What is a "presentation" shower? MYSTERY SOLVED!

[sunlover13]

I rec'd an invite for a friend's wedding shower that says:

You are invited to a "presentation" shower for ...............

What is a presentation shower? I tried google and found nothing.

The only thing I found was someone asking if it was a polite way to say money shower???? I don't think that's it b/c the invite listed where they were registered.

Anyone?

 

[glitterkittyy]

Interesting. The first thing I thought was a shower with a slideshow and/or some other presentation/speech/etc.

Quick, call the RSVP number and ask. I gotta know now. lol

 

[sunlover13]

Interesting. The first thing I thought was a shower with a slideshow and/or some other presentation/speech/etc.

Quick, call the RSVP number and ask. I gotta know now. lol

I know! I want to know too! I'm about to ask the bride if someone here doesn't know.

 

[Imzadi]

Maybe it's to let you know your gift is going to be presented to the bride in front of everyone else, so it had better be good (and it had better be a lot.)

 

[Jennasis]

Is it for someone who has just had a baby? Maybe they are "presenting" the newborn for the world to see at the party?

 

[sunlover13]

Maybe it's to let you know your gift is going to be presented to the bride in front of everyone else, so it had better be good (and it had better be a lot.)

Could be! I better make sure I get something good then.

Is it for someone who has just had a baby? Maybe they are "presenting" the newborn for the world to see at the party?

Nope, no baby.

 

[Ember]

"Presentation" is a way of asking for money gifts only. I am shocked there are people out there who consider this acceptable. Why not just charge admission?

Very rude people will put this on their wedding invitations. I always make sure people like this get an engraved toaster, preferably a $10 version from Wal-Mart that is guaranteed to not work in two weeks. I engrave it with the classy phrase "A Toast to the Bride and Groom." I figure greedy people deserve what they get.

 

[DSNY4ever]

OMG! I was checking in to find out what it was...but a money only shower!?! What is this world coming to?!? I would never bring money to a shower. I love watching the gift opening time at showers, I love to see what my friends and relatives have picked out for their home...and giggling (on the inside) when the bride opens a gift that is horrible. I love to see what new "must have" kitchen gadgets are out now and then our grandmas all say silly things like "well look at that! I remember when we had to get the pits out ourselves".... Ahh good times.

 

[CookieDiva]

"Presentation" is a way of asking for money gifts only.

Really? How tacky, imo. I would think that there is no need for the shower if the only thing needed it money.

Perhaps *I* need a presentation shower.

 

[Imzadi]

when the bride opens a gift that is horrible.

I guess this is what they are hoping to avoid. Also, if the bride & groom are old enough to have lived on their own for a while, most people have the basic necessities. In this ecomony of firings, lay-offs and lost stock & savings, it kind of makes sense to ask for money that can be used in more sensible ways. Who wants to be looking at a third blender, when you know that money could have paid part of the gas bill instead?

What I still don't get is why it's called a "presentation" shower? WHAT are they presenting? Just a check?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Maybe it's to let you know your gift is going to be presented to the bride in front of everyone else, so it had better be good (and it had better be a lot.)

That is exactly what I thought.

 

[rabx5]

"Presentation" is a way of asking for money gifts only. I am shocked there are people out there who consider this acceptable. Why not just charge admission?

Ya learn something new everyday. I had no idea. Yes, quite tacky

 

[DSNY4ever]

I guess this is what they are hoping to avoid.

Oh I know...most of these "humourous" memories have been killed by registries But I like knowing I got them something they wanted. I rarely go to a shower now where someone has bought something that wasn't on the registry (which can sometimes make is a little boring because you saw it all when you were shopping for them). Giving money for a couple that needs it is fine- but them asking for it seems a little rude.

 

[sunlover13]

But they put where they are registered on the invitation????

It says so and so are registered at Target and Bed, Bath, & Beyond.

So, I know it is not a "money" shower.

The couple is a little older and already own a house so it does make sense that they do not need a lot. I haven't checked out their registries yet to see if there is a lot on there or not.

I still don't think it is a money shower only though b/c of the registry info. Why not just say gift cards and monies towards a honeymoon are accepted or something along those lines.

I honestly do not think anyone is going to know what a "presention" shower is if it is in fact a money shower.

 

[Cindy B]

Maybe they are presenting the money on a silver platter ..

Or they could be presenting the money in a big ol' envelope

Or they could be presenting the money in a creative way like a wishing well or a money tree?

 

[rabx5]

But they put where they are registered on the invitation????

It says so and so are registered at Target and Bed, Bath, & Beyond.

So, I know it is not a "money" shower.

The couple is a little older and already own a house so it does make sense that they do not need a lot. I haven't checked out their registries yet to see if there is a lot on there or not.

I still don't think it is a money shower only though b/c of the registry info. Why not just say gift cards and monies towards a honeymoon are accepted or something along those lines.

I honestly do not think anyone is going to know what a "presention" shower is if it is in fact a money shower.

Now we're confused again

 

[sunlover13]

Ok, so I just checked out their Target registry and there is a lot of stuff on there. I'm so confused!

I might just ask her tonight. I bowl with her and after a couple of drinks, I'll just ask.

I just hope it is not a money shower and I don't let on how tacky I think that is...............

 

[Imzadi]

Well, I got intrigued so I Googled to see if I could come up with more explanations. What I found was another DIS thread. It's kind of like going in circles and landing back at the DIS.

Anyway, in this DIS thread, the poster IS bringing money ala a gift card and she was asking for creative ways to present the card, other than simply handing over a card. Maybe it's about finding creative, non-tacky ways to give money that they are requesting they'd rather have instead of a gift item.

Here's the link to that thread:
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2007489

OP, DO ask her what she thinks a presentation shower is.

 

[sunlover13]

I wonder if we are supposed to "present" our gifts. I hope not. I might have plans that day.

I'm going to ask her tonight.

I'll give you all the answer tomorrow. Try not to lose too much sleep over it.

 

[Ember]

But they put where they are registered on the invitation????

It says so and so are registered at Target and Bed, Bath, & Beyond.

So, I know it is not a "money" shower.

The couple is a little older and already own a house so it does make sense that they do not need a lot. I haven't checked out their registries yet to see if there is a lot on there or not.

I still don't think it is a money shower only though b/c of the registry info. Why not just say gift cards and monies towards a honeymoon are accepted or something along those lines.

I honestly do not think anyone is going to know what a "presention" shower is if it is in fact a money shower.

A registry was included so that if you were to go against the mothers wishes and bring an actual gift you would know what to buy. I do promise that "presentation" means to give money.

Edited to add: Other "polite" ways people try to ask for money include: "wishing well" and "no boxed gifts." Sometimes there will be a "cute" poem about how they have everything they need but a withdrawal from your bank account would be appreciated. Sorry, I don't mean to be snarky but people who demand gifts and then include instructions on what is acceptable are huge pet peeve of mine.