wedding gift help

[teh fish]

One of my friends is getting married next week and I'm having trouble thinking of gifts. I've known her for about three years but I've rarely seen her this year.

I'm thinking split $50 between Pier One and Home Depot. Suggestions?

 

[Aimeedyan]

Did you check out their registry? If you don't want to buy something off of that, gift certificates to those stores are often VERY appreciated so they can fill in the gaps of things they didn't get.

I think every newlywed can use GCs for Home Depot, and I love Pier 1! I know when we married, we needed tons of BASIC stuff, not decorative stuff, so things off our registry and GCs to the places we registered we the most helpful. But I know lots of couples alreayd have basic things and enjoy getting more decorative/fun stuff.

Good luck!

 

[teh fish]

where do I find if they have a registry?

 

[CBRorBust]

Oh my goodness...you have to be a guy! LOL


Okay...there are a few ways you can find out where they are registered. You can either ask them, ask anyone in their family, or you can get on theknot.com and do a search for them and see if anything comes up.

Here is the link to theknot.com's registry finder

http://www.theknot.com/kr_giftreg.shtml


I promise if they registered for it, you cannot go wrong buying it! Otherwise Cash is always a great gift!

 

[teh fish]

yes, I'm a guy and proud of it. Ok, I asked a friend and she pointed me to Target. Nothing but cookware. Is that well recieved as a gift?

 

[deirdrefitch]

When in doubt, a gift certificate is always best.

 

[Beth76]

If they are registered for it, then it will be a welcome gift. However, I had some friends who just got married and they registered for a metal step stool. There was NO WAY I was going to get that as a wedding gift.

Gift Certificates are always good. You might also want to try the big department stores in your area. And, of course, you could ask them or a family member too. Don't worry it's not tacky to ask where someone is registered.

Oh and don't forget to give the gift receipt too. Just in case.

 

[ladytemptra3]

If they are registered somewhere, they usually include that in the invitation. We went to a shower yesterday. The bride-to-be received things like: cookie jar, candy dish, picture frames, candles, nighties (especially appreciated if your a friend of the guy), silverware, plates, guest album (for the wedding guests to sign), towels, coffee pot, etc.

I hope this helps. I'm rooting for ya!

 

[trishy]

Instead of a gift certificate, could you give them a check (not cash - it may get lost in the mounds of cards and presents)? We always do that and the newlyweds love it - they can take that $$ anywhere they choose. Just an idea.

 

[Kimberle]

I almost always give cash as a wedding gift. I give a "gift" gift at the shower.

If I do send a "gift" for the wedding, then it would be a nice piece of crystal from Tiffany's.

 

[auntpolly]

Call the bride's mom and ask where she's registered. Wait until you see -- she's already picked out a bazillion things that she want you and others to buy her!

 

[Aimeedyan]

Yes, cookware is good. If you're uncertain, or don't want to spend that much, get a GC to Target, since they are already registered there and will likely need tons more things.

=)

 

[Disney Doll]

I generally give cash as a wedding gift, and try to give enough to sort of "cover" my meal.

In my area, most banquet places charge at least $60-$75 a head for a meal, so I usually give at least that per person(if DH and I get invited, I go $150. If I am invited alone I go $75).

Of course, if it's someone I feel closer to, I may go more.

That's the geneal rule of thumb I use.

 

[mickeyfan1]

Originally posted by Beth76
If they are registered for it, then it will be a welcome gift. However, I had some friends who just got married and they registered for a metal step stool. There was NO WAY I was going to get that as a wedding gift.

Gosh, I hope someone else does then. While you may find it odd to give a step stool, the bride and groom obviously see the need to have one and thus placed it on their registry.

As far as "Cover the Plate", untill I started reading wedding thread on this board, I had never heard of such a thing. It sounds very odd to me. Why would anyone feel the need to spend what they percieve to be an amount equal to the cost of the meal for the wedding gift? Why not more, after all the couple and/or their parents also may have paid for the invitations, postage, flowers, hall rental, party favors, photographer, videographer, DJ or Band, etc, etc, etc. What if you get invited to a punch and cake reception? Do you give a gift equal to the price of a slice of cake and 2 cups of punch? I am not faulting anyone for doing the "price of the meal", I just don't understand where it came from and why it seems to be expected.

 

[HollyJoy]

Is it tacky these days to do a Gift Card ?

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by HollyJoy
Is it tacky these days to do a Gift Card ?

not at all.

DH and I received MANY gift cards to Sears when we got married...which was great (we were not registered there) as we had just bought a new house and needed to buy ALL new appliances upon returning from our honeymoon.

Also - we didn't registered for much (only registetered at Linens-N-Things and Filenes) after my shower, most of my registery was bought up. I didn't 'add' to it, becuase I didn't NEED anything else. (DH and I had lived together before getting married) However, we still recieved a few gift cards to both places...which was nice to go and pick out some random things that I didn't want to register for (like candles/cleaning supplies/shower curtain liner...heheh)

I will say, 98% of our guests gave us a check or cash at the wedding...I think we only opened 3 or 4 wrapped gifts. (This is very normal in the North East.)

 

[stinkerbelle]

double post - sorry