What is the etiquette for this situation? Belated honeymoon and anniversary.

[AllyandJack]

I am going to WDW with my best friend. We've known each other since high school. She got married in May, but for financial reasons hasn't been able to take her honeymoon. So, this September trip will be her honeymoon, for all intents and purposes. We were planning on going back for our 2nd anniversary, but decided to postpone it and go with them instead. We still consider this our anniversary trip, despite the late date.

What is the etiquette for Ear Wearing? My friend's DH says that he won't wear the ears unless my DH wears them because if he can have a late honeymoon, we can have a late anniversary. I just feel funny since it's not my REAL anniversary. I was thinking of a compromise and maybe getting that headband with the little bride and groom ears on them.

We're already planning something special to acknowledge their honeymoon (at theWhispering Canyon....need I say more?), but they think it would be cute if the 4 of us did the ears thing, even if it is for different reasons.

I guess I'm just uncomfortable since my anniversary will have passed about a month before. I mean...my b-day is in June and I wouldn't go around saying it was my b-day trip in August, right??

What is the etiquette for celebrating things that are a bit removed from the actual date?? Has anyone celebrated an anniversary even though you weren't there on the exact date??

 

[Skylarr29]

I do know that there was a similar thread to this on the weddings and honeymoons board. There aren't that many pages of threads and should be easy for you to find. Try looking there. I don't think there is a problem with wearing them .

 

[Bojangles]

Originally posted by AllyandJack
Has anyone celebrated an anniversary even though you weren't there on the exact date??

No. If it were a matter of a day or two, then maybe...but months? If you feel comfortable having CM's and other guests wishing you "happy anniversary" or "happy honeymoon" when it was a couple of months ago, then go ahead.

 

[llij]

I say "Go for it!"

Since your intent for your trip is to celebrate your anniversary and your friends honeymoon, then I don't see any problem wearing the bride and groom ears. Go ahead and have a wonderful time celebrating!

 

[Fire14]

If it makes you feel better My Dh and i are wearing the ears for our anv. trip.

 

[CamColt]

I know Im in the minority on this, but I dont believe in celebrating a day unless it actually is the day. Yes, if you can only go out a few days before or after and you want to celebrate within your family thats fine, but I wouldnt go advertising it was my birthday or anniversary when it wasnt. I think that takes away from people who really are celebrating those days. In reality everyone could celebrate a birthday or anniversary every day...we all have them.
We were going to let DS wear a birthday button last year, 2 days after his actual birthday, when we got to WDW. When it came down to it, we all felt silly about it so he didnt.

But, like I said, Im in the minority and know plenty of people do, do that, so if you are comfortable with it, go for it.

 

[goofy4tink]

I had my 55th b-day this week and we'll be in WDW in 2 weeks. When I turned 50, I went to WDW 3 months after and celebrated then. Going to do the same thing this time. But, I'm not wearing any birthday buttons or making it known in any way. It's just a personal thing with me. I figure that if it's around the day or event then it's okay. But too far removed and I don't do it. But, that's just me. If you want to then go ahead and do it. It's all about what someone is comfortable with.

 

[SnackyStacky]

Originally posted by goofy4tink
If you want to then go ahead and do it. It's all about what someone is comfortable with.

ITA!

 

[lisaes]

I say if the purpose of your trip is to celebrate that occasion, go for it! We had our honeymoon at WDW a month or so after our wedding. Had I known about the "ears" I would have worn them without a second thought.

 

[Cinderella37]

I think you should do exactly what you want without feeling funny about it. It's your anniversary trip (only a month belated); it's not like you're pretending. Wear them and have a great time!

 

[Mymatisse]

If you want to wear ears because you are celebrating your special occassions then wear the ears! I don't understand why this should be such a big deal! We aren't going on our honeymoon until a whole week after our wedding. Does this mean that it's not our "official celebration trip?" Heck no!

I personally think the ONLY people who may be offended are those who ONLY focus on the so-called "perks" or special treatment you MAY receive while wearing ears.

Wear your ears proud and have fun!

 

[dansyr]

I say go for it.
We are celebrating my dbf's birthday on our upcoming trip. His bd is actually the week before but since neither of us can get off that week we will be celebrating on our trip.

 

[Davids-Coco]

If it is an anniversary trip or honeymoon, then go for it... but have the right mentality about it.

What bothers me are people who wear them with the thought of "I might get something out of this!" Wear them because you are celebrating, not for greed reasons.

 

[AllyandJack]

Thanks everyone!

The four of us are still discussing the Ears Scenario. We were thinking of taking the advice of some people on the other thread in the Weddings & Honeymoons area. We were going to write something on one ear ("still celebtrating" or something) and write "2 Years" on the other ear. We're trying to come up with something catchy for the newlyweds like "recently married" instead of "just married". That way, there is no confusion about what exactly we are all celebrating.

The reason we are thinking about the ears is because we thought it would make cute pictures. This could be our last big celebration with just the 4 of us before we have kids and we thought the pictures from this trip would be great if we wore the ears in celebration. As for perks....the only perks I encountered when we were married down there were in restaurants and we always took the ears off indoors. Since the concierge made the reservations, they always knew anyway, but we never wore them in the restaurants and don't intend to this time either. Truth be told, the ears are uncomfortable and require bobby pins, etc. and I'd rather wear the headband over my baseball hat! It's more low key and easier to manage.

I think that it's almost impossible to celebrate something on the day it actually happens. Life happens and whether it's financial reasons or kids or work or whatever, you have to celebrate when you get the chance and there is nothing wrong with it as long as you're not doing it to take advantage of the wonderful CMs who will give a little extra to acknowledge your celebration, whether they write Congratulations on your dessert or simply come up and say Hi!!

 

[puffkin]

On our honeymoon a few weeks ago, we wore the bride and groom pins with Mickey and Minnie on them. We got lots of congratulations and such, so they were definitely noticed. My DH and I find the ears to be somewhat obnoxious, but that is just our own personal opinion, I know others LOVE them. So, if you have any hesitations about the ears, I would consider the pins as an alternative.

 

[two-foxes]

We were married in June and took our WDW honeymoon in Oct....for financial reasons and for sanity reasons (I will not go to WDW in the summer until we are forced to when we have kids!) Although we didn't wear the mouse ears, we still were celebrating our Honeymoon and we were given cards at restuarants and had "Happy Honeymoon" sang to us at dinner on DCL. It made it so special! Celebrate it! It is the reason you are going!