In our family, the jellied salads are definitely served alongside the main meal. I don't know why that is, as they really are nothing but desserts. The "family recipe" from my husband's side is lime Jello, cream cheese, Dream Whip, and crushed pineapple. On my side of the family, we kept things simple and just went with the can of drained fruit cocktail stirred into cherry Jello. Those things just went on your plate right alongside the turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, and cranberry sauce. I can see why it would be weird to people that hadn't grown up with it.