Wedding Question......what to do?

[pixiewings71]

Personally if your dh wants you to go I think you should go. Just leave work early and have a good time with friends. I think your DH will be more comfortable with you there, he probably won't have a lot of other friends to hang out with at the ceremony right?

 

[Julia M]

DH and I are invited to a friends wedding in a little over a week. The wedding is on a weekday and at 6pm.

The couple getting married are friends with both DH and I, but not really close friends- the Groom is friends with my DH- used to work together about a year ago- they see each other once a week usually at guys game night. Bride-to-be is friendly to both of us, but not necessarily "friends" with either of us outside of group settings......we've NEVER hung out with this couple outside of a group.

DH wants me to attend the whole ceremony/reception......in order to do this, I'd have to leave work early in order to make it in time.

I'd like to meet him at the wedding after the ceremony for the reception.....I'd be able to finish work, and meet him there right around the time the ceremony ends- 6:30ish and stay for the entire reception.

Id like to know what you Diser's think- Without flames please......Just looking for opinions.

Should I take time off work in order to attend a distant friends wedding ceremony, or should I arrive a little late and stay for the rest of the reception.

In case it makes a difference, the wedding venue is at a location where I could make an entrance without being a distraction to the reception/wedding proceedings.......

There are two issues here. Number one is why would you attend a reception for someone that you feel is too distant of a friend to be worth attending the ceremony for? (with what is probably, in the scheme of things, a small inconvenience in having to leave work a half hour early)

The other issue is that you don't seem to feel it might be important to attend the ceremony for your dh.

Honestly, I'm not trying to flame you. Is there a specific reason why leaving work a half hour early or so is such a huge deal? Unless you have an amazingly good reason, then yes, you should take time off work in order to attend a distant friends wedding ceremony.

But then again, I'm old fashioned. I think in most cases it's tacky beyond belief (this isn't directed at OP, but just in general) to not to bother to attend a ceremony, but then go for the party. (I know there are exceptions, like graduations where there are limited tickets, and other such events, but that is not this case)

Julia