Wedding List/Registry

[~*Belle 2003*~]

Well I never! I can't remember the title of the thread that was posted yesterday about "do you like registries", but we received our invitation today from my DNephew & GF to their wedding.

Grrrrrrrrrr- complete with a card that tells us all about the store and when the list is available.

I love the idea of registries/wedding lists but don't agree with them being included in with the invite.

C'est la vie!

Edited to add: Wedding Showers are not common here in the UK!!!

 

[coliebird]

I replied with invite, but I don't think it should go in a wedding invitation. I've never seen one in a wedding invitation. They go with the bridal shower invitations. Around here, no one gives gifts at weddings, they give checks. Gifts are given at engagement parties and bridal showers.

 

[cassi06403]

As a recent bride, I can say that ettiquette says not to put the registry info with the wedding invitation. You can include it with SHOWER invitations, but other than that, it should be spread by word of mouth!

I personally think it is quite tacky to include it with your invitations.

--Cassi

 

[TerriP]

I replied "ask if you want to know" because if you're not invited to a shower (where it is acceptable to list a registry) you might not know where the couple is registered.

I agree with the OP...don't put the registry list in the actual wedding invitation.

 

[cassi06403]

Around here, no one gives gifts at weddings, they give checks. Gifts are given at engagement parties and bridal showers.

Quite a few of my guests were from New York and I recieved gifts as well as checks both sent to my house and brought to the wedding...

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by cassi06403
As a recent bride, I can say that ettiquette says not to put the registry info with the wedding invitation. You can include it with SHOWER invitations, but other than that, it should be spread by word of mouth!

I personally think it is quite tacky to include it with your invitations.

--Cassi

Ditto - shower invite ONLY!

Just like Cassi, I'm from the northeast too...this is perfectly acceptable up here. Down south it may be different though.

 

[skuttle]

I'm from the south and have been here all my life...

Only okay in shower invite. For wedding, ask someone close to the bride and groom where they are registered.

 

[Aimeedyan]

TACKY TACKY TACKY in the wedding invite.

Okay in the shower.

And I'm in an area that ONLY give gifts, I only received 2 checks at the wedding. It's the norm to do gifts, and people still figure out where you are registered if they want to

 

[lilpritch04]

As a recent bride, I would never put my registry list or list of stores in my invitation! It is quite presumptuous to think that your guests are buying you a gift. It is OK in the shower invitations because the people putting on the shower are not supposed to be directly connected to the bride--her mom, sisters, etc (aunts and MIL are fine)
Anyway, in areas that give gifts, most people know the common places to register and can figure it out--in MN, most register at Marshall Field's. In places that give cash, they don't need to know where you're registered.

 

[CamColt]

Ok in the shower invite, not in the wedding.

From my experience, most people give gifts for the shower and cash/checks for the wedding.
Personally I like when people register and put the cards in the shower invite because it makes shopping easy and you know they will like what you get. If theres nothing that fits my budget on the list or still available I will get a gift card to one of the stores they are registered at so it can go toward something they want but didnt get.

 

[Fire14]

In shower invite or by word of mouth. No info in wedding invite. I put ours on our newsletter since guests were so scattered.

 

[~*Belle 2003*~]

 

[battricia]

I personally would like it w/ the invite. It's just a lot easier for me, and then I know what they want, and if someone has already gotten it, and don't have to ask. Also, (this was for a baby shower but same thing basically), my best friend is having a baby and just had her shower. I got the invite w/ no registry in it, and so I asked her mother in law who's holding the shower. She didn't know, so I had to ask her if she was registered anywhere. Then she kindof knew and wouldn't stop harrassing me as to when it was coming (she really doesn't like showers or surprises). I'm sure a bunch of other people had to ask her too. So if you ask me, it's just easier to know.


tricia.

 

[~*Belle 2003*~]

 

[Laura]

Yeah, it's not okay to put it in the wedding invitation, because that says, "come to my wedding to give me a present".

Brides and grooms don't throw their own showers (or aren't supposed to, due to etiquette) so with a shower invitation, the person throwing the shower is asking the guests to "shower" the bride-to-be with gifts. So for convenience the person includes registry information.

 

[Nutsy]

Not in with the invite.............the invited guests can always ask the prospective bride & groom about gifts etc at a later date

 

[totalia]

I like it. It takes some of the work out of it. Put it in the wedding invite please. Don't make me guess.