wedding

hey there crazy hat lady! Too funny about the paper! Your a celebrity!
I agree with Shannon about the weight thing, you do not need to worry at all! I know it can be hard, and frusterating as anything, BUT you will look beautiful on your wedding day no matter what! I always suggest mixing up your routine for quicker results, if your getting a gym membership that will be perfect. OR, you can drive to Boston and take my hip hop class! That would be wayyy more fun then the gym lol!
 
hey there crazy hat lady! Too funny about the paper! Your a celebrity!
I agree with Shannon about the weight thing, you do not need to worry at all! I know it can be hard, and frusterating as anything, BUT you will look beautiful on your wedding day no matter what! I always suggest mixing up your routine for quicker results, if your getting a gym membership that will be perfect. OR, you can drive to Boston and take my hip hop class! That would be wayyy more fun then the gym lol!

i miss hophop!!!!!!!!!!! I miss dance actually.... We used to compete..then one year we went against Austrailia...and omg they are fantastic lol

As I sit here eating my egg and turkey bacon... I am praying the salt doesnt make me gain even more :rotfl:
 
haha whenever I have salt my fingers swell and my e-ring gets tight, it is terrible!

Where did you dance?
 
haha whenever I have salt my fingers swell and my e-ring gets tight, it is terrible!

Where did you dance?

I danced for Danceworks Dance company years back when they were big. No longer :( The owner had kids and sold it...makes me sad....

Let me see if I can find some old school dance pics to scan...they will make you laugh your bum:rotfl: off!!
 

ooh i used to do tap and jazz dance - i wish i had kept it up, but i became a little tom boy and i wanted to join the scouts- and i loved the scouts at the time, then i was at scouts for so long that i was too old and had to leave, and then wished i could have danced again, but i was too old to re join.

i dont even have any of my old tap shoes or leotards or skirts... im so gutted!!

hehe!!

i want my little sister to do hip hop classes - my god, she is one little mover!! the way she dances puts people like beyonce to shame- she always says ''look mommy, i am shaking my booty!' - oh my gosh, she is so funny, she just copies the dancing on the music videos on the tv!
 
haha Jenny, I will have to find my old dance pics too, there are some mega scary pics of me when I was little hahahaha! You def need to put your up!

Stacey, that is so cute about your little sister, tell her to keep on shaking it (in a cute kid-friendly way of course) :)
 
haha its a bit scary when she can copy the music video dances on mtv! - and i mean videos like The pusscat Dolls ect!! She'd rather dance around the living room than watch the kiddies cartoons!! she is only 4!! :upsidedow
 
Some People I sware are ROBOTS!​

I Honestly hate venting. In high school I used to be annoyed with the girls who always complained. But after this weekend I must do it. I have caved. I've become a complainer... and a ... hold your breath... Bridezilla!

It all started on Friday. All of the suits came. Which was great. They've been placing all different orders because Vins family seems to not know how to measure for pants. But whatever Not a big deal...

So, Saturday comes. And here we are getting all of our furniture together, and putting everything in its place and 09 was so good to us... and then the family starts...

Vins uncle came in from Jersey. And he began...
"I dontknow man. Women, once they have that ring on their finger they turn into devils, they are not the same after marriage. They pretend to be something their not and then they get married and change into hags....etc"

Now, I can handle a littlebit. But an hour of this just got under my skin. We were baking cookies. Vinnie loves to bake and i mean he LOVES to bake. He said he wanted to make a large cookie and so he was making the cookie and his uncle again "See shes got you in the kitchen already. She brainwashed you to make you think you want to cook"

Now, he says he is joking. Fine. Joking is 5 minutes worth. NOT CONSTANT "I dont know vin, you sure you want to do this" and "You still have time" for AN HOUR! AN HOUR.

So, I was ticked frm the start. Crazy bugger wouldn't leave the room and the way he speaks to his wife really annoys me as well. Vin of course continued to say he was joking but come on.

So then we were in the living room gettng ready for cake. And we were showing the suits. Now, the suits are kakhi suits. The girls colors are blue and brown. Vinnie wanted to wear a blue tie and the boys wear dark brown which would make sense since its gonabe hard to get the same color as the girls. And brown would go perfectly. Well...

