What do I do about DH???

[FayeW]

If he's planning on staying offsite and doing a timeshare presentation, he's going to come pretty close on the 1/2 price ticket thing. Maybe he's been talking to someone at work who told him about their offsite/timeshare tour stay, and he want's to give it a try. I know when we did a tour at CPGV, we saved $110. off our one day tickets for the 4 of us.

 

[jennyl772003]

Can you maybe talk him into letting you plan the hotel/park tix and let him take care of transportation or something?

My husband planned our first couple trips because I had never been before and he had vacationed there a lot.

Now that I research and stuff, he lets me do most of the planning.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Many good questions and an especially good suggestion (thanks Pop Daddy!)
In order of appearance:

Yes, I have stayed off site. I've had 1 horrible and 1 good experience. I prefer on site. I know it costs me more but I like the Mickey Soap. I like having breakfast with 1000 other people who are also excited about they day in the parks. I like the world class Disney customer service (though I'm aware sometimes it breaks down). Mainly it's because we are flying. Well maybe we are flying, Dh wants to drive but I have a voucher for $450 off airline tickets so why drive??? Anyway, Dh is a horrible driver. He hates for me to drive and I'm scared for him to drive in the Orlando traffic. Therefore, busses all the way. BTW he hates taking busses. I am somewhat open to staying at the Grosvenor at DTD again. That's the only one. It's walking distance to the DTD bus stop.

Why don't I compromise? Well it's hard to explain that it's not really a matter of compromise. Dh is one of those people who thinks that you show up in Orlando and have a faboo time without planning anything. He thinks making PS's is silly, that we'll get right in. He thinks you get up in the morning, decide on a park and that's it. You don't need to make your PS's and follow a plan. You don't need to follow any kind of itinerary so you can get on the most popular rides at least once. He thinks I'm kidding about long lines. I want to go in Sept. because that's one of the lowest months. He wants to go Christmas/New Years week. He thinks everyone will be home celebrating and that I'm crazy to say I never want to go that week. He thinks if he looks hard enough he'll find a room for $20 a night and tickets for 1/2 price god knows where. He thinks $100 a day for food is outrageous and we can do it for $50 (eating in the park). He thinks an entire WDW vacation should costs us $500. I know where not to eat. I know he'd balk at the price of eating at the California Grill but once he did so during the fireworks he'd thank me for doing it. I know he'd enjoy and evening at the Mercado and not the Hoop De Doo. I know we should plan on doing any park but MK on Saturday or Sunday as he's not a Fantasy Land kinda guy. I know he'll patiently do Fantasy Land with me on any other day. I just know my husband. If there is something specific he wants to do I'm sure open to including that. It's not a matter of compromise in what he wants to do but how to plan it. That's my department ESPECIALLY in WDW.

 

[Shugardrawers]

If he's planning on staying offsite and doing a timeshare presentation, he's going to come pretty close on the 1/2 price ticket thing. Maybe he's been talking to someone at work who told him about their offsite/timeshare tour stay, and he want's to give it a try. I know when we did a tour at CPGV, we saved $110. off our one day tickets for the 4 of us.

OH HECK NO!!! I wouldn't sit through one of those and Dh is much too aggressive to deal with these people!!! I don't know if that's where he got the idea but I know if that is he doesn't realize you have to sit through the presentation first or he'd never go

 

[mtblujeans]

Just a suggestion: I would tell my DH that we each have the next 30 days to research what we want in a planned trip. Then sit down and compare the 2 research info. Perhaps together you can pull out the best planning/prices from each research 'sheet' and that combined will make a great trip.

If it was my DH, he would get into the planning stage and find he is in way over his head and defer to me. Maybe your DH will find there really are no 1/2 price passes, etc. Sometimes, the only way to show the stubborn DH he doesn't know what he is talking about is letting him find that for himself!

 

[Shugardrawers]

Just a suggestion: I would tell my DH that we each have the next 30 days to research what we want in a planned trip. Then sit down and compare the 2 research info. Perhaps together you can pull out the best planning/prices from each research 'sheet' and that combined will make a great trip.

If it was my DH, he would get into the planning stage and find he is in way over his head and defer to me. Maybe your DH will find there really are no 1/2 price passes, etc. Sometimes, the only way to show the stubborn DH he doesn't know what he is talking about is letting him find that for himself!

Ya know, you have a point there. Sometimes, even though I know I'm right I let Dh make his own "mistakes". Then he looks at me and says "here, you do it you are so much better at this than I am" Of course, he's never actually wrong, I'm just better at it than he is You're right, sometimes stubborn men are like children, you have to let them make their own mistakes.

 

[ohanafamily]

Hey all, Suggestion: Rent DVC accomodations. It seems you go often enough to justify at least looking into DVC. You miighy even meet with a guide (they are not high pressure typical time-share salespeople.

