What do you think?

[FergieTCat]

The oddest thing happened this week, and I thought I'd throw it out here to see what everyone thinks (I don't know how I've been conducting my life without input from the DISers!)

Earlier this week, I got an e-mail from someone who asked me if I had gone to my elementary school. It took me a while to figure out who he was (the e-mail address wasn't that cryptic, but I had to try and remember who I had gone to school with over 30 years ago!) I said I was and asked what he wanted. This person said that he felt bad for the way he had treated me and asked for my forgiveness. I was the chubby kid in elementary school and subjected to teasing, but I think I've gotten over it.
I e-mailed back that the apology was accepted.

What do you make of this? I think this person entered a 12-step program and was up to the part where he had to make amends with people. Which is fine by me.

What do you think?

 

[Blueeyes101817]

seems very random..but nice that they apologized!

 

[EltonJohn]

Originally posted by FergieTCat



What do you think?

Good for him!

 

[Vault Disney]

Perhaps just a bit of soul searching or a late night with Flatliners? Either way, I am glad you accepted the apology.

 

[HollyJoy]

Who knows.. maybe this person is finally growing up and trying to come to terms with himself and felt like this was something he/she had to do. I'd just accept the apology and move on. I wouldn't worry yourself any more about it. This person has caused you enough pain.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Sounds okay to me, Donna.

 

[Nutsy]

I'm puzzled as to how he got your e-mail addy if you've not heard from him in over 30 years

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

I would be a little leary with this one. I wouldn't give him anymore personal information.

 

[alecam]

I think that's CREEPY!!!

 

[treesinger]

Originally posted by HollyJoy
Who knows.. maybe this person is finally growing up and trying to come to terms with himself and felt like this was something he/she had to do. I'd just accept the apology and move on. I wouldn't worry yourself any more about it. This person has caused you enough pain.

I was thinking the same thing. But I also agree that it is kinda creepy. After all this time? He must have thought (or really was)
one hell of a mean boy to carry that baggage for so long.

 

[snoopy]

Very seldom does a bully recognize the effect his/her behavior has had on someone. Perhaps he is the exception to the rule. I think you handled it well by accepting his apology.

 

[Karel]

The same thing happened to me. It was right before a big HS reunion and I had put my email address on the reunion 'info page'. I pretty much ignored it, couldn't be bothered.

 

[iNTeNSeBLue98]

Our school now pulblishes an alumni directory, including email addys. It sounds like something out of a movie, that he contacted you with an apology after all those years. Maybe he is trying to get over some grief of his own.

 

[Disney Doll]

I think you're right. Something in his life has caused him to do some soul-searching, and he decided he eeded to apologize.

Good of you to accept. I'd say if it gets any more involved than that, I'd ignore the rest.

 

[KristaTX]

I think you did the right thing. Hopefully this person is finally growing up, and I'm sure your acceptance of his apology can only help. I remember those mean kids in school. I'm embarrassed to say that occasionally I was mean, too, or at least I rarely stood up for the "picked on" kids . I wish I'd known then what I know now.

 

[Pooh's Pal]

Originally posted by FergieTCat
I think this person entered a 12-step program and was up to the part where he had to make amends with people.

I think you hit the nail on the head with this statement!

 

[Barb D]

I ridiculed a girl when we were in high school because her career goal was to be a SAHM. (In the late 70s in the SF area, this was WEIRD.) I've looked for her on Classmates, etc. because I'd love to apologize to her...and tell her that I've since decided she was right! (She probably doesn't even remember the incident, but it still bothers me. Not that I'm losing sleep over it or anything, but for some reason it pops into my consciousness every now and then.)

If any of you know a girl named Cheryl in the SF Bay area who played the string bass in high school, let me know!