What did you vow?

[hrh_disney_queen]

I was adamant that the word obey be left out. What a ridiculous thing to promise to do! And it usually is one sided-for the woman to say it. We promised to love, honor, and cherish. Cherish is so much nicer to promise than Obey.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

I really think it was love, honor and cherish. Can't imagine saying "obey" but I honestly can't remember.

I went to one wedding where the bride promised to obey and that she was now shackled to her husband. Yes, the word "shackled" was used. I was standing next to the groom's SIL and we both burst out laughing and had to clap our hands over our mouths. The marriage lasted less than 4 years. Big surprise.

 

[Danauk]

We had a traditional church wedding and we both said love, honour and cherish. In the book we were reading from obey was not even mentioned.

 

[sunnyday123]

We said love, honor, and cherish.

He should have added, "I also will not "date" while still married to you" but I was never one for thinking ahead!

 

[NMAmy]

We said love, honor, and cherish.

He should have added, "I also will not "date" while still married to you" but I was never one for thinking ahead!

Yeah, I should have added that to my first husband's vows, too.

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

We had the traditional love, honor, and cherish. DH wanted me to say "obey" in the worst way but our minister said no way! If DH wouldn't say "obey" then he wouldn't have me say it either. He rocked!

 

[TiggerTails57]

We had the traditional love, honor, and cherish. DH wanted me to say "obey" in the worst way but our minister said no way! If DH wouldn't say "obey" then he wouldn't have me say it either. He rocked!

good for your minister.

 

[My sister's princess]

I am still very up in the air. DF and I are partners in life, but when it comes down to it, I wouldn't marry him if I didn't trust him 100%, to me that means I trust that he would never force me into obeying something I really didn't want to do, or feel was right.

 

[nmmom95]

We said love, honor, and cherish.

He should have added, "I also will not "date" while still married to you" but I was never one for thinking ahead!

We said cherish. I don't obey. I do, however, fetch occasionally.

 

[My sister's princess]

I don't obey. I do, however, fetch occasionally.

Nicely said

 

[MissyDVC]

"Obey"--No Way! And we are very happily married for almost 18 years without obeying

 

[tar heel]

I would never have said "obey" nor would I have expected it from my husband. That doesn't fit our picture of marriage.

Our vows were pretty traditional, but I can't remember exactly what we said. Ido remember the ring pledge: I give you this ring as a sign of my promise.

 

[Pigeon]

Love, honor and cherish, 28 years ago. I wouldn't have married anybody who wanted obey in there.

When I get mad at dh, he'll give me one of his melt-your-heart grins and say, "But you promised to cherish me!" and the fight is over before it gets started.

 

[brockash]

I think it was love, honor and cherish.

Obey wasn't going to play into anything with me!

Those we're ours as well. There's no way I would've been able to say obey without cringing

 

[Mouse House Mama]

We didn't say traditional vows but we chose vows that were perfect for us. I can't remember them exactly right now though. We definetly did not use "obey" anywhere in them.
Seriously, if my parents couldn't get me to obey in 20+ years there was no way anyone else was going to be able to do it.

 

[Aisling]

We did the traditional love, honor, cherish and obey till death do us part. I was a naive 20 year old 27 years ago, and I thought those were the only vows you were allowed to say!

 

[december]

I don't remember what words we used (14 yrs ago), but I can promise you obey wasn't one of them. Why would I make a promise I had no intention of keeping? I'm not a child, and no way am I "obeying" dh! We are partners in every way!

 

[MaumeeMom]

I did not say obey nor did any of my girlfriends.

Love, Honor & Cherish was the way to go for us.

 

[rumrunnergirl]

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[bigbabyblues]

I don't think we had "obey"--I think we had "love, honor, and cherish"

Us too