Wedding Gift

[Debbie]

Good morning! Just wondering what the going "rate" for a wedding gift is these days. Thanks for any suggestions!

 

[mrs.explorer1977]

Depends...

We usually give cash. If it's friends, we do $50 per person attending (so for us, $100). If family, I would do $75 - $100 per person attending.

For showers, I give gifts, usually of the registry. I used to think that it was "cheating" to buy off the couples' registry, until we got married. Couples register for a reason -- and all the things on the list, you know they're going to like and want.

Hope that helps at least a bit...

 

[madonna31]

I just returned from a wedding and put $150 per person. However, depending on who it is, I have put anywhere between $100 up to $250 per person.

The plate alone cost anywhere between $75-$125, so we cover the plate and then the rest is a gift. Now-a-days more and more couples are paying for weddings themselves (rather then their parents) so I like to make sure I cover the cost of my plate.

 

[mickeywho?]

The plate alone cost anywhere between $75-$125, so we cover the plate and then the rest is a gift. Now-a-days more and more couples are paying for weddings themselves (rather then their parents) so I like to make sure I cover the cost of my plate.

Same with us. If it's a more informal (or less costly) wedding (ie.backyard BBQ) I would give about a bit less but generally we give about $100 per person. If we go to a shower or stag that factors in as well.
Etiquette says give what you can afford - I'm sure the bride and groom would not be happy knowing it is a strain to anyone to attend their wedding. It's supposed to be a festive occasion not a worry.

 

[drag n' fly]

Wow thanks for updating me. I have always given a 100 dollar gift card as a gift. I didn't realize that was the going rate...I better get with the times huh!

 

[Donald - my hero]

Oh dear. If that is the case I guess no-one had better invite us to any more weddings then. We just can not simply afford those prices. Yeah I know that most believe following the registry is required but what if I find a great gift that is on sale that I KNOW suits the couple? And uhm .... we never got cash for our wedding and I doubt if most of our gifts cost the same amount of the meal. Heck my inlaws only gave us a stupid ceramic BELL (I guess their way of expressing their displeasure of hubby's choice )

Oh well consider me one totally outta touch women

 

[PoohPrincess76]

DH and I just got married in July, most people did around $50 for us. Some did more, some less. I have always thought it wasn't the cost, but the thought. If we do cash we usually do $50. If we do a gift, it could be less, I like sales!!!

 

[hockey mom]

Wow - Perfect timing for this discussion.

We have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It is a noon weeding with a cottage yard reception bbq until about 6. No dancing .

I was going to give $100 but everyone else said that was way to much and that I should give $50. That seemed to low to me so I settled on $75.

 

[mbb]

We just went to a co-workers daughter's wedding last weekend...

Wedding at 7pm, backyard of their family farm/cottage on the shore, light refreshments type thing.

It was very nice, and we stayed for an hour or so after the wedding. Lots of family and friends had brought their tents and set up their own accomodations for the night - and I'm sure, had a ball! Lots of guitars and fiddles warming up for the evening's festivities

Never met the bride and groom...they had registered at Canadian Tire.

So we purchased a $50 gift Card

Were we too cheap?
Hope not!

 

[madonna31]

Oh dear. If that is the case I guess no-one had better invite us to any more weddings then. We just can not simply afford those prices

Like another poster said; proper etiquette is to give what you can afford. These people have invited YOU to their wedding, your presence alone on their special day is your wedding gift to them.

I should mention that I have a large European background, where it's *in my best Tony Soprano voice* expected to give money at weddings over a gift from the registry.

 

[mickeywho?]

I should mention that I have a large European background, where it's *in my best Tony Soprano voice* expected to give money at weddings over a gift from the registry.

My husband is italian so his family weddings are the same. I couldn't understand why they never registered for gifts. I always thought giving cash was lazy and planned a personal gift for the couple. Now they have learned to register for a least a few items or the crazy irish relative will give a handknit afghan!

 

[snowwite]

We got married in 2004 and most people gave 50.00 if they gave a cash gift.My Sis in law gave us a 100. home depot card which was a huge help and my folks and his each gave us 100 gift.
I have never heard of "covering your plate".
We provided a lobster bake which was pretty expensive but since I invited guests I never expected anyone to feel they were obligated to pay for thier meal.
My sister gave us a homemade gift and his brothers and sisiters didnt even bring cards with nice wishes.
We are going to a wedding next month and I am planning to make a nice gift basket.

 

[F4disneyfan]

We gave 50 bucks to a co worker of mine and a crystal punch bowl from their registry total about 150.00

 

[madonna31]

I have never heard of "covering your plate".

Again, I come from (or rather my DH comes from) a large European background where proper etiquette of 'only giving what you can afford' is thrown right out the window. Am I the only one here who's seen The Godfather?

Personally, there is nothing better than a homemade gift for a wedding. I have a homemade Mickey and Minnie card given to me by a co-worker; which I shadow boxed it and it's hanging in my bedroom. Personal touch goes a lot farther then cash, as it's what you remember years down the road.

 

[Scratch42]

Again, I come from (or rather my DH comes from) a large European background where proper etiquette of 'only giving what you can afford' is thrown right out the window. Am I the only one here who's seen The Godfather?

Personally, there is nothing better than a homemade gift for a wedding. I have a homemade Mickey and Minnie card given to me by a co-worker; which I shadow boxed it and it's hanging in my bedroom. Personal touch goes a lot farther then cash, as it's what you remember years down the road.

I hear you on that one!

 

[snowwite]

Again, I come from (or rather my DH comes from) a large European background where proper etiquette of 'only giving what you can afford' is thrown right out the window. Am I the only one here who's seen The Godfather?

Personally, there is nothing better than a homemade gift for a wedding. I have a homemade Mickey and Minnie card given to me by a co-worker; which I shadow boxed it and it's hanging in my bedroom. Personal touch goes a lot farther then cash, as it's what you remember years down the road.

I agree.I took my aunt's invitation and used it on the front of the lace and beaded wedding albumn that I made them. It is unique.My uncle passed away and she said that she treasures the album and the pictures inside.