What do your dil/sil's call you?

[Tiggeroo]

We just had two engagements. I was never given a proper name to call my mil and don't want to do that. I just don't know what is good. I always thought we would go with mom and dad. But my future sil recently lost his mom. I don't want to upset him by suggesting this. Any ideas?

 

[TifffanyD]

From the other side of the fence, I call my mil and fil by their first names. I would feel really uncomfortable calling them mom and dad - and wouldn't do it - so I'm glad they didn't try to suggest that. I am fine, of course, if they sign cards to the 2 of us with mom & dad. My husband calls my mom by her first name as well.

 

[1Mouse2RulethemAll]

We just had two engagements. I was never given a proper name to call my mil and don't want to do that. I just don't know what is good. I always thought we would go with mom and dad. But my future sil recently lost his mom. I don't want to upset him by suggesting this. Any ideas?

Because I have children, I address my MIL by Yiayia, which is greek for grandmother. I also use her first name before the kids arrived.


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[padams]

Dh and I call our ILs by their first names. Dh's parents are divorced and remarried. He calls his stepparents by their first names. It would be odd for me to call the step Ils by their first names and the blood ILs by a different name so everyone is called by first names. DMil had wanted to be called Mrs. Last name.

 

[shoney]

I call my MIL/FIL by their first names and my DH calls my parents by their first names as well.

 

[The Wise One]

It varies. I sometimes call my MIL by her first name, sometimes I call her mom. Before my FIL passed I always called him dad and it was fine because I always called my father "daddy" so there was no confusion.

 

[S. C.]

I have one that calls me Mom, and an ex inlaw that calls me nevermind

 

[crashbb]

Their first names.

Like your soon-to-be SIL, my mother died (though much longer ago than his), but I'd feel just as weird calling my FIL, "dad".

 

[Illuminations_Rocks]

First names. Same w/ DH and my parents. I already have a mom and dad and I would have been offended if these people I barely knew expected me to call them that right off the bat. But I was the third child-in-law (by 7 years) and none of the other IL's call them anything other than their first names, or Grandma/Grandpa.

 

[Coconut36]

From the other side of the fence, I call my mil and fil by their first names. I would feel really uncomfortable calling them mom and dad - and wouldn't do it - so I'm glad they didn't try to suggest that. I am fine, of course, if they sign cards to the 2 of us with mom & dad. My husband calls my mom by her first name as well.

Same here. I call my IL by their first names..wouldn't call them Mom or Dad even if suggested. My DH calls my parents (who he loves and is very close to) by their first names. My parents called their IL by first name as well.

My SIL I simply call by her first name..I am not sure what other "title" a SIL would get other than being called by name..maybe it is different regionally? When speaking about her to the children we call her Aunt First Name and have them address her that way. Of her 3 kids only 1 consistently calls me Aunt First name (and none of them really know anyone but me..DH and I started dating when they were 4, 2 and one not even born yet).

 

[fairestoneofall]

i wanted to use first names, but my MIL insist i had to call them mom/dad. i just can't do that. so, they were Mom M and Dad M if i HAD to call them by a name. thankfully, now that i have kids, i call them grandma and grandpa.

 

[Chelley00]

thankfully, now that i have kids, i call them grandma and grandpa.

That's what I call my ILs. Grandma and Papaw. I've always called them by their first name, and occasionally throw out a sarcastic "mom" or "dad" if they are treating me like a kid, which considering they've known me since I was 9 years old, happens a lot!

 

[AmyLand98]

I had always called my MIL and FIL Mom and Dad and my husband calls my parents Mom and Dad. After we got engaged my FIL came to me and said, "We would really like you to call us Mom & Dad but if you would be more comfortable not that is fine too." If you want them to call you Mom and Dad I would take approach and just say, we would like it but if you don't that is fine.

 

[mjantz]

I married into a family where my in-laws already had grandchildren so I pretty much just use Grandma & Grandpa. Occasionally first names if we are on the phone but rarely. I don't like Mom & Dad as I have a mom & dad.
My husband calls my parents by their first names. I don't think they mind at all.

 

[marybet]

I call mine by their first names. They never asked me to call them Mom and Dad, I sometimes think my MIL would like that but I don't think of her like that and could never call her Mom. Don't think my FIL would ever want me to call him Dad!

I finally got a DIL in 2009, she calls me by my first name and that is fine. The thing I don't like is when she sends a gift she addresses it Mom/Marybet. I think a gift from the two of them should just be addressed to Mom. When I send something to MIL from the two of us I always just use Mom since she is his mother. I had hoped when my son married that his wife would like me, didn't happen. I guess I shouldn't have told her that people coming to a bridal shower expect to see the gifts opened.

 

[jrmasm]

We just had two engagements. I was never given a proper name to call my mil and don't want to do that. I just don't know what is good. I always thought we would go with mom and dad. But my future sil recently lost his mom. I don't want to upset him by suggesting this. Any ideas?

Why not ask what they would be comfortable calling you?

I could never call my in laws mom and dad but some people are comfortable doing so.

 

[dzorn]

We just had two engagements. I was never given a proper name to call my mil and don't want to do that. I just don't know what is good. I always thought we would go with mom and dad. But my future sil recently lost his mom. I don't want to upset him by suggesting this. Any ideas?

Mom, Pop when refering them to the kids, granny & papa

Denise in MI

 

[Stitchfans]

First names.

 

[Pigeon]

I call my inlaws by their first names. They wanted me to call them mom and dad. Not happening--I had a mom and dad.

Then my MIL, who used to be pretty uptight about things, wanted me to call her Mother-in-law. Isn't that warm and cozy. Her own friends made fun of her about that.

She wasn't happy with me calling them by their first names, but she never came up with a better alternative. She's gotten over it over the last 30 years.

My SILs don't call them anything. They dance around the issue which is ridiculous.

 

[Hrhpd]

We just had two engagements. I was never given a proper name to call my mil and don't want to do that. I just don't know what is good. I always thought we would go with mom and dad. But my future sil recently lost his mom. I don't want to upset him by suggesting this. Any ideas?

I called my inlaws by their first names.

I would have been supremely uncomfortable calling them Mom and Dad as I already had a Mom and Dad.

Lucky for me, they were perfectly ok with their first names. If they had insisted on Mom and Dad, we would have had a communication problem as I would never have been able to address them directly. It would have been a lot of catching their attention and then talking to them.