What do you wear to this wedding?

[ilovesugar]

My nephew is getting married this summer and the location is making it kind of hard to pick clothing styles.

He is getting married up north, at a cabin on the lake. Not a huge fancy cabin, a cabin. There will be plastic chairs set up in the sand down by the lake where the ceremony will be held. After the ceremony they want everyone to load onto about 20 pontoons and take a one hour drive around the lake (which we will not be doing with an infant). Then dinner is up on the driveway of the cabin under a tent.

I asked what we were supposed to wear and the only answer I can get is "it's formal". That just seems wrong. It is the middle of August, outside all day long in god knows what kind of weather (apparently they have no back-up plan), in dirt and sand and you want us to wear formal clothes?

What would you do? Would you just wear something nice yet comfortable, or would you just suck it up and go the formal route?

 

[Handbag Lady]

My nephew is getting married this summer and the location is making it kind of hard to pick clothing styles.

He is getting married up north, at a cabin on the lake. Not a huge fancy cabin, a cabin. There will be plastic chairs set up in the sand down by the lake where the ceremony will be held. After the ceremony they want everyone to load onto about 20 pontoons and take a one hour drive around the lake (which we will not be doing with an infant). Then dinner is up on the driveway of the cabin under a tent.

I asked what we were supposed to wear and the only answer I can get is "it's formal". That just seems wrong. It is the middle of August, outside all day long in god knows what kind of weather (apparently they have no back-up plan), in dirt and sand and you want us to wear formal clothes?

What would you do? Would you just wear something nice yet comfortable, or would you just suck it up and go the formal route?

I would wear a light cocktail dress and slingback sandals and have a matching sweater. For the menfolk, I'd do a Tommy Bahama style outfit. I would not wear a tie, but I might put one in a pocket just in case.

I can't see wearing a suit or even a tuxedo on a boat like that.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I would wear a nice cotton or linen sundress. Nice enough to be dressy but still can go casual and allows you to stay cool. For the gents I would go with dockers type pants, a dress shirt and tie and blazer. Remove the blazer and tie and roll up the sleeves when you can. This is not as formal as I would go for an evening wedding indoors but I think it is plenty dressy for the location. I agree "formal" is a bit much for what they are doing. Maybe the define formal differently than I do

 

[DSNY4ever]

I agree completely with the suggestions above. They may be saying "formal" just so people realize they still need to dress nice.

We had a day time wedding at a winery/garden estate and people seemed to think that because it was a noon wedding that it was okay to wear a pair of shorts and a polo... it wasn't. I certainly wasn't expecting tuxes and diamonds, but a nice dress for women and some slacks and a blazer for men is appropriate for any daytime/ less formal type wedding.

This sounds like a fun wedding- have a good time!

 

[focusondisney]

I'd wear just what you said: something nice but comfortable. Probably a nice cotton sundress or skirt &light top, nicer flip flop type sandals. Hubby would wear dockers with a nice short sleeved cotton button down shirt with good boat shoes.

Outdoors at an average cabin with a pontoon boat ride is not formal. "Formal" to me means high heels with pantyhose, more make up & jewelry, long sleeved sirt with suit & tie for DH. No way would I be wearing all that at an average cabin in the summer. I'd melt 5 mins. after I got out of my air conditioned car!


Don't know what "up north" means but if I thought it might get cool after sunset, I'd also bring a light sweater.


Don't forget to come back after the wedding & let us know how everyone was dressed!

 

[Heidict]

Formal? Are they crazy? We just went to a wedding this weekend that sounds like the exact duplicate of what your nephews wedding will be.

On the lake, sand, metal and plastic chairs and a pontoon. I can't imagine doing all that with formal clothes on. Ours was casual so most of us came in nice shorts and shirts. (we were told by the bride and groom that to wear shorts) A few of the older men wore dockers and some women wore sundresses, but that was as formal as it got. Does he expect you to walk in the sand in heels? Most of the people last weekend just took off their shoes and went barefoot.