Vins mother decides that she is going to ask abotu the ties when he goes upstairs. For a month she has been pushing the paisleys (I am a big paisley fan but i do not think it goes with our theme or the suits and i just dont think it goes at all! Vin and I agreed also.
But she continued)

She begings "Its just my opinion but I dont think the brown goes with the suit"
He goes upstairs and she says "I dont know. I dontthink that dark brown looks good at all with the suit"
And I continued to explain that its hard to get a blue for the boys because then it wont match the girls and it wont look right. So then it continued

"Well I still say paisley. I think the paisley is the best for the suit. its classy. It makes it look nice, Ithink you should use the paisley"

Now, opinions are fine, but then she went and said this after I said "We really dont like the differnet colors we just want solid"

"Well, Ill talk to vinnie. Ill just talk to vinnie about it".

Um? Okay? Is this your wedding? I was so beyond upset by the fact that she is telling me basically that she will get vinnie to do what she wants, that I got up and went downstairs.

Now, yesterday comes around and we are in the store and because I give in and let people do what they want to me, I decided to start to look at STRIPED ties to give in a little to her but also keep to what I want.

So I said "Here vin look at this tie" and his response was "Its striped. Were not using striped"

So i said "Yeah, we are going to have to to avoid issues"

"Who are we avoiding issues with?"
"Your mom"

Oh lord. Why did i say it? Why on earth did the M word come out of my mouth? Ive done so good just letting it go and now, i couldn't.

and then, the diarreah of the mouth comes and guess what... I didn't stop. It was like I was on a runaway rollercoaster and the words were the tracks.

I just let it all out. "Your mom is pushing the paisleys, she basically said she is going to talk you into them so I thought we could just do the freakin striped"

So, the diarrea continues and continues and guess what... Vin freaks back. Now, vin does not freak out. He almost like a man on elephant tranqs daily. Not one bit of anger in him. And I know it was because I pushed the fight and pushed the issue.

And then...

I brought up disney.
We aren't getting married there because of her. And then, i foudn out this weekend that SHE may go in April with her daughter and the baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She made a huge deal about going for us to get married there, and the travel and she wont take a plane, and now, boom, here she goes...

So, yes, I had alot held in. And I also let alot out. My mum was with us and she basically said I was right, but I was also wrong to continue as long as I did. which , I agree...

But why on earth... was I fighting with him over a tie? I mean, thats what he kept saying but he didn't see it had nothing to do with the tie, it had to do with the fact that his mother, once again, was trying to have control. Because she worries what others will think or say. And that drives me up a wall.... esp when he said that I hate everyone! Everyone? Shes the ONLY one I have problems with lately because she thinks she can control vin...

Okay so, enough venting. Sorry about that. Just had to let it out somewhere and I didn't know where.....

Lets hope this wedding will continue now....
 
hunny hunny hunny! its okay!

I TOTALLY understand what you mean. Its so hard to keep things inside, especially when they are feelings you disagree with and when there is other people involved in making you feel this way. Men are pretty protective of their mums, and they will listen to what they say- but they will listen to you to- so they freak a bit when they are in the middle and they cant really get on one of your sides, because it would be unfair. I havent been in that situation as you yet, but i would not know what to do if it did. I would probably do the same as you- hold it all in and then explode and let it all out!

The thing is, grooms parents and ESPECIALLY the grooms mum will feel left out- because really, they dont normally have roles in the wedding, so given that she has the chance to be in with the planning and knowing about your planning, its her way of being part of helping you / planning- even when what she comes out with is the total opposite to what you want or are thinking.

Is there something that you can ask her to do.. so she has something to plan herself, and so its her little contribution for the wedding, and to keep her occupied with, so she doesnt interfear too much with your and Vin's plans? Maybe his uncle was just showing off in front of Vin - and maybe its his uncles fear of marriage. I wouldnt worry about that- you know who you are, and you know you are not going to be all those things that he was talking about- and as long as Vin knows it too (im sure he does!) - he said he knows he is joking, so i would just laugh back at his uncle, after all - its your marriage, and you will make it whatever you want it to be.

Maybe you could just ask Vin is you could both come up with something you can put his mum in charge of, if you get what i mean (example - getting candles or certain colours of things or arranging something?). That way, she hopefully wont get involved with all your plans - because after all - this is YOURS AND VINS wedding- not hers (i dont mean to sound horrible) but as long as you and Vin have what you want, it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks, its your day.

