**Wedding Speech Help Needed for Difficult Situation**

[pixiepower04]

Hi there,

I hope somebody can help because we're a bit stuck.

DH lost his mum almost 2 years ago and shortly afterwards his dad started a relationship, well, now they are due to get married on Saturday and DH is the best man.

Obvisouly as best man DH has to make a speech but we just don't know what to say in the speech or how to word it. Nobody is happy about the wedding, nobody knows the bride well at all and to make matters worse the wedding is taking place just 10 days before the date his mum died.

I hope you bright sparks can point me in the right direction

 

[Mrs Hobbes]

I don't know if you have time but it may pay you to use the services of a professional speech writer (if you pm me I can give you a contact for this)

Also have a look on Hitched.co.uk they have sample speeches so have a read and maybe there will be someone in a similar situation or something that will give you some inspiration

 

[The Fetherstons]

Ahh this is a difficult situation, I dont really have any advice but I hope someone on the dis can help you

My DH father died 11 year ago and his mother now has a boyfriend (not yet married) but there has been talks and DH is really dreading if it does happen, since she met him she has really changed, FAMILIES

Take care

 

[shellbell]

I haven't got any advice but just wanted to send you some and for saturday!

 

[jjk]

havent really got any advice just wanted to send you for saturday

 

[mandymouse]

Oh dear, that is a difficult situation. I wish I could be some help. Good Luck for Saturday

 

[Graeme]

How does your husband feel about the wedding, and has he told his Dad what he thinks?
That aside though, I don't think you need to get too stressed about it. I would imagine that all the guests who've accepted invitations are happy, even if they do has reservations, for your father in law. Your husband isn't being asked to chair a debate on the rights and wrongs of the wedding, or even express an opinion.
If I were him I would concentrate my speech on the good aspects of my relationship with my Dad. Talk about things we'd done together and how much fun we'd had, how we relate to each other etc. You don't need to say too much about the bride, as her father, (or whoever's giving her away), will do that.
It must be an awful situation for your husband and to him, but it can't be much better for his Dad. I'm sure that all the things other people are thinking have already occurred to him and he's dealt with them.
I hope this helps and the day goes well.

 

[Chilly]

All I can offer is to say keep it short, tell a funny story about his Dad (not involving his Mum), some words about what a great father he has been and toasting them a happy marriage. A best mans speech should focus on the Groom.

 

[Queenie]

A best mans speech should focus on the Groom.

I just wanted to second this. Our best man's speech was pretty much entirely focused on DH, the only mention of me really was a standard "the bride looks lovely" it really should focus 99% on the groom. Hopefull he can skirt around the issue without too much trouble. I also recommend Hitched, great speech site.

 

[wilma-bride]

I think Graeme makes some excellent points - your DH is not being asked for his approval. He has agreed to be Best Man and, as such, I think he really needs to say that he is happy for his Dad (even if that's not 100% accurate). Remember it is the bride and groom's day and the speech, as others have said, should focus on the relationship between Best Man and groom so that shouldn't be too difficult. I third (or fourth) the recommendation for Hitched - great site!

And, although nobody else has said it, and I'm sure your DH probably realises but, just in case, in these circumstances it would be considered extremely poor taste for him to mention his Mum.

 

[alisonbestford]

I don't have any advice to offer re speeches (DH arrived at our wedding wearing Vampire fangs and the best man wore a Victorian style brocade jacket and make up........... )
Besides that it looks as though you've got lots of great suggestions already

I would like to send to you all but, mostly, want to say how pleased I am that your FIL has found someone he feels can make him happy

Choosing the wedding date 10 days before your MIL's anniversary isn't the most sensitive way to go but I hope you all have a lovely day on Saturday

 

[natalielongstaff]

Ive no advice but i wanted to say that i hope the day goes well

 

[wils]

Thinking of your DH what a difficult situation

I'd keep it quick and simple. I don't think there is any need to gush and lie about how happy he is for the 'happy couple' just finish by congratulating them and wishing them all the best.

Found this and thought it might help?!

"My father has many close friends so I was surprised when he asked me to be his best man. But on reflection, I think he was swayed by the fact that I know very little about the first thirty years of his life, which therefore puts some rather embarrassing stories out of reach. Or so he thought..."

 

[natalielongstaff]

"My father has many close friends so I was surprised when he asked me to be his best man. But on reflection, I think he was swayed by the fact that I know very little about the first thirty years of his life, which therefore puts some rather embarrassing stories out of reach. Or so he thought..."

thats a good start

 

[Pinky166]

Not really got anything to say that hasn't been said already, but lots of hugs to you & your DH. Just try and relax and have a nice time on Saturday.