. I'm sure you will do wonderful and wish you the best!

As for not trying to start an argument I don't think that's possible on this board. I'm rather new around here and am stunned at how many people seem to use these boards as their platform to take out their anger and frustrations. I don't think I'd even attempt to start a thread about anything on this board. By page two I'd be living in a shoe with so many children I wouldn't know what to do.

 

[DVCLiz]

The majority of mothers work so this overwhelming fear of daycare aside, most children go to daycare.

My career is worth it to me. I didn't go to school for 6 years to sit at home and watch the degree brown. I love being with DD but i also love the kids i work with. My position is happy, sad, complex, easy all in 8 hours. I know its worth it because when i get up in the am, i can't wait to get there. I want to interact with the people. I love having the same schedule as DH and summers /holidays off at the same time as well.

NOW if i wasn't making a significant amount more than I needed for childcare and my frivolous materialistic on the whim purchases ( like the Tory Burch ballet flats i scored today at NM) and feeling that way every am, it WOULD NOT be worth it to me.

Did you say your shoes were more important than your child too? Missed that. Or are you just the same poster different name? Of course there are variances in the choices and situations. I'm rather partial to inhome care, and that was what we did too. It was the best choice at the time. The fact is that the majority of group daycares are below the best standard of care.

Random "what ifs" are amusing to me. So sue me. lol. (lawsuits aren't funny either, are they?) The OP isn't living that situation, if it occurred she would by necessity have to deal with it. Just like the choices would change if she passed, they won the lottery or whatever life brings.

I'm sorry, I'm missing the part where she said her shoes were more important than her child. Could you point that out to me?

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

For someone who doesn't believe in judging you are quite good at it.

I don't have a problem with daycare, but you seem to be missing this. You do what you have to. But the idea that all daycares are peachy keen has been proven wrong again and again. That was my only point. Touchy!

I have had a child die. I know that life throws all kinds of stuff. But for random strangers to be questioning someone about the what ifs is amusing. Now, people want to know if she has life insurance. Again. Touchy!

 

[Jey12]

For someone who doesn't believe in judging you are quite good at it.

I don't have a problem with daycare, but you seem to be missing this. You do what you have to. But the idea that all daycares are peachy keen has been proven wrong again and again. That was my only point. Touchy!

I have had a child die. I know that life throws all kinds of stuff. But for random strangers to be questioning someone about the what ifs is amusing. Now, people want to know if she has life insurance. Again. Touchy!

Nevermind. You have a nice day.

 

[ilovepete]

Not to drag the thread off topic, but what would your DH do if you (heaven forbid!) died? Do you have life insurance on you, so your DH can afford to provide child care while he works? This is often overlooked when one spouse is a SAHP. They insure the one that works but not the one that stays at home. If something happens to you, your DH will need to hire a nanny or find outside care, and may need to hire a cleaning service, lawn care service, etc. since he won't have help around the house anymore, either.

Hi, very good point! Yes, we do. Dh's work had an option to insure the spouse as well. Actually I think if that were to happen, my mom would probably watch the kids so it would be to compensate her (she does not live here and isn't here often so she would have to move). So, not ideal, but it's our best solution.

A lot of people do not think of that though, I totally agree, it's very important to consider!

 

[ilovepete]

We are cool.

I think those of us who truly get a choice on whether to be WOHM or SAHMs are the luckiest - because we get a choice and can do what is best for our individual situations. So many people don't have a choice. They HAVE to work. Or they are in a situation where they HAVE to stay at home even though they'd rather work. Those of us who get to choose, we may have a few regrets, we may miss out and sometimes think the grass is greener over there - but we got to choose.

That is totally true. I feel very lucky to be able to have that choice. Every day I am thankful for that!