Things to watch out for.....
-> Reliable Renting source
-> Which resort to stay at...Lot's of people love VWL. It feels more secluded . DW love BCV best. There is something about being closer to EPCOT than the boat dock to take you there. BWV Is great too. The easiest is OKW, Least expensive and closest to the golfing (Close parking if you are renting a car). SS also has close parking to the rooms and is brand new. It is real close to Downtown Disney..
-> Using Rental points for non-DVC resorts is a little expensive...
-> 11 months out, if you can find someone with points where you want to stay, you cane get a room fairly easily (except for the crazy times like Dec25-Jan1)
-> What size room? You and your DH, a studio should be fine; my DW and I like to spend the money for a 1BR.
-> 1BR+ has a full kitchen and a washer/dryer, Jacuzzy tub.. Studio has a smaller fridge/sink area
-> Full maid service only ince a week, trash pickup once in the middle of the week
-> check out the DVC board (or PM me) if you want more info...

 

[mtblujeans]

.... Of course, he's never actually wrong, I'm just better at it than he is You're right, sometimes stubborn men are like children, you have to let them make their own mistakes.

O My Gosh, yes!

 

[Christine]

Shugardrawers--it sounds like your DH lives in a very happy, sky blue kind of world!!

 

[Shugardrawers]

OMG!! Dh just called me and asked me to find out when gay days is!! He thinks it'll be much more quiet then because many families think their children shouldn't be exposed to gays He says call Nikki and ask her when gay days is. Nikki is my internet friend who happens to be gay. Now, I'm pretty sure Nikki doesn't keep the gay agenda but some guy on the 700 club was talking about it so maybe he has it penciled in his? I couldn't convince him that gay days would also be a very busy time and therefore not a time I want to go. September or late January yes, any special event or during the holidays? NO!!

 

[ChibiJones]

You can pass along my first hand account of Christmas week. Crowds, crowds, and more crowds.

The only time DH & I spent at MK during daylight hours was for the Keys to the Kingdom tour. The second it ended, we got the heck out of there and even that was a bit of an adventure due to the parade. It wasn't even Christmas Day and it was packed. The only relief from the crowds for us was to go close to closing, 8pm or later. We had a good time, but we didn't get to do anywhere near as much stuff.

Also, if you enjoy swimming/water parks, December might be too chilly for that.

 

[ohanafamily]

I am not gay, but a friend of mine (who is not tolerent of Gay people wound up at WDW during that time. to hear him tell the story was quite the amusing tale... The answer to your questions (and comments by your DH) can be found at http://www.gaydays.com The dates for 2006 are

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]MAY 30 - JUNE 4 [/font]​

Tell your DH to go and to wear a red shirt

 

[Shugardrawers]

Dh commented again today that we don't need PS we'll just ask for the smoking section Now, this tactic works well at restaurants that have smoking sections I'll give him that. He just doesn't know you can't smoke in restaurants at WDW. I have to sit him down tonight and inform him that he can't smoke just anywhere in WDW. He ought to be ok with that though. I've never seen him get upset with having to use smoking areas in any other theme park. He does get privately irritated about restaurants though. Never to the point of causing a scene thankfully.

 

[Shugardrawers]

I am not gay, but a friend of mine (who is not tolerent of Gay people wound up at WDW during that time. to hear him tell the story was quite the amusing tale... The answer to your questions (and comments by your DH) can be found at http://www.gaydays.com The dates for 2006 are

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]MAY 30 - JUNE 4 [/font]​

Tell your DH to go and to wear a red shirt

Ya know, I did buy him a red Mickey t-shirt on my last visit He's pretty tolerant but I'm afraid he may not be too tolerant of me when he finds out what that means BTW Ohana, that's just down right sneaky I'm not worthy

 

[ohanafamily]

Shugardrawers, I feel I should let you know I am a man. I think your DH wants (has a male testostronic need) to proove that he can plan a trip to WDW. He probably heard a few stories on how to save money and doesn't understand the magic, and what the consequences of the cost savings can be.

I think he would be cool with a "Red-Shirt" if he was in on it, he might even think it fun to play the game.

As far as the off-site thing, I would MAKE SURE if you do go off-site to dtay at one of the nicer resorts (notice the word resort, not Hotel or motel) People here can point you towards the better ones.

Again, you've been there 3 rimes in the last 2 years, I would think of renting DVC points. Much better than a value resort, and if he buys in, you will be the one usung it.

If you need a visual aid, a passporter is pretty good as far as what is going on/available. If he likes sit down dinners/lunches a lot of times in the off season, you can make ADR's (the new name for PS's) the day before, so it isn't a total lost cause.

