bumcat, was we raised by the same parents?
I give them both f-. The only good thing I can say about dad was he did provide money for the family (food clothes that type of thing) .
The both drank quite a bit when i was under 10 years old and fight like cats and dogs. (Dad used to beat the crap out of mom, but in all honestly she egged it on with her bi*ching, did not know when to shut her mouth) For instance, Christmas would start off great with plenty of gifts, but then the fights would begin. Mom was and still is a constant nagger. They divorced when I was 16, mom went on welfare and dad did not pay child support for me or my little brother (only two under age total of 5 of us)
Now as an adult, I have been married 16 years and have a 10 year old DD (which is an angel) Dad has not seen her since she was 4 years old. He has missed so much but by his choice, never tried to keep her away from him. Mom on the other hand, collects her disablity check and drinks it away with the younger brother than want money for food.
To be honest they raised five lazy kids. Three doesn't work and one just started to work a couple months ago at age 39.
Luckloy at 16 I moved out and started my own live, trying to be the best mom possible (but afraid I have spoiled too much)