Wedding rings

[amberpi]

In my community, there is a gastro pub right by the local park and I take the kids almost daily when in our custody. We stop and get cherry sprites from the bar. Men send me drinks sometimes even though it might be 11:30 and I have 2 small kids with me. My ring doesn’t stop that behavior or change the frequency when I don’t wear it. Men aren’t that fixated on your ring so don’t worry about it.

 

[RangerPooh]

I feel like something is missing when I don;t have mine on. I've thought about buying a silicone band to wear when I'm at the beach or doing an activity that might warrant taking it off. It too needs to be resized, but I don't like going without it and am leary of jewelers stealing my stone.

 

[Nagle]

In my community, there is a gastro pub right by the local park and I take the kids almost daily when in our custody. We stop and get cherry sprites from the bar. Men send me drinks sometimes even though it might be 11:30 and I have 2 small kids with me. My ring doesn’t stop that behavior or change the frequency when I don’t wear it. Men aren’t that fixated on your ring so don’t worry about it.

 

[disneychrista]

In my community, there is a gastro pub right by the local park and I take the kids almost daily when in our custody. We stop and get cherry sprites from the bar. Men send me drinks sometimes even though it might be 11:30 and I have 2 small kids with me. My ring doesn’t stop that behavior or change the frequency when I don’t wear it. Men aren’t that fixated on your ring so don’t worry about it.

Lucky you No matter how many "bars" I hung out in, I've never had a random guy buy me a drink.

 

[Searc]

In my community, there is a gastro pub right by the local park and I take the kids almost daily when in our custody. We stop and get cherry sprites from the bar. Men send me drinks sometimes even though it might be 11:30 and I have 2 small kids with me. My ring doesn’t stop that behavior or change the frequency when I don’t wear it. Men aren’t that fixated on your ring so don’t worry about it.

LOL A bar, you mean?

 

[Traveler Steve]

Personally, I think it's wonderful that you both share your love of gardening with matching weeding rings. I can see the both of you on a fine Saturday morning, back to back with your biggest sheers, decimating those pesky weeds into oblivion! Now you need mowing rings...

(Okay, sorry. I'm single and have no input to the actual question, but I can never resist a typo in a thread title. It's a character flaw.)

 

[disneychrista]

(Okay, sorry. I'm single and have no input to the actual question, but I can never resist a typo in a thread title. It's a character flaw.)

You should try harder to resist.

 

[HopperFan]

To resize my ring to fit me would virtual be the same as buying a new one but at the same time I feel like it states I am single with out it buy my analogy I mean cost

If it's going to cost too much and you feel uncomfortable without a ring .... I would invest in an inexpensive simple band as a symbol of your marriage. There are some really pretty ones now that don't cost too much, especially some sterling silver ones. Or you could look for a ring adjuster that inserts inside or on back of ring, and makes it smaller. My Mom has one.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

Guys are stopping me randomly on the sidewalk I stopped to retie my show and this guy was waiting for me to finish to ask what time the movies open

 

[disneychrista]

Guys are stopping me randomly on the sidewalk I stopped to retie my show and this guy was waiting for me to finish to ask what time the movies open

I don't that had anything to do with your lack of ring. Now if he had ask to go to the movies that would be different.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I dont know it seemed like Sens I took off the ring more guys are staring and it should not be a open invite just because it became impractical to wear a ring

 

[LongLiveRafiki]

I dont know it seemed like Sens I took off the ring more guys are staring and it should not be a open invite just because it became impractical to wear a ring

I'm not trying to doubt you, Tink, but it sounds like you're worried that guys are going to get the wrong impression and approach you more without the ring. Is it possible that maybe because you're worried it will happen, that you are just feeling like more guys are staring at you than what really are? I know when I'm feeling self-conscious about something, I feel like everyone is staring at me, even when they aren't. Most people in public are usually so wrapped up in their own thoughts or staring at their phone.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I'm not trying to doubt you, Tink, but it sounds like you're worried that guys are going to get the wrong impression and approach you more without the ring. Is it possible that maybe because you're worried it will happen, that you are just feeling like more guys are staring at you than what really are? I know when I'm feeling self-conscious about something, I feel like everyone is staring at me, even when they aren't. Most people in public are usually so wrapped up in their own thoughts or staring at their phone.

Good point

 

[Nancyg56]

For some reason mine is 65 to make smaller even though all stones are on top

My daughter just had my moms engagement band resized and was shocked at the cost.

Tink. I agree that rings do not make you married and the lack of a ring will not give mixed signals. Neither my husband not I wear our rings. Ever. My hubby was no slouch when we first married and for a little bit I was worried. He told me his actions screamed married man, and not wearing a ring would not change that. Well later on I went to work in a large call center and did not wear my rings because my fingers swelled. It’s funny, I never shared my marital status but my coworkers knew i was not open to approach for dates. It’s not what you wear, but how you behave.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

My daughter just had my moms engagement band resized and was shocked at the cost.

Tink. I agree that rings do not make you married and the lack of a ring will not give mixed signals. Neither my husband not I wear our rings. Ever. My hubby was no slouch when we first married and for a little bit I was worried. He told me his actions screamed married man, and not wearing a ring would not change that. Well later on I went to work in a large call center and did not wear my rings because my fingers swelled. It’s funny, I never shared my marital status but my coworkers knew i was not open to approach for dates. It’s not what you wear, but how you behave.

Maybe it's me then I am so oblivious to how I act it public my head is in the clouds trying to put one foot in front of the other and figure out what my new normal is

Trust me it's harder then it sounds

 

[bigbabyblues]

My husband has had to have his original wedding ring cut off his finger twice because his fingers swell when he uses a chainsaw--no, he didn't learn he first time. The jeweler told him they won't be able to fix it again, so he bought one of those silicone rings (Qalo, I think?) and just wears that most of the time. He is used to wearing a ring and doesn't like to be without one, and it works fine and was only like $20 or something.

 

[Jasperkitty]

Years ago my husband lost a lot of weight and managed to lose his wedding ring while washing his hands in a public sink. I rememer how pitiful he sounded when he called, and me gently laughing as I reminded him i married him, not the ring. We did replace both his and mine a year later when we renewed our vows, but to us, the rings are only a symbol, not the marriage.

I've known people who've used tatoos, necklaces, bracelets, or nothing at all to symbolize their vows. It's actually pretty common in fields where folks work a lot with their hands. Back when i worked as a massage therapist, I took mine off while working. I still do if I'm doing anything overly messy.

Being married is something that shows in how we act as much as any outward symbol. It's not the hand I watch to see if a couple is together, it's how they relate to each other and act independently that let's me know they're in a committed relationship.

That being said, what does the ring mean to you? We can all have an opinion, but how you feel about having it as a reminder is what matters most. If it's a comfort and reassurance thing, then pay the money and get it resized when you can, find a way to keep it close until you have the budget for it or a placeholder you can use instead.

 

[disneychrista]

Maybe it's me then I am so oblivious to how I act it public my head is in the clouds

In the end how you act in public and how you react if a man is truly hitting on you that matters.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

In the end how you act in public and how you react if a man is truly hitting on you that matters.

I get it as I am putting one foot in front of the other I will definitely pay more attention to my behavior and I always keep myself accountable no excuses

 

[littlejimmy]