Try not get yourself too stressed out. Have some 'ME' time, and make sure that you and Vin have some time together where you dont bring up the wedding- just have a nice hour or two somewhere where you can enjoy yourselfs and dont have to worry about the wedding.

:flower3:
 
Ohhh Jenny, I hear ya! Dont worry, I'm sure you will still have a wedding first off:thumbsup2 ! Thats crazy his uncle was saying all those things, could/would Vin say anything to him about how inappropriate it is? I would not have been able to hold my tongue like that, you have lots of class for doing it!

It sounds like his mom is trying to make your wedding into her wedding... and that is a hard spot to put you in. I would try to talk to Vin later and just explain how much her comments upset you, and thw whole disney thing is nuts! Remember it is your day, and it sounds like your mom is being great with all this, so you have a wonderful support system with her.
We all have our moments of flying off the handle (Im Cuban and Dave always says "your turning into Ricky Ricardo on me" when I start to go nuts :lmao: )

Going nuts is part of wedding (so I've learned) and you are allowed a few flip outs every now and then. I say keep your solid ties and tell his mom that you have decided that is what you are doing... let her fuss about it all she wants because if she is fussing over ties then she clearly has nothing better to do, thats just a waste of energy!

Just remember you will be in Disney for you honeymoon and you can relax there and focus on being a Mrs...

if you need anything let me know, I am always here if you need to vent, let it out, it helps :)

heres some pixie dust that it all works out:tink: pixiedust:

And hey, your banana man is back :banana:
 
Hi Sweetie!! I am so sorry that you are having a rough time right now, but I would say exactly what Stacey already said. I would try to come up with something that it doesn't bother you how it comes out (yes I know that's hard with a wedding) and put Vin's Mom in complete control of it. That way it should help to keep her mind off of things and she feels important. I don't know what it is with the Groom's Mothers but I swear they are all the same. Candi's Mom was always saying "you HAVE to do this" or "you MUST do that" and I just flipped my lid one day. We (me and Candi) ended up fighting over what trash can to buy for our kitchen because I was so pent up with anger over her trying to control my wedding. So, even though it sucks know that it is normal. In the end I went to her and said "I really need your help, I have no idea what to do with the seating chart" and it worked!! She was so wrapped up in making the "perfect" seating chart that she started to back out of other areas. Here's the kicker.... I wasn't even going to use a seating chart, but I couldn't think of anything else that I could relinquish control on :rotfl: She never knew that I wasn't planning on using one and I even let her make the name card things and she was so happy about it. I hope that helps at least a little.

And if you need ANYTHING you can always vent to me!!! Hope things start to get better for you :tinker: pixiedust:
 
Is there something that you can ask her to do.. so she has something to plan herself, and so its her little contribution for the wedding, and to keep her occupied with, so she doesnt interfear too much with your and Vin's plans?

:flower3:

Major issue with her... Last year she did alot of things to her son and daughter in law when they were getting married last Oct.

For starters, Fsil cant eat cakes from bakeries, and so she asked for a ice cream cake for her shower. THAT was the only thing she was put in charge of for the shower (Vins Mum) and do you know out of spite she bought a regular cake? So Fsil didn't get to eat at her own shower. And that was all she was in charge of.

The reason we had to lie about only being able to invite 90 people was because his mum started with "You HAVE to invite my friends and this one and that one and the cousins" and vin said "Absolutely not" and so that is why we have a small room....


Ohhh Jenny, I hear ya! Dont worry, I'm sure you will still have a wedding first off:thumbsup2 ! Thats crazy his uncle was saying all those things, could/would Vin say anything to him about how inappropriate it is? I would not have been able to hold my tongue like that, you have lots of class for doing it!


Going nuts is part of wedding (so I've learned) and you are allowed a few flip outs every now and then. I say keep your solid ties and tell his mom that you have decided that is what you are doing... let her fuss about it all she wants because if she is fussing over ties then she clearly has nothing better to do, thats just a waste of energy!

