Wedding Issues

[WDWINJUNE!]

I am beginning to get stressed out about our wedding. A month ago, we decided to have an intimate disney wedding. The problem is that I was going to have my stepdad walk me down the isle, but now that has changed. My stepdad is severely afraid of flying and says that he won't be able to make it. I thought at first, he might change his mind, but I'm beginning to think that he's not going to.
My mom says that she is coming no matter what, but right now I'm not sure what to do This is my dream wedding that I've always wanted but now I might not have anyone to walk me down the isle. Of course we still have 5 months for him to change his mind. Has anyone else here not had anyone walk them down the isle?? Thanks for letting me vent

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

Actually I will be walking myself down the aisle. To make a long story short, my parent's had a not so pleasent divorce, and when the subject came up my mom and dad were ready to fight out who would walk me down the aisle, so I thought it would be easier if I just walked myself down the aisle. If you don't feel comfortable with the idea you can have your mom walk you down the aisle, or you can possibly bring up the idea of a family roadtrip to Orlando that way your step-dad would be there for sure. I notice you're from Washington, so it would be a very long drive with a few stops at night, but it might be worth it to still have your dream wedding.

 

[christineangel]

I chose to walk myself down the aisle even though my parents were both there. But don't give up on your stepdad just yet. A friend of mine had a terrible phobia of (of all things) taxidermy! yep afraid of stuffed heads and such. She was limited on the resturants she could go to, homes she could visit and even stores she shopped at because of it. Then her mom heard of someone who cured phobias over the phone and after a few phone sessions with him, she was much better. They still make her edgy but she doesn't avoid them or faint at the sight of them. Anyway, my point is if it means a lot to you, suggest something of the sort to him- i'm sure he would love not being limited by his fear of flying. just a thought

 

[J and R's mom]

Your mom's been there throughout your whole life. I think it'd be special to have her walk you down the aisle. Even if your stepfather manages to make it, you might consider letting both of them walk you down the aisle.

 

[Tinkerbelle14]

Personally, I am letting both my parents walk me down the aisle. But if you really wanted it to be your step-dad let him know that, but say that if he can't make it you're going to ask your mom, just so he knows you are not replacing him.

 

[twojo21]

you could always have your mom walk you down the aisle. hope it all works out.

 

[bridegirl]

For our wedding, I walked myself up the aisle - my Dad had passed away a few years earlier and I didn't want to "replace" him, although my mom and/or stepdad would have been happy to walk me.

Since then, I have had the extreme pleassure of being walked up the aisle, at our vow renewals - by my children.

Do what feels right in your heart, and don't worry about traditions or expectations - it's your day!!!

 

[WDWINJUNE!]

Thank you everyone for the responses....I feel better about the situation now. I guess I was too worried about tradition...but I still feel bad because he won't be there. I will probably have my mom do it since my daughter is going to be our flower girl. Thanks again!

 

[dreams91]

This is my dream wedding that I've always wanted but now I might not have anyone to walk me down the isle. Of course we still have 5 months for him to change his mind. Has anyone else here not had anyone walk them down the isle?? Thanks for letting me vent

I didn't have anyone walk me down the isle. I was wed in the pavillion. My dad passed away 2 years before the wedding. In my eyes, no one could or should take his place. I chose to walk alone. I don't think I could have made a better choice. You can do it!

 

[hiwaygal]

I walked by myself...mostly because there was no one else there!

However, if I would have chosen anyone, it would have been my brother...but that's not important...

Remember when you were little? Did you pretend that your husband walked you down the aisle? Well, I have heard of some brides who have their groom sort of meet them halfway...as another "symbol" of them meeting "halfway" in their lives and coming together to form one family...I thought that was cool too!! Just another idea!

 

[lpizzuro123]

How about an alternate means of transportation. Both my boyfriend and I are not crazy about flying. We have driven and taken Amtrak to Orlando. We live in NJ so it is about a 22 hour trip, but we make that part of our vacation. It says your location is Washington, so I imagine you mean the state of Washington and not DC. I am sure it is a very long train ride from Washington but it might be something you could look into. Your mom and stepdad could add this to their vacation. It would be a shame for them both not to be there to celebrate your day.

Linda

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

I walked by myself...mostly because there was no one else there!

However, if I would have chosen anyone, it would have been my brother...but that's not important...

Remember when you were little? Did you pretend that your husband walked you down the aisle? Well, I have heard of some brides who have their groom sort of meet them halfway...as another "symbol" of them meeting "halfway" in their lives and coming together to form one family...I thought that was cool too!! Just another idea!

I LOVE that idea! And yes, when I was little I thought the bride and groom walked down the aisle together.

 

[J and R's mom]

I...Well, I have heard of some brides who have their groom sort of meet them halfway...as another "symbol" of them meeting "halfway" in their lives and coming together to form one family...I thought that was cool too!! Just another idea!

Now that's a great idea!

 

[Honeibee]

Dreams91....Can I just tell you, I LOVE that picture of you! What a pretty girl you are and what a beautiful smile! You look stunning and what a great picture!

Just thought I'd tell you that. I think it every time I see one of your posts.




OK, back to the original post. Hijacking over.

 

[melmel]

My DF and I are walking down together, I had no interest in being given away. I'm an adult and I'm coming to the wedding of my own mind so we will come together to show that we are together in the marriage.

Melissa

P.S. Sunset Pointe has a LONNNG asile so if your shy you may want to have someone walk with you it's a long way to be stared at for the whole thing.

 

[Laurafoster]

Thats a really beautiful idea!