Some People I sware are ROBOTS!
I Honestly hate venting. In high school I used to be annoyed with the girls who always complained. But after this weekend I must do it. I have caved. I've become a complainer... and a ... hold your breath... Bridezilla!
It all started on Friday. All of the suits came. Which was great. They've been placing all different orders because Vins family seems to not know how to measure for pants. But whatever Not a big deal...
So, Saturday comes. And here we are getting all of our furniture together, and putting everything in its place and 09 was so good to us... and then the family starts...
Vins uncle came in from Jersey. And he began...
"I dontknow man. Women, once they have that ring on their finger they turn into devils, they are not the same after marriage. They pretend to be something their not and then they get married and change into hags....etc"
Now, I can handle a littlebit. But an hour of this just got under my skin. We were baking cookies. Vinnie loves to bake and i mean he LOVES to bake. He said he wanted to make a large cookie and so he was making the cookie and his uncle again "See shes got you in the kitchen already. She brainwashed you to make you think you want to cook"
Now, he says he is joking. Fine. Joking is 5 minutes worth. NOT CONSTANT "I dont know vin, you sure you want to do this" and "You still have time" for AN HOUR! AN HOUR.
So, I was ticked frm the start. Crazy bugger wouldn't leave the room and the way he speaks to his wife really annoys me as well. Vin of course continued to say he was joking but come on.
So then we were in the living room gettng ready for cake. And we were showing the suits. Now, the suits are kakhi suits. The girls colors are blue and brown. Vinnie wanted to wear a blue tie and the boys wear dark brown which would make sense since its gonabe hard to get the same color as the girls. And brown would go perfectly. Well...
Vins mother decides that she is going to ask abotu the ties when he goes upstairs. For a month she has been pushing the paisleys (I am a big paisley fan but i do not think it goes with our theme or the suits and i just dont think it goes at all! Vin and I agreed also.
But she continued)
She begings "Its just my opinion but I dont think the brown goes with the suit"
He goes upstairs and she says "I dont know. I dontthink that dark brown looks good at all with the suit"
And I continued to explain that its hard to get a blue for the boys because then it wont match the girls and it wont look right. So then it continued
"Well I still say paisley. I think the paisley is the best for the suit. its classy. It makes it look nice, Ithink you should use the paisley"
Now, opinions are fine, but then she went and said this after I said "We really dont like the differnet colors we just want solid"
"Well, Ill talk to vinnie. Ill just talk to vinnie about it".
Um? Okay? Is this your wedding? I was so beyond upset by the fact that she is telling me basically that she will get vinnie to do what she wants, that I got up and went downstairs.
Now, yesterday comes around and we are in the store and because I give in and let people do what they want to me, I decided to start to look at STRIPED ties to give in a little to her but also keep to what I want.
So I said "Here vin look at this tie" and his response was "Its striped. Were not using striped"
So i said "Yeah, we are going to have to to avoid issues"
"Who are we avoiding issues with?"
"Your mom"
Oh lord. Why did i say it? Why on earth did the M word come out of my mouth? Ive done so good just letting it go and now, i couldn't.
and then, the diarreah of the mouth comes and guess what... I didn't stop. It was like I was on a runaway rollercoaster and the words were the tracks.
I just let it all out. "Your mom is pushing the paisleys, she basically said she is going to talk you into them so I thought we could just do the freakin striped"
So, the diarrea continues and continues and guess what... Vin freaks back. Now, vin does not freak out. He almost like a man on elephant tranqs daily. Not one bit of anger in him. And I know it was because I pushed the fight and pushed the issue.
And then...
I brought up disney.
We aren't getting married there because of her. And then, i foudn out this weekend that SHE may go in April with her daughter and the baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She made a huge deal about going for us to get married there, and the travel and she wont take a plane, and now, boom, here she goes...
So, yes, I had alot held in. And I also let alot out. My mum was with us and she basically said I was right, but I was also wrong to continue as long as I did. which , I agree...
But why on earth... was I fighting with him over a tie? I mean, thats what he kept saying but he didn't see it had nothing to do with the tie, it had to do with the fact that his mother, once again, was trying to have control. Because she worries what others will think or say. And that drives me up a wall.... esp when he said that I hate everyone! Everyone? Shes the ONLY one I have problems with lately because she thinks she can control vin...
Okay so, enough venting. Sorry about that. Just had to let it out somewhere and I didn't know where.....
Lets hope this wedding will continue now....