If I were you, I would opt for a light sundress and sandals and for your poor hubby, I would say dockers and a shirt along with a coat and tie.

 

[JessicaR]

For the scenario you described these dresses sound like options! I love linen and most of these can be considered elegant enough for a lake wedding. Sounds like fun! Hope you have a great time.

 

[focusondisney]

I agree completely with the suggestions above. They may be saying "formal" just so people realize they still need to dress nice.

We had a day time wedding at a winery/garden estate and people seemed to think that because it was a noon wedding that it was okay to wear a pair of shorts and a polo... it wasn't. I certainly wasn't expecting tuxes and diamonds, but a nice dress for women and some slacks and a blazer for men is appropriate for any daytime/ less formal type wedding.

This sounds like a fun wedding- have a good time!

See a winery/ garden estate venue sounds like a nicer more "formal" location than an average cabin on a lake with plastic chairs & a pontoon boat ride. I would definately dress nicer for a wedding in that venue. Maybe I'm stereotyping but "garden estate" sounds formal & dressy. "Cabin on a lake" sounds casual.

 

[minniecarousel]

Yeah - I'd go with a sundress and flat sandals. DH wouldn't be bringing a tie, in this case either. He would wear nice light-colored slacks and a casual shirt. Sorry - no way is this formal!

Younger DS & DDIL chose a brewery for their wedding. My sis-in-law wanted to know if her 10 year old sons could wear shorts & T-shirts. I said "NO", as there would be family pix being taken. I was OK with them changing once the pix were done. gee - just because it's at a brewery, doesn't mean we're slobs!

 

[Heidict]

Yeah - I'd go with a sundress and flat sandals. DH wouldn't be bringing a tie, in this case either. He would wear nice light-colored slacks and a casual shirt. Sorry - no way is this formal!

Younger DS & DDIL chose a brewery for their wedding. My sis-in-law wanted to know if her 10 year old sons could wear shorts & T-shirts. I said "NO", as there would be family pix being taken. I was OK with them changing once the pix were done. gee - just because it's at a brewery, doesn't mean we're slobs!

What, you mean keg stands where part of the atmosphere?

 

[ilovesugar]

See a winery/ garden estate venue sounds like a nicer more "formal" location than an average cabin on a lake with plastic chairs & a pontoon boat ride. I would definately dress nicer for a wedding in that venue. Maybe I'm stereotyping but "garden estate" sounds formal & dressy. "Cabin on a lake" sounds casual.

That is what I think too. A winery is totally different than a cabin in the woods.

I have a 6 year old boy who is going to want to goof around with the other kids in the dirt, sand and woods. I don't want to buy him a nice new outfit only to have it get all dirty. And summer here is hot and humid, I would think that the bride and groom would want people to be comfortable.

When I got married I could'nt care less what people wore, I just was honored they came. Heck, I had what some would consider a pretty formal wedding and had people show up in jeans. Who cares? I would rather people be comfortable and have fun than feel uncomfortable and not themselves. But that is just me.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Okay, where is this dress from? I have been looking for something like this dress for some time. I was hoping for a solid color but I like this one? Nordstroms?

 

[focusondisney]

That is what I think too. A winery is totally different than a cabin in the woods.

I have a 6 year old boy who is going to want to goof around with the other kids in the dirt, sand and woods. I don't want to buy him a nice new outfit only to have it get all dirty. And summer here is hot and humid, I would think that the bride and groom would want people to be comfortable.

When I got married I could'nt care less what people wore, I just was honored they came. Heck, I had what some would consider a pretty formal wedding and had people show up in jeans. Who cares? I would rather people be comfortable and have fun than feel uncomfortable and not themselves. But that is just me.

Oh, I'd definately bring a change of clothes for a 6 year old. I'm willing to bet other parents will have play clothes for the kids.

 

[DSNY4ever]

See a winery/ garden estate venue sounds like a nicer more "formal" location than an average cabin on a lake with plastic chairs & a pontoon boat ride. I would definately dress nicer for a wedding in that venue. Maybe I'm stereotyping but "garden estate" sounds formal & dressy. "Cabin on a lake" sounds casual.

