What Do You Think Is Happening Here...?

[AKL_Megs]

I'm curious how others would interpret this behavior...

I recently quit my old job on December 1st with the intent of enjoying the holidays at home with my family, sort of playing "housewife", before I start my new job in January. (My original plan was to quit in January, and work through the holidays.)

Ever since I quit, none of my old work friends will talk to me... at all... and we were really good friends. I'm talking text or call each other on a regular basis, go out to lunch, get together kind of friends.

Now it's like I don't exist anymore.

I've left countless messages, texts, even Facebook messages. All are left unanswered.

What is this?

Are they mad? Are they jealous? Envious? Or do I no longer count because I quit working there?

I have MANY friends from other jobs that I still keep in touch with!?!?

(And no, they aren't mad because I didn't give two-weeks notice... I DID. They aren't mad because they are picking up the work I left behind... I had a replacement.)

 

[lakelandgal70]

Wow. Guess they really weren't friends after all. Really sorry they aren't contacting you back. They probably are jealous. Ya know what? Poo on them. Enjoy your time with your family!

 

[WDSearcher]

I'm curious how others would interpret this behavior...

I recently quit my old job on December 1st with the intent of enjoying the holidays at home with my family, sort of playing "housewife", before I start my new job in January. (My original plan was to quit in January, and work through the holidays.)

Ever since I quit, none of my old work friends will talk to me... at all... and we were really good friends. I'm talking text or call each other on a regular basis, go out to lunch, get together kind of friends.

Now it's like I don't exist anymore.

I've left countless messages, texts, even Facebook messages. All are left unanswered.

What is this?

Are they mad? Are they jealous? Envious? Or do I no longer count because I quit working there?

I have MANY friends from other jobs that I still keep in touch with!?!?

(And no, they aren't mad because I didn't give two-weeks notice... I DID. They aren't mad because they are picking up the work I left behind... I had a replacement.)

Well ... it IS the holidays and people are busy. And it could well be that you were "work friends" and not "friend friends".

For me it would depend on how many messages you left and how quickly you assume people will get back to you. In the past, you texted and called, etc, but you also had work where you saw each other. You may be "mis-remembering" how many of those contacts took place AT work or were coordinated at work. (If you all went out one night, were those plans made at work, or when you were away from the office?)

It could just be that your "work friends" need to re-adjust to how they communicate with you now that you're not right there every day any more. If you really want to know what's up, swing by the office at lunch or at the end of the day and ask.

 

[NewCrew42]

Our kids have changed schools. We live in the same city, didn't move, but changed to a different school. We have had families tell their kids they can no longer play with my kids, because we changed schools.

I have even had a "friend" who quit being my friend and had her son quit being a friend to my son, because we started using a different tennis coach than the one they used.

Who knows what goes thru someone's mind?

I didn't treat the person as a friend because our kids went to the same school or took lessons from the same tennis coach. I called them my friend because I genuinelly liked them. But I have learned, not everyone is like that.

What I wonder is if maybe they felt betrayed because of the choices we made? It was never secretive, we were always very open about our choices. But you just never know.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

I have had a few jobs in my days and made what seemed to be some very, very close friends. Once I left, the friendships died out. I think it is natural and you will need to look to friends elsewhere.

Sorry this happened during your holiday "break" but it doesn't hurt at all to use some "me" time, and enjoy some things you like to do.

 

[Acklander]

Maybe they're busy working.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Sorry you are feeling hurt
My guess is that they saw you as a work friend and are not really interested in maintaining a friendship now that the work connection is gone. It happens. I am sure you can make new friends soon.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Welcome to the transition from working girl to stay-at-home

 

[powellrj]

When you aren't working, you forget just how busy people who are at work are. Add the holidays to the mix and I can understand why people haven't returned your calls.

I am having a hard time keeping up with my family and work obligations and will get back with friends after the holidays.

 

[ReneeA]

Welcome to the transition from working girl to stay-at-home

Yup. I'll bet it happened to most of us that went from working to staying at home.

 

[mamacatnv]

Crud I missed one of the loops - what type of work are you going to start in January?

This post reminds me of why I keep my work friends at a distance and don't do much or socialize outside of work with any of them.

 

[ols386]

You said you left your job on December 1, and it's December 10. That's only 9 days, so actually it hasn't been very long since you were at work.

Maybe your ex-co-workers are just busy with work and holiday activities right now. If it were me, I probably wouldn't worry about it right now.

And if after the holidays you haven't heard back from any of them, then maybe they really weren't your friends. I'm not saying that to try to be mean, just honest. You asked for opinions.

I suspect that you'll hear back from at least some of them at some point in time.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

If nobody is returning your messages/calls, then you can only assume you were "work" friends with everyone. Now that you lost that common bond, they have nothing to talk about with you. It happens, try not to take it to heart.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Did you say anything critical of the job that they might have taken personally?

 

[chloelovesdisney]

They're probably busy with work and holiday preparations/parties. Either that or they didn't consider you to be a real friend in the first place but instead their friend from work which you aren't any longer.

 

[JulyGirl]

I end up going to lunch and swapping texts with people I would never talk to outside of a working relationship. It's all just part of playing the game and being civil at work. If I left my job, I would no longer speak to most of them, as we would no longer have much in common.

 

[Allison]

I thought you were quitting your job to stay home and have a baby? I might have missed an update.

If you were a flight attendant, wouldn't your coworkers be busy flying from city to city? It's probably hard to respond to texts and get together for meetings if they are out of town all the time.

Have you really left countless messages in just over a week? Maybe that seems like a bit much to them.

 

[LBIJim]

Like others have said, those people were work acquaintances, not really friends. Also, it's only been a week since you quit. Maybe some will contact you soon, but accept that you no longer may have anything in common with them.

Jim

 

[AKL_Megs]

Yes, I did quit to have a baby, but they take 9 months to brew I will have a more local job for the next 7-8 months.

You all mention them being "too busy working", but we were all always "working" BEFORE I left, and they had time to talk then. One friend, my closest, doesn't even celebrate Christmas, so it couldn't be the holidays she's busy with.

I guess I can chalk it up to "work friends" and not friend friends. It's sad, because I will miss them. Especially the one.

 

[cm8]

Wow. Guess they really weren't friends after all. Really sorry they aren't contacting you back. They probably are jealous. Ya know what? Poo on them. Enjoy your time with your family!

, and probably feels that they now have to pick up the slack that you left when you left ( if you have that type of job). No excuse for anyone of them to stop all contact unless they are all glad that you're gone. Stop trying to reach them, it will make you feel worst