What do you do when you're so angry you can't see straight??

[hercamore]

Take up playing tennis year round. There is something therapeutic aobut smacking a tennis ball, plus you have to really concentrate!

herc.

 

[Blueberry]

My situation is with my own folks so I talk it out with DH, or you could talk it out with a friend or one of your relatives ..amazing how that helps. It has never changed anything, but it sure helps to talk about it when it hurts you...

I will not go into what it involves totally, but I am rejected by own folks pretty much in favor of another sibling whom they just think the world revolves around. No matter what I do, it is not as good and never enough..so it is a no win situation.

After a lot of deep depression over it, years ago I came to the conclusion, that there is nothing wrong with me, I am the better person for keeping a relationship with them and it is their loss that they do not care to include me more in their lives...

 

[RobinMarie]

I do yoga when I am that angry. I realize when I am angry I do not feel balanced. I ought to do yoga MORE but somehow return to it when I feel imbalanced.

For the most part, I realize being angry is unproductive and is usually bad for those I love the most. I still get angry a lot, but I bring myself back to center with yoga.

Try it, it certainly couldn't hurt the situation!

Peace!

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[Disneymomma]

Just want to say that I am so sorry you are going through that situation. I completely understand. I have no advice, because I haven't been able to solve this problem in the past twelve years.

 

[CamColt]

As for the anger itself, Im not really going to be much of a help there. I usually just go for a drive with the radio blaring, but Im sure thats not the best option when Im feeling that way. However I had a similar situation with my inlaws within the past few years. The worst part of the whole thing was DH didnt defend me at first! That caused a LOT of problems between us. Finally he realized it and came around. I think the first thing you have to do is if you are in fact I the right(which I believe you are) get your DH to see that and fully support you. Family or not, you are his DW and YOU should come first. That makes a huge difference. In the end I didnt speak to my inlaws(MIL, BIL and his DW) for about a year. MIL finally realized she was worng and made a peace offering. We then started talking again. As for BIL and his family I didnt speak to them until I just saw them at MILs wake, and Im sure we wont be seeing them anymore.
I guess I go with the "elimate the source of stress" theory, whether its the right thing to do or not.
Good luck! I hope this all works out for you.

 

[Dopey Sharon]

I guess I go with the "elimate the source of stress" theory, whether its the right thing to do or not.