Wedding proposal help, please

[Fawkes05]

OK, let me start by saying I have changed my name for the sake of secrecy. Now that that is out of the way, I am seriously contemplating asking my long-time boyfriend to marry me. Generally I am a bit of an old-fashioned girl, but anytime anyone has asked us when we are getting married, my boyfriend says he is waiting for me to ask him.

Have any of you girls gone the non-traditional route and asked your guy to marry you, or do you know someone that has? I guess what I am most curious about is whether or not you buy him a ring?

Any advice would be great.

Thanks!

 

[scrump]

CONGRATULATIONS!

DH and I didn't have an official proposal, but I feel that of the two of us, it might have been me. Actually, I "brought it up" and he "agreed." No ring involved at that point.

I have known women who proposed, one did have a gift (not a ring), and another just did a romantic weekend thing, but I think if a gift was exchanged, it was not an actual engagement ring.

That being said, if you know your DBF's humor and tastes, then you are probably free to do whatever you want. You can stay under the radar and go casually mundane like I did (or I think I did), or you can go all out gender bender traditional. I suspect if he's already telling people that he's waiting for a proposal from you, he's probably really good natured about it and would love to have a story for people!

Please let us know what you end up doing!

 

[Fawkes05]

Thanks scrump!

Buying him a ring would be hard for two reasons: firstly, he is not into jewellery, so I know he would be very picky; secondly, he is a really big guy, and I don't think it is fair to special order a ring that the jeweller would have a hard time to sell because of the sizing.

 

[kirbsam]

forget the ring. he wont care about it anyway. go to a restaurant and order his favorite beer for yourself, and then ask him if he wants it, and when he says yes, tell him that first he has to marry you. not very romantic, but i would have loved that.

 

[Fawkes05]

Hi kirbsam!

That is true that the ring isn't a big deal for a guy! Unfortunately he does not drink, really, but I like your idea. I should have named the thread "Hey guys, how would you like to be proposed to?"

 

[hlbtimes2]

Do you have go to sporting events together? If so you could check in to having it on the electronic bill board.

You could make signs, each with one word on it and leave them along the road. Then take a trip past them.

You could put it in a fortune cookie.

 

[disykat]

DH and I didn't really have an official proposal. Once when he was talking about "us" as if we'd someday be married, I just asked him what he was referring to. He said he assumed we'd get married. We talked about it some more, agreed we were engaged, set a possible wedding date, and called our families.

I've never really gotten the whole "pop the question" notion. While I understand that some people enjoy that tradition, I figure there shouldn't really be a question involved if you are ready. My advice is that if you decide to "propose", make sure he knows it's coming and will say yes!

 

[Fawkes05]

Well, I don't know 'for sure' if he would say yes, but he has said repeatedly he wants me to do the asking. The last time he did this was at a wedding we attended in front of other members of his family.

 

[luvdzne]

Why won't he ask you :

Order some M&M's they have "will you marry me on them"

You can go to hershey.com and order chocolate bars with will you marry me on them

Can you tell I'm in the mood for chocolate

 

[MsDisney23]

After my DH and I went out on our first date, he called me and ask me if I knew what he was doing? I said "NO". He said well I just came in from outback from digging a hole. I asked why he dug a hole, he said he knows that he is going to need some day to put me in! And my response to him was, yeah well guess what, Your going to buy this cow!

So after dating for several year's, the cow joke became a big thing! Then maybe you ladies remember when everything was coming out in Cow print. I went out and bought alot of this stuff as a joke! That year for his birthday, I came him a surpirse party. I went and had a cake made in the shape of a cow. On the ear had them put on it for sale, and the cowbell was my name, and instead of saying Happy Birthday, I had them put on it, "BUY ME".

Several months later DH took me out and said to me, that he wanted to buy a cow! OK, so I did not get it at all, I still just thought of it as the two of joking, etc. He then said to me, I want to get married!

So whatever you do, make it something fun and good luck!

 

[Fawkes05]

Thank-you all for your advice!

Sounds like the ring is probably out at this point. I guess the sky is the limit!