Boxley
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This situation has been bugging me for about a week. I have only told my husband and he is so stumped that he has no idea what to do. I guess anomity helps on here because so far I havn't let anyone in my life know what is going on and I guess here no one knows me and so the advice would be a little bit more unprejudiced.
I was talking to my brother, (I'll call him Joe) and we were just talking and he told me "Look, I have something to say and it has been bothering me for the longest time but you got to promise that you won't say anything to the family. I told Joe, "OK, what is it?" He proceeded to tell me that our other brother, (Fake name of Keith) was not my father's child. I was stunned.
Let me back track a bit. My parents had me at a very young and stupid age, they got married before they knew what marriage meant I guess. My father had three best friends, Friend A and Friend B. 8 years after I was born, my mother would have an affair with Friend B that would result in Joe's birth. This had caused a seperation in my parents' marriage and when they patched things up it was known that Joe was not my dad's kid, but my father still adopted him as his own. Later after that incident, my mother would have another affair and my parents would divorce. My sister was born from this affair. So, for years I thought that my brother Keith and I were fully related while Joe, my sister were my half siblings. Now, I realize that Keith is half related to me too.
My mother had an affair with Friend A, a couple of years after I was born. She didn't tell my father but Joe told me that my dad had an inkling that Keith was not his. He just never pushed my mother to find out the truth. In anger, my mother told my father the truth. They both have never told Keith who thinks his dad is well, my dad too. Friend A had died a year or two ago and his family saw Keith and marveled how Keith looked a lot like Friend A and my dad told them to quit it because they were talking about his son.
Even though through the years I knew Keith didn't look like my dad I never pursued it, I just accepted it but when Joe told me the confirmation of my suspicions I grew angry at my mother. She and I acutally have some problems between us, in the years past she was very negligent towards us and seem to have chosen certain men over her children, even if these guys were putting us down emotionally and physically beating us, she still had them around the house and made it our faults they were jerks. She is trying to reconsile with me, but I don't feel ready for that.
As Joe and I were talking, we decided we were going to be quiet about it all because it wasn't our place to say anything but it still bugs us. My mother promised Joe she would tell Keith but has not told anything to him. I am scared that she WILL tell him and this could send my brother on the edge because my father has been Keith's hero and this gets told, it could ruin him. I am angry at my mother but not enough to see my brother's heart get torn out. I don't know what to do. Joe doesn't want me to say anything to my mother that I know the truth. I just don't want Keith hurt in all of this and evidence is pointing to Keith doesn't even know about this other father.
I am stuck though, if my mother wants to tell Keith the truth, I want to tell her to personally shut up and keep her mouth quiet because it was due to her selfishness that this problem is even around. On the other hand, Keith has a right to know the truth.
I was talking to my brother, (I'll call him Joe) and we were just talking and he told me "Look, I have something to say and it has been bothering me for the longest time but you got to promise that you won't say anything to the family. I told Joe, "OK, what is it?" He proceeded to tell me that our other brother, (Fake name of Keith) was not my father's child. I was stunned.
Let me back track a bit. My parents had me at a very young and stupid age, they got married before they knew what marriage meant I guess. My father had three best friends, Friend A and Friend B. 8 years after I was born, my mother would have an affair with Friend B that would result in Joe's birth. This had caused a seperation in my parents' marriage and when they patched things up it was known that Joe was not my dad's kid, but my father still adopted him as his own. Later after that incident, my mother would have another affair and my parents would divorce. My sister was born from this affair. So, for years I thought that my brother Keith and I were fully related while Joe, my sister were my half siblings. Now, I realize that Keith is half related to me too.
My mother had an affair with Friend A, a couple of years after I was born. She didn't tell my father but Joe told me that my dad had an inkling that Keith was not his. He just never pushed my mother to find out the truth. In anger, my mother told my father the truth. They both have never told Keith who thinks his dad is well, my dad too. Friend A had died a year or two ago and his family saw Keith and marveled how Keith looked a lot like Friend A and my dad told them to quit it because they were talking about his son.
Even though through the years I knew Keith didn't look like my dad I never pursued it, I just accepted it but when Joe told me the confirmation of my suspicions I grew angry at my mother. She and I acutally have some problems between us, in the years past she was very negligent towards us and seem to have chosen certain men over her children, even if these guys were putting us down emotionally and physically beating us, she still had them around the house and made it our faults they were jerks. She is trying to reconsile with me, but I don't feel ready for that.
As Joe and I were talking, we decided we were going to be quiet about it all because it wasn't our place to say anything but it still bugs us. My mother promised Joe she would tell Keith but has not told anything to him. I am scared that she WILL tell him and this could send my brother on the edge because my father has been Keith's hero and this gets told, it could ruin him. I am angry at my mother but not enough to see my brother's heart get torn out. I don't know what to do. Joe doesn't want me to say anything to my mother that I know the truth. I just don't want Keith hurt in all of this and evidence is pointing to Keith doesn't even know about this other father.
I am stuck though, if my mother wants to tell Keith the truth, I want to tell her to personally shut up and keep her mouth quiet because it was due to her selfishness that this problem is even around. On the other hand, Keith has a right to know the truth.
