What is your opinion of vow renewals?

[Lanshark]

Can it be done online

 

[Piecey]

I've got to know, why are they leaving out the consonants?

Because I'm an idiot.

You know, I've been typing that for weeks KNOWING it looked wrong but thinking it was renewal.

My brain has gone POOF! these last few weeks.

 

[scrump]

I think vow renewals are cool - vow renewals with registries are just tacky.

 

[mhsjax]

Just a pointless Friday question.

I'm not a fan of them. If it's a private moment for the couple, with just the two of them, that's one thing. But a 2nd wedding doesn't do it for me. I was invited to one recently, complete with gift registry information (TACKY!), and politely declined. I was at the actual wedding 5 years ago and don't feel the need to see these people dress up and get married again.

Thoughts?

Wow, I am all for vow renewals, I have always wanted to do one. HOWEVER, I NEVER once thought about asking for gifts, I just thought of it as a big party, only with us dressed up as the bride and groom, Not once did asking for gifts enter my mind. And no if I was invited to one, I wouldn't bring a gift.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I think they are really nice. If a couple is together for like 50 years they should be celebrated. Divorce is so prevalent these days that it is nice to see a couple who really are still happy. For me, I would love to do a vow renewal at WDW. Of course I only want me and dh and our kids there. Very private and there is no way in heck I would even consider a registry. That is beyond tacky.

 

[mhsjax]

I think they are really nice. If a couple is together for like 50 years they should be celebrated. Divorce is so prevalent these days that it is nice to see a couple who really are still happy. For me, I would love to do a vow renewal at WDW. Of course I only want me and dh and our kids there. Very private and there is no way in heck I would even consider a registry. That is beyond tacky.

I have been married for almost 25 years. I had a very traditional wedding, so for my vow renewal I would love to fly out to Las Vegas and do it at some cheesy marriage place, just for fun. That is what my father wanted us to do, and then just give us the money he spent on the wedding. So maybe for the 2nd time I will grant his wish. lol

 

[mickeyboat]

I will never do one, DH does not believe in them. My parents celebrated their 25th just a few days before my wedding, and they renewed their vows as part of our ceremony. They divorced less than 5 years later.

 

[ols386]

I think vow renewals are fine if that's what the couple chooses, but to have a vow renewal after only 5 years of marriage, and then give information about gift registry is kind of tacky, especially when the op said she attended the wedding, only 5 years ago. Sounds like they want free stuff.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I have been married for almost 25 years. I had a very traditional wedding, so for my vow renewal I would love to fly out to Las Vegas and do it at some cheesy marriage place, just for fun. That is what my father wanted us to do, and then just give us the money he spent on the wedding. So maybe for the 2nd time I will grant his wish. lol

OMG! Me too!!! I want the WDW renewal because I always wanted to get married there but it was not an option for us. (Our family would not have been able to come) If we do a second renewal I want to go to the Little White Wedding Chapel and get married by an Elvis impersonator!

 

[tzolkin]

My parents renewed their vows for their 18th anniversary. They had been married for half their lives at that point. It was a very nice private ceremony in a tiny chapel-- just the priest and their kids.

The gift thing is just unbelievable to me.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Sorry I think they're stupid. DH and I will be married 19 years this year. One of my friends said , Oh are you and hubby going to renew your vows next year?

I said huh? Marrying him once, is enough for me.

 

[mhsjax]

Sorry I think they're stupid. DH and I will be married 19 years this year. One of my friends said , Oh are you and hubby going to renew your vows next year?

I said huh? Marrying him once, is enough for me.

Well call me sappy, but after 25 years, I would marry him over and over and over again and again. So you can think they are stupid, but I think they are wonderful expressions of love, as long as you don't ask for gifts.

 

[mhsjax]

I think vow renewals are fine if that's what the couple chooses, but to have a vow renewal after only 5 years of marriage, and then give information about gift registry is kind of tacky, especially when the op said she attended the wedding, only 5 years ago. Sounds like they want free stuff.

I agree

 

[C.Ann]

I don't know.. I think it's a personal decision..

 

[Buckalew11]

Because I'm an idiot.

You know, I've been typing that for weeks KNOWING it looked wrong but thinking it was renewal.

My brain has gone POOF! these last few weeks.

Babies suck the brains right out of ya...get used to it, . A Reese cup will fix it all!!

 

[Buckalew11]

I think they are sorta nuts unless one of you has broken your vows or, like Binny, you had special circumstances the first time around. I think what she and her DH did was sweet.

That said, if DH offered for us to renew at WDW, anywhere on property, I do it anyway.

 

[JayhawkMomma]

We're talking about doing it for our ten year anniversary. Ours will be a teensy bit different however. We did the church wedding with the white pouffy dress and tuxes. Our vow renewal will be in Vegas and be tacky as possible. Either Elvis will marry us or we will be married in the drive-thru. We figure we still love each other and we would love those pictures so why not? Some friends have expressed interest in coming just because it sounds like fun.

 

[RangerPooh]

Our vow renewal will be in Vegas and be tacky as possible.

Why not have it be fun? I asked DH if he wanted to do it when we were there last year but he just starred at me.

 

[SanFranciscan]

My husband once wanted to register us to win a chance to renew our vows on a radio show. I thought that that was nuts. He likes being the center of attention, which is fine with me as long as I don't have to do be too. It makes me uncomfortable.

We went to Reno, just him and me when we got married almost 24 years ago. I preferred that to having a bunch of people there. I felt a little sad for him because he told me before we were married that he had promised himself that if he ever married anybody he would go to Lake Tahoe with certain friends of his that he wanted to be his best man etc. Yet I was so grateful that he backed off of that plan. Even my in-laws, who never seem to like anybody, including each other, have told each other that I am a good wife. I am still certain that I would not have been a good bride the first time and have no desire to try it for a belated wedding in the form of vow renewals.

 

[binny]

No personal experience with renewals here--- but i always here that renewing your vows is like signing divorce papers...
Ive heard of many people going through the entire big process again (Big gathering, big ta-da, and boom- big bills, big long divorce settlement, etc, etc).

I don't think I will ever be doing it (although i did like the idea just after my wedding-- i suppose i was in a slump from disney wedding planning or something). Now-- id say our marriage is just fine. If we did renew our vows, it would be very small, very intimate, and very private. No major fiasco..

no divorce here Our vow renewal was 5 years ago and we are going strong .

Actually I dont think I really know anyone else who has done one so I can only go from personal experience.