Wedding gifts - what do you usually give?

[CoP Luv]

I think it is a regional thing too. We just got married and got only a handful of actual gifts and the majority in monety gifts. That's just how my family works. I have given $100 or $200 if DH is with me. I was in a wedding for a good friend and gave a little bit more. It really depends though. We got a wide range of gifts. I do always buy something from the registry though for showers. That way, I know it is something they want. We have so much random stuff that we got that we would never use and cannot return it.

I just have one things against toasting flutes. We have so many different sets because everyone thinks they are a great idea. We have only used one so far and we have had the majority of them since we had our engagement party or showers (months ago).

 

[Tabetha]

Very true! It's always the right style, color, and size!

Here in Canada, our money is all different colours - so there's probably some colours you'd like to see more of than others!

 

[Angel16]

Wow...where I live people give gifts sometimes, cash others, sometimes nothing at all. Our DD got married a little while back. We did a big wedding with sit-down dinner, DJ, the whole bit. Everyone had a wonderful time (at least that is what we all were told). Many people gave checks with $25 - $50 and many of the bridel party did not give a gift at all. Which was fine with B&G as well as the families. The wedding party has so many expenses with clothing, shower, Groom night out, as well as some of them had to travel to get to town. We were very thankful that so many people came and celebrated the marrage of our children.

I would never want someone not to attend because of a gift.

 

[*Valdez*]

When DH and I got married we got a range of gifts, mostly money and the value mostly ranged from $25- $100. We did have this one family, a family of four, two parents and two teenagers, and by the way they were not invited. They gave us a gift of $4, yes I said four dollars. I have never forgotten this and probably never will, it was only 4 years ago. We always try and give appropriate gifts depending on how well we know the couple. Can you believe $4, I mean that didn't even cover their iced tea!

 

[PRPrincess1081]

I guess I must be very generous..I have been to 2 weddings the last year the 1st one we gave $300 and the other one we gave $500..
Now that I see what everyone else gives I will go with $100

 

[DisBride2007]

I live in NJ and there is always only a "money box" or "card box"- people give cash or check and showers are almost always when registry items are purchased- although sometimes closer family members buy things like a patio set or a washer or dryer.

Weddings- pretty much starts at $100/per person and can double based on circumstances.

We're going to a NJ wedding this weekend and I'm planning on giving $100 for the two of us. I had to argue with DH to even give that amount. I really, really, really hope that it will not be viewed as too little. I didn't think about how it should be "per person," especially since my DH has never met either the bride or groom, but I guess we will obviously both be eating.

I just didn't realize people gave that much money for weddings. We didn't get any checks over $100 except from a friend of DH's family who is a millionaire and known for showing off his money, and from my grandfather who is always very generous with gifts (obviously our parents as well). Most of our gifts from our registry were for less than that amount as well.

 

[boo2you]

Now I have a gift card for over $200 at Tiffany that I will likely never use...on!

I'd be more than happy to take that off your hands!

 

[imnotaprincess]

DF and I usually take into consideration where the wedding/reception is being held and try to guesstimate what the cost per person is. Generally, we don't give anything less than $100 per person attending. If it's family, we generally toss in a little something extra.

However, I think you need to take into consideration what you can afford to give. Really, it's not about the gift itself, but the thought. We're fortunate that we can give a little more, and for that, I'm thankful. That is, until we finish paying off ours! I mean, really, I got a tally of what we've paid yesterday, and gee, I could have bought a car!

 

[dalepool]

I love pitures in ornate picture frames. The last wedding I sent a gift to I included a 3x5 frame that was in the shape of a wedding cake-- 3 teir and embellished with flowers. It was in moderate tones so could be used living room den office or bedroom. I like to send one that size then one next size bigger and a 5x7 lastly. I take care picking out for each couple. If they are not happy it is something that they could use to give a picture to a family member -- parents of couple.

I msut admit if I buy a waterford frame I usually only buy one as those are 125-175.

waterford water and wine glasses have been another favorite to give. But with the price so high now days if not on registery where i can get 2 I do not buy as they may never use just two. 4-6 would be a nice number.

Thanks for letting me share my ideas

Oh and yes i would love the tiffany gift card.

 

[kingLouiethe1]

I mean, really, I got a tally of what we've paid yesterday, and gee, I could have bought a car!

We were talking about this the other day, I could have had a car for the money we're spending on this, and not just a car, probly a beemer

I think it would bring me much less joy to have a nice car though

 

[disneyberry]

Yeah nowadays, weddings in the NY/NJ area cost way more than $100/pp usually. It's an old number now that I think about it, considering my parents gave $100/pp starting a long time ago, and inflation would make that more nowadays theoretically! LOL

Glad to see that other northeast folks also give money as a gift. My fiance and I are really hoping for money gifts from our guests (mostly from northeast) and I actually never knew that giving money was so common in the region. We haven't mentioned a thing to our guests 'cause we know it's rude to say anything, but we've been to 2 of our friends' weddings and gave money, so we're hoping they reciprocate, hehe.

 

[Luvndisney]

It does depend on the area of the country you are in. In the Northeast it is common and expected that guests (if they can afford) pay for as close to the cost of their plate as possible. So for a couple you're talking 250 to 300 for each wedding you attend. If its family...you give closer to 400 or 500 each wedding. The weddigns here are out of control though and are some of the highest...the typical weddings costsa well over 50k so i think thats where teh amount comes from.

Also, it is common to give checks in the Northeast....very rarely gifts given at the wedding.

 

[ZPT1022]

When DH and I got married we got a range of gifts, mostly money and the value mostly ranged from $25- $100. We did have this one family, a family of four, two parents and two teenagers, and by the way they were not invited. They gave us a gift of $4, yes I said four dollars. I have never forgotten this and probably never will, it was only 4 years ago. We always try and give appropriate gifts depending on how well we know the couple. Can you believe $4, I mean that didn't even cover their iced tea!

That's just odd about the $4. It almost would have been less noticeable if they just gave you a nice card. While the thought is still nice it really is just such an odd amount


thinking about it, it must be something about uninvited guests and odd gifts. We invited no children to our wedding- my family is just too big and there had to be somewhere to cut- my mom is one of nine kids and I have over 50 cousins just from that side of the family. So anyhow, no kids invited. well my Dad's sister offers to babysit for her niece (we found this out from the girls parents years later) and brings her to our wedding. I swear my aunt wrapped up this little framed poem from her house from the little girl. It is just odd.