Problem, If he goes "Cheap" and has a lousy time, you will be the one to suffer.
Key things to stress: Themong in rooms with the emersion in the magic. Free Transportation so you don't need a rental car. One key does it all (room key/park passes and charge card (OK, not with AP's) EXTRA MAGIC Hours, and one of my favorite excuses I heard someone use on another thread (when referring to a 2br DVC unsead of a suite at AS, His chances of getting lucky will improve by 100% with the kids behind a door (or with a happy DW, the substitution works for me...



Good luck on the chat tonight...

 

[MELSMICE]

WOW - all my sympathy goes out to you. Don't get offended by this but..............your DH doesn't have a clue does he!!!

I'm not sure I have any advice for this one. Maybe for everything he comes up with that you know "just won't work" you can have some kind of rebuttal question or answer of your own.

Such as, "Let's go at Christmas because everyone will be home celebrating & the parks won't be crowded". I'd then go check on-line & get the information stating that Xmas time is pretty much the most crowded time of year.

He wants to go during Gay Days now - It's pretty hot at that time of year - can he tolerate the heat?

He wants a room for $20/night - does he want to sleep with roaches?

YIKES - good luck to you!!!!

I do not know why anyone would stay on site these days especially in light of the fantastic deals and wonderful accomodations that are available.

Just had to say that everyone has their reasons. Staying off-site is not a fantastic deal for me - regardless of price. Us on-site folks could make the same statement about those that prefer off-site. I don't know why anyone would stay off-site when on-site is just so much better. It's just a matter of opinion & preference.

 

[Disney Doll]

The magic I feel staying on property far out weighs any cost savings I get from staying off site.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Thank goodness there are many choices of accomodations in the WDW/Orlando area, so all of us can be happy!!!

 

[Shugardrawers]

WOW - all my sympathy goes out to you. Don't get offended by this but..............your DH doesn't have a clue does he!!!

You have no idea. and no, I'm not offended lol

ETA: reading back over this thread I feel like I should say something nice about Dh. If I were to plan this thing, every instruction I gave him would be carried out immediately and to the letter. I generally have to ask but he's always happy to help out around the house and does it the way I want it done (mostly). He's an excellent provider and very very sweet to me. It's just this he's being a pain in the butt about. Why? I dunno, he's usually not this much of a pain

 

[mickeyfan1]

Why not just let him do what he wants? So what if you stay off site? Maybe he can get tickets 1/2 price. So what if he wants to decide which park in the morning? Honestly, it won't be the end of the world if you have a totally different unplanned to the nth degree trip, will it? There are a lot of people on these boards who feel if you don't stay on site and you don't plan every meal and you don't plan every park day down to what ride when that you will miss something and therefore your vacation is ruined. I fell badly for them. Granted I go as often as I can which is usually 2 or 3 times a year, but I have done it both ways. I prefer to stay on site, I don't mind the busses, but it can be inconvenient to not have a car if you are going to do the Hoop Dee Doo dinner and you are staying on site, there aren't resort to resort busses, so you have to be creative or get a cab. What happens if you plan every thing down to the minute and it POURS rain for 4 or 5 hours or more? I already know that some people will come here and post that their vacation was a total waste because they had rain and didn't get to do Splash Mountain or Test Track. I was at WDW over Labour Day Weekend, it was pretty empty. It was also very rainy on Saturday and there was no where talking walk ups for dinner and there were no PSs available either. We had hot dogs at Caseys and hit the food court at Pop when we got back to the hotel. (I am sure I could have walked in at Tonys and gotten dinner because so many people left the park when the rain got relentless.) And I knew for 15 months that I was going to be in WDW that weekend and didn't make a single PS. My vacation was not ruined. I stayed in the MK for the entire day, rode the rides I wanted, saw the shows I wanted and at dark, when many people had left, got the primo spot on the train station verandah and saw the Electric Parade and Wishes. So don't discount winging it, it's all good. And one of these trips, I may even have a Dole Whip, after 20 times or so I still haven't done that.

SD, I don't see that your DH is being a pain, maybe he is tired of all the over planning. Be the better person, let him do the trip the way he wants to. Maybe it will be a total bust, maybe it will be the best trip ever, or maybe it will be somewhere in between. A little give and take is good.

 

[MELSMICE]

ETA: reading back over this thread I feel like I should say something nice about Dh. If I were to plan this thing, every instruction I gave him would be carried out immediately and to the letter. I generally have to ask but he's always happy to help out around the house and does it the way I want it done (mostly). He's an excellent provider and very very sweet to me. It's just this he's being a pain in the butt about. Why? I dunno, he's usually not this much of a pain

I feel bad when I *itch about DH on "the boards" too sometimes!!! I usually get over it when he aggravates me about something though! LOL