And hey, your banana man is back :banana:

HIs uncle is obviously unhappy and that bothers me that hes one of "those men"

I honestly LOVE his mother. Other then weddings she is the most amazing and caring person on the face of the planet. I kid you not. I worry that since she wasn'thappy with her wedding years ago she then obsesses over others. I don't know. Vin text me earlier and said "Hey love you"
So I guess its okay. I just, have been in such bad relationships in the past that I fear the worst....

Hi Sweetie!! I am so sorry that you are having a rough time right now, but I would say exactly what Stacey already said. I would try to come up with something that it doesn't bother you how it comes out (yes I know that's hard with a wedding) and put Vin's Mom in complete control of it. That way it should help to keep her mind off of things and she feels important. I don't know what it is with the Groom's Mothers but I swear they are all the same. Candi's Mom was always saying "you HAVE to do this" or "you MUST do that" and I just flipped my lid one day. We (me and Candi) ended up fighting over what trash can to buy for our kitchen because I was so pent up with anger over her trying to control my wedding. So, even though it sucks know that it is normal. In the end I went to her and said "I really need your help, I have no idea what to do with the seating chart" and it worked!! She was so wrapped up in making the "perfect" seating chart that she started to back out of other areas. Here's the kicker.... I wasn't even going to use a seating chart, but I couldn't think of anything else that I could relinquish control on :rotfl: She never knew that I wasn't planning on using one and I even let her make the name card things and she was so happy about it. I hope that helps at least a little.

And if you need ANYTHING you can always vent to me!!! Hope things start to get better for you :tinker: pixiedust:


I really cant vent to others....thats why i vented here and as ussual you girls are amazing. I am so so rry for the vent by the way.

All I want to do is eat chocolate cake. Thank god were heading to the gym tonight... .That sees candy seems good right about now
 
I hear you about the past bad relationships, story of my life till Dave. It can be very hard to realize that there are good guys out there, but you have found one for sure :flower3: !

At least you get along with his mom, thats a huge issue for a few friends of mine right now. I think Stacey and Shannon are right, give her a small project (preferrably something that involves a lotttttt of time) I had Dave punching mickey-fetti this weekend and it took us hours! And hopefully she will lay off about everything else. Let us know how it all works out :hug:
 
I hear you about the past bad relationships, story of my life till Dave. It can be very hard to realize that there are good guys out there, but you have found one for sure :flower3: !

At least you get along with his mom, thats a huge issue for a few friends of mine right now. I think Stacey and Shannon are right, give her a small project (preferrably something that involves a lotttttt of time) I had Dave punching mickey-fetti this weekend and it took us hours! And hopefully she will lay off about everything else. Let us know how it all works out :hug:

OMG punhing confetti sounds like a plan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!May have to do that. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay now I just need to find the right hole puncher!
 
punching confetti - that would be torture for me!! hehe!! :rotfl: Im too impatient and i would get frustrated with it. Im so bad at crafty things =(
 
I got it at Micheal's, it had a mickey hand, a mickey head, and an "M" with Stars. I think it is meant to do borders on scrapbooks, but I just used it for Mickey-Fetti!:laughing:
 
oh and if you use really think paper (like I stupidly did) it gets even harder... at one point Dave and I were using a hammer to punch the stupid things... but it did come out nice. I'll post pics of my crafty projects on my PJ later
 
:banana: :banana: :banana: First of all, i actually love you girls. Lol.



oh and if you use really think paper (like I stupidly did) it gets even harder... at one point Dave and I were using a hammer to punch the stupid things... but it did come out nice. I'll post pics of my crafty projects on my PJ later

I got a seahorse hole puncher. AND dum dum dum dum

IM GOING TO HAVE HER MAKE THOSE JORDAN ALMOND THINGS!!!!!!!!Banana man is back just for me:banana: :banana: :banana:

Thank you girls...but before I say goodnight i have some more news....
 
The Luck Continues!!!​

Check this out (PLEASE do not mind the faces.... i just got over a cold and had a cold sore very badly)
http://www.nycityweddings.com/chat/topic-587434-1.html

Can you believe???!?! I won it on a site that Im on!!! how INSANE is it that my luck is continuing!!!!!!!! Who cares about ties when you can win something sparkley!
 
whats the sparkly something??? did you get it yet?? Thats awesome Jenny! Your luck is awesome the last few weeks! Super cute pic too :)
 












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