1) every last one of them has some type of designer bag (coach, louie, fendi)
2) every last one of them has the latest cell phone. I've met a number of their parents who then complain about $200 bills but when you suggest they cut the phone off, you always get the ridiculous excuse "they need it for emergencies". Honey, 200 bucks did not come from an emergency.
3) all of them spend weekends at the Jersey shore for recreation.
4) not one has a job
5) All or most routinely get nails done and don't get me started on proms and senior trips.
6) quite a few have credit cards.
I don't disagree with you in theory, but I see some differences in details here in the Carolinas:
Designer bags aren't all that big. Yes, maybe 1/3 of the girls have them, but it's not a must-have here.
Latest cell phone -- absolutely! This is the #1 thing my students care about.
For our kids, it's Myrtle Beach, and I'm amazed at how many are allowed to go with groups of friends. And I don't mean only the just-graduated seniors.
Most of my students (probably 2/3 of them) DO have jobs; however, it's a double-edged sword. They work 10-15 hours a week, and in my immediate area low-level jobs are plentiful and most jobs -- even fast food -- pay more than minimum wage. That's an awful lot of cash IF you live at home, have all your needs paid, and your own earnings are all just disposable income. I'm quite convinced that kids who are not required to save a portion of their income come away with an unintended message: They come away believing that they're "supporting themselves" and they have got adult life figured out. They figure that they're entitled not to listen to their parents, and some even minimize their need to continue with school (I remember one student telling me that he KNEW he was making as much money delivering pizzas as I make teaching school. completely failing to understand the importance of benefits and an increasing salary scale -- wonder how he's doing today, 5-6 years later?). They completely fail to recognize that they're really just paying their own movie tickets, meals out with friends, and clothes.
Prom dresses, credit cards . . . I agree -- don't get me started. I'd say my students spend more on hair than nails. And don't forget the gotta-have-a-tattoo the day I turn 18 (how else would people KNOW you'd turned 18?).
Also don't forget cars. Most of my daughter's friends seem to be GIVEN a car BEFORE they turn 16. They're not all new; in fact, it seems that most of the time the parents give the child their own 2-3 year old car, and they themselves get something new. I'd estimate that
half my students are required to pay
something towards their transportation costs, but it's a rare student who pays the whole cost.
The biggest car shock for me: When these kids wreck their cars -- an event that happens all too often when someone too young and inexperienced is allowed too much freedom -- their parents buy them another car right away!
Our children are a reflection of who we are ourselves. I bet you any amount of money that those teens you're talking about live mirror images to that of their parents.
Eh . . . most of the time. When I meet an "entitled" student's parents, it seems that 3/4 of them fit the bill you're describing -- a mom who's all about looks, name brands, etc. (Or a dad who drives a car that's beyond his income level and who enjoys lots of "toys". Being a mom of girls, I tend to think of girl-stuff first, but I've seen it go both ways.)
The other 1/4 of the entitled students seem to come from the "never had" parents who want to give their kids what they never had -- even if they have to beg, borrow, and steal to do it. Or the parents who figure they owe it to their kids to give them these few great teen years (so they can catch a husband) before they start slaving away in the mills. These parents come in to school wearing sweat pants or denim shorts, often looking old and weathered beyond their years, often in need of dental work -- but sitting right beside them is a cute little 15-year old with professional highlights in her hair and manicured nails. These kids are some of the most difficult in the school, figuring that they're "so much better" than their parents, and they must be "so much better" than everyone else too.
All in all, I agree with the OP's post -- too many kids are given too much and allowed to get away with accomplishing too little. Individually we can fight this trend in our own homes, but it's hard with society as a whole leaning this direction.