Wedding vow renewal

[Freyja]

Has anyone here done a renewal of their wedding vows? When/Where/How???
Was it romantic, religious, funny (Elvis etc)?

I never thought I´d be the type to even think about it, but suddenly the idea has gotten quite appealing to me.

DH and me, along with our 4 kids are going to DL and Vegas in april and DH mentioned it could be fun to renew our vows while there.

We have been married for 9 years and have 4 children. We were very young when we got married (18 and 21), had been living together for 2 years, and although we were totally committed at that time and already had 2 kids together, I am sure those vows would mean even more now.

We have gone through a lot in the past 9 years. Our first born had a severe birth defect and stayed in NICU for a long time, our second was born with a heart defect (but luckily is o.k now), we lost my mother suddenly at age 50 when our third child was only 3 months old, I suffered a miscarriage 2 years later, and last year we had our fourth child. We are stronger now than ever and I love him to death

For better and for worse, through sickness and health.......somehow seems so much more real now than then.

So,please tell me your thoughts on this.

Hugs
Freyja

 

[Nancy]

My In laws did this. They did a religious ceremony in the Catholic church. It was touching. FIL was sick, we didn't know how sick at that time, but he did die 2 months later. They did it for their 30th wedding anniversary. (I think they did it then because they knew how sick he was)

 

[Freyja]

That sounds wonderful. Must also have meant a lot to your MIL after he passed away. I´m sorry for your loss.

 

[experiment626mom]

My dh and I have done this. We had a handfasting ceremony. It was held outside and our friends were all involved and it was lovely.

There are many of the hotels in Vegas that offer vow renewal packages. My favorite is the one at the Paris hotel. You can do your vow renewal at the top of the Eiffel tower at sunset. How's that for romantic?

Good luck!

 

[we3disneygo]

dh and I will be celebrating 20 years this year and we are thinking about doing this also....and having a nice dinner reception after. my mom thinks were a little off..... celebrating 20th instead of 25th.....I figure we should be celebrating..... we have just started about plans, it would take place at church. that's about as far as we've gotten you can look over on the wedding thread....good luck!

 

[Freyja]

Go ahead and celebrate. I honestly can´t see why you have to have been married 25 years to celebrate still being together. In our case, I think we have beat the odds although we´ve "only" been married 9 years. I was 15 when we met and I got pregnant, so we´ve come a long way together.

Have fun planning!!!

 

[mickeyboat]

My parents renewed their vows as a part of my wedding ceremony - they were celebrating 25 years the same year I was married.

They divorced two years later.

We went to Las Vegas for our tenth, and thought it would be nice to renew our vows while we were there. DH refused. He thinks it is bad luck, and since he meant what he said the first time, there is no need to say it again.

So, even though I think it is a lovely thing to do, there will be no vow renewal for me!

Denae

 

[Nancy]

That sounds wonderful. Must also have meant a lot to your MIL after he passed away. I´m sorry for your loss.

It was nice, and we still talk about it almost 18 years later. Now my DH will not renew vows. He said once was enough!

 

[scrump]

Vow renewals are appealing to me because it truly can be about the couple and it seems like most people leave you alone to do what you want, whereas that isn't always the case with the big wedding industrial complex. I think they're great, and DH is pretty indifferent, so perhaps there will be one in our future as well.

I say go for it, especially since your DH is the one who suggested it, and you genuinely feel that the vows take on a deeper significance today, with everything you two have gone through. Congrats!

 

[we3disneygo]

yes I would go ahead and do it, dh and I met in high school and have been thru some rough times also....

 

[Disney Doll]

We have been to a couple of vow renewals for friends and family in the last couple of years, and I find them almost more meaningful that the original wedding vows in some ways.

For some reason, "for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health" seem to have a lot more meaning when you may have been through some of that stuff, survived it, and still have a thriving marriage.

Celebrate!!!! Life's too short not to celebrate moments.

 

[Freyja]

That´s exactly my point. It somewhat reminds me of those people who say you should hold a small family encounter when you get married but a big lavish reception when you celebrate your 25th. At least then you have proven your commitment and know what you are vowig to.

We might just go ahead.

 

[binny]

Our first wedding was a blur, my dad had just died and I dont remember most of it.

2 years ago for our 10th we finally our took our honeymoon, went to Hawaii and renewed our vows on the beach at sunset

It was amazing and I am SO glad we did it!!

 

[mommaU4]

DH and I have talked about this many times. We are thinking for either our 15th or 20th wedding anniversary we will do it. (This June will be 13 yrs but we've known each other since we were age 13)

We want to do something truly crazy and wacky, nothing serious or stressful. And since we both love Vegas that is something we talked about. Since I don't go to church it wouldn't be a church service. The first time we got married it was outside in a garden setting so maybe another outdoors ceremony would work too.

Anyways, I think you should go for it and have fun!!

 

[SleepyMom]

I think you should go for it, it will be wonderful to have your children there to witness it as well.

Someday I hope that DH and I can do a small renewal, we were married by a JP and only had a small gathering afterwards because of some family issues. I would love a candlelight ceremony in our church, we are at 15 years right now, so maybe for the 20th or 25th.