What do you do when your SO can't keep a secret?

[Maleficent13]

My SO is completely incapable of not telling his family things. It has gotten to the point that I don't share personal things with him that I don't want his family to know until I'm ready to have them know. Then he gets irritated with me for not telling him when he eventually does find out.

He doesn't understand my feelings that certain things need to stay "just between us" until we're both ready to share them and deal with the aftermath. He is honestly confused as to why I wouldn't want them to know everything.

What can I do here? I have something I would like to share with him, but I'm not ready to have the whole world know. I have no idea what to do.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Yikes, that is a tough one. I would certainly not want any of my "secrets' known by the whole family. Maybe if you just stress how important it is to keep certain issues just between the two of you. Good luck.

 

[pw2pp]

If I were you, I would not share it with him. Until he is ready to grow up and separate his family from his marriage (and respect the fact that you aren't ready to share with them) then he doesn't deserve to know.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Bottom line if you know he will share it and you don't want others to know he leaves you no choice.

You are his wife and he should give you that respect. This is what makes you a married couple. It also creates a lack of intimacy for your marriage which can damage it over the long haul.

I guess all you can do is sit and talk to him about this issue and if he insists on "sharing" info still, then you have your answer.

 

[msdznyduck]

I don't tell my DH anything that I wouldn't want his family to know. (Unless I specifically tell him not to say anything, and he respects that)---and there isn't much I have to hide. I learned a long time ago, that it just isn't worth the aggravation.

 

[dg39]

Like the above poster said, I keep my mouth shut until I'm ready for the "world" to know. Some people can't seem to keep things to themselves and thats just how it is.

 

[aprilgail2]

I wouldn't tell him anything I didn't want them to know until he is ready to cut the cord! My brother used to come over and tell us all about fights etc with his girlfriend and we finally told him to keep the personal things between him and his girlfriend, we didn't need to know them!

 

[ILUVDXL]

I'm great at keeping secrets with everyone but DH. For some reason, with him, I have to tell all. I had three secret surprises for our upcoming trip and spilled the beans about all three. Oh well!