Wedding Gift?

[noseybuddy]

DH and I are go to a wedding at Atlantis in the Bahamas. I have never met the couple who is getting married, they are friends of my husband which he works with. We get a discount on the room, but we pay for the flight and hotel ourselves. It has been awhile since I have gone to a wedding. My question is, what amount of money for a wedding gift is appropriate to give. I know you give what you want or what you can afford, but I am curious what the average amount given is.

 

[shirleyb]

If you do a search of threads on this board, you'll find different parts of the country and different socio-economic groups give anywhere from $25 to $500. In my neck of the woods, $100 would be very generous for a friend or co-worker, in some areas, that would be cheap.

 

[mjkacmom]

I agree - it's a regional thing. Here in NJ, I would probably give $300 - $400, since I already spent so much to get there (although that is somewhere that I would LOVE to go...). I would give more to a close friend or family member.

 

[jspahn]

Considering you are already paying for your own hotel and flight just to go to this wedding, I think $150 would be fine - especially for a co-worker!

 

[Linzybrooke]

I think when you are traveling for a wedding you can give less due to the cost of the travel. This may just be me though! When we got married we had lots of people that I grew up with in Minnesota come to Texas for the wedding and we considered the presence as part of their gift.

For my sisters wedding my best friend got her a 20.00 gift card and put the gift card in a picture frame. I bet it cost a total of 30 and it was a very cute, practical gift since my sister was going to have to travel with it. The frame made it a little more personal than just a gift card.

 

[Christopher Robin]

OT, but you are going to LOVE Atlantis.

 

[noseybuddy]

They live in NY, both have high paying jobs, not that, that should matter. But like a previous poster said, this trip is costing us money, and it isn't a cheap triip. I didn't really want to go, but DH really wants to. We have been there before, and this wedding just happens to fall at the same time as our 20th Anniversary. I had my heart set on going to Hawaii. Sorry got sidetracked here. I just don't want my gift to look cheap.

 

[ducklite]

We just attended a destination wedding that fortunately was held in FL, so our travel expenses were just gas and tolls and parking.

We gave the couple $200 in cash and an "inside joke" gift with almost no value. She is a good friend from NJ. She loved the joke gift more than the cash I think!

Anne

 

[Linzybrooke]

They live in NY, both have high paying jobs, not that, that should matter. But like a previous poster said, this trip is costing us money, and it isn't a cheap triip. I didn't really want to go, but DH really wants to. We have been there before, and this wedding just happens to fall at the same time as our 20th Anniversary. I had my heart set on going to Hawaii. Sorry got sidetracked here. I just don't want my gift to look cheap.

You know, for our wedding we got gifts of 24.00 cash/cards, some for 100.00 and others that were more expensive. I didn't think a single person who gave us anything was cheap, I was simply glad they had attended our wedding. Don't worry about it, just give what you are comfortable giving and have fun!

 

[WhatATreat]

We got anywhere from $10.00 (from hubby's boss at the time) to several hundred dollars (from parents) for our wedding. The rule of thumb around here seems to be $50.00 per person though so if we go as a couple we give $100.00 and if our son is invited we give $150.00.

 

[pfishgirl]

we got $100-$200 from friends and $300 - $500 from Family members..

Maybe he will Surprise you at the Atlantis for your Anniversary... or Surprise him.. so you have a Romantic day Alone..

 

[noseybuddy]

we got $100-$200 from friends and $300 - $500 from Family members..

Maybe he will Surprise you at the Atlantis for your Anniversary... or Surprise him.. so you have a Romantic day Alone..

Maybe I will give between $100 and $200.

I really shouldn't complain about going there, I sound like a spoiled brat. Atlantis is a beautiful resort, and they have expanded it since I have been there. We are staying an extra day or two. DH is really trying to please me on this trip. We are staying at The Cove which is the newest hotel, so that is nice.

 

[PrincessMom2002]

Considering you don't know the couple, it's a co-worker of DH's, and you have travel expenses, I'd think $100.00 would be extremely acceptable. Around here we give $50.00 for relatives or good friends, and $25.00 if we are co-workers or casual acquaintences. That sounds cheap compared to other parts of the country! I'm sure as we get older our gift amounts will go up, but we aren't in the financial situation to give more at this point. At my wedding we got anywhere from $15 (college aged friends) to $1000 (our parents) and we didn't think that anybody's gifts were cheap!

 

[mickeyfan2]

I give far less at t destination wedding. I would give no more than $100.

 

[Chilehead Too]

For a destination wedding I would give less than one at home. Typically we give 250.00ish unless it's close friend or family member. I might give 150.00 for this.

 

[sugarpie]

I never give more than $100. I would never spend that much $$$ to go to a co-workers wedding, though. I guess I'm cheap.

 

[noseybuddy]

I never give more than $100. I would never spend that much $$$ to go to a co-workers wedding, though. I guess I'm cheap.

Well DH has been friends with one of them for years, but because they live in NY I just never got to meet them. I can understand why he wants to go, but yes it isn't cheap, not too happy about that.

 

[Tony-NJ]

depending on who it is - but a co-worker and a destination wedding - I probably wouldn't go higher than $200. Normally we give between $250-$400.

 

[clh2]

OT, but you are going to LOVE Atlantis.

Oh yeah...it is gorgeous.