No I agree, it definitely does. I was just saying maybe they are trying to make it clear that they don't want totally casual clothes. Our guests asked and we said it wasn't super formal/ no need for black tie or long dresses etc., but some took that as "casual" I guess. But even at very formal evening weddings you always get that one weird relative that shows up in jeans or a skort...

 

[JessicaR]

Okay, where is this dress from? I have been looking for something like this dress for some time. I was hoping for a solid color but I like this one? Nordstroms?

I just did a google linen wedding attire sundress search.

http://www.wedding-questions.com/wh...-dress-to-wear-when-attending-a-beach-wedding

Maybe I can find the store it comes from! I like it too.

OK looking further Nordstrom and Macys both carry her dresses.
Adrianna Papell

 

[Handbag Lady]

I just did a google linen wedding attire sundress search.

http://www.wedding-questions.com/wh...-dress-to-wear-when-attending-a-beach-wedding

Maybe I can find the store it comes from! I like it too.

It is an Adriana Papell dress (thanks to "properties") but I can't find it! Ack!

 

[Keli]

I, too, would wear a nice summery dress with flat sandals. And I would have my husband wear dockers, dress shirt, and a blazer w/tie. My kids would be wearing dress clothes.
I know those clothing choices aren't formal but they are nice enough to not stand out either.
After the wedding and pictures are done I'd let my children change into more comfortable clothing (nicer shorts and cute shirts, not grubby play clothes) and my husband would strip off the blazer and tie, roll up his sleeves and we'd all enjoy the evening.

 

[scrapquitler]

My nephew is getting married this summer and the location is making it kind of hard to pick clothing styles.

He is getting married up north, at a cabin on the lake. Not a huge fancy cabin, a cabin. There will be plastic chairs set up in the sand down by the lake where the ceremony will be held. After the ceremony they want everyone to load onto about 20 pontoons and take a one hour drive around the lake (which we will not be doing with an infant). Then dinner is up on the driveway of the cabin under a tent.

I asked what we were supposed to wear and the only answer I can get is "it's formal". That just seems wrong. It is the middle of August, outside all day long in god knows what kind of weather (apparently they have no back-up plan), in dirt and sand and you want us to wear formal clothes?

What would you do? Would you just wear something nice yet comfortable, or would you just suck it up and go the formal route?

that sounds like anything but formal to me.

But they told you 'formal', so I'd go with that. To me, for a female, a sundress or ligh weight summery dress. For the male in the family, khakis and a button down shirt. And I'd bring a less 'formal' change of clothes for later.

I'd guess that given the circumstances, most people are going to dress casually. I can't imagine people dressing in formal attire and then hopping into pontoon boats.

 

[Liberty Belle]

My nephew is getting married this summer and the location is making it kind of hard to pick clothing styles.

He is getting married up north, at a cabin on the lake. Not a huge fancy cabin, a cabin. There will be plastic chairs set up in the sand down by the lake where the ceremony will be held. After the ceremony they want everyone to load onto about 20 pontoons and take a one hour drive around the lake (which we will not be doing with an infant). Then dinner is up on the driveway of the cabin under a tent.

I asked what we were supposed to wear and the only answer I can get is "it's formal". That just seems wrong. It is the middle of August, outside all day long in god knows what kind of weather (apparently they have no back-up plan), in dirt and sand and you want us to wear formal clothes?

What would you do? Would you just wear something nice yet comfortable, or would you just suck it up and go the formal route?

Well first, who said it was formal? If it were your nephew or any other guy, other than a very fashion-forward one, formal could mean no jeans.

I'd wear a comfortable sundress type dress.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

For the scenario you described these dresses sound like options! I love linen and most of these can be considered elegant enough for a lake wedding. Sounds like fun! Hope you have a great time.

I love #1 and #3.

All you need is for your husband to wear nice linen pants and shirt and you're good to go.

Don't forget the sunblock.