Wedding Cake Food Fight

[jdb in AZ]

My niece got married yesterday. They had a casual wedding dinner afterward and the bride smeared frosting all over the top of the groom's bald head. She had a piece of cake stuck to the side of her face. They had fun, and that's the important thing, but (call me old) I think it's disrespectful and was glad I didn't have to clean up the carpeted floor afterward.

Thoughts?

 

[PrincessShmoo]

My niece got married yesterday. They had a casual wedding dinner afterward and the bride smeared frosting all over the top of the groom's bald head. She had a piece of cake stuck to the side of her face. They had fun, and that's the important thing, but (call me old) I think it's disrespectful and was glad I didn't have to clean up the carpeted floor afterward.

Thoughts?

When we married, I told my soon-to-be-husband, "if you smash the cake in my face, the marriage is over". And he knew I meant it.

 

[JaxDad]

I went to the wedding of a guy in my military unit many years ago. He was egged on to smash some cake into his bride’s face when feeding her, and she was not happy! She yelled at him, started crying, and locked herself into the bathroom for quite a while. It was incredibly awkward and quiet in the room after that. She was eventually coaxed back out by a friend or sister, and the reception ended somewhat normally. They were divorced a few years later.

 

[Disneylover99]

Yuck. Feed a piece of cake to each other if you must, but the whole idea of smearing it on one another for fun seems dumb. I wouldn’t want to clean that carpet either.

We posed for pictures pretending to cut into a fake cake. Crisis averted. Lol.

 

[_19disnA]

I can recall going to weddings many years ago where this seemed like a common practice. Always found it a bit odd. Weddings we have attended more recently no longer seem to do this somewhat bizarre practice. Have no idea what the origin or meaning of it is, but glad it is no longer a common practice.

 

[ronandannette]

This is totally not a thing that's done here, thank the Lord. I've never seen it except on TV and in the movies. It strikes me as being completely absurd.

 

[kymom99]

I’ve been married twice. Didn’t smash cake either time.

 

[tvguy]

I’ve been married twice. Didn’t smash cake either time.

I'm sensing a pattern here. LOL

 

[kymom99]

I'm sensing a pattern here. LOL

I’ve been married 26 years this second time.

 

[slo]

When we married, I told my soon-to-be-husband, "if you smash the cake in my face, the marriage is over". And he knew I meant it.

Sounds familiar - I said something very similar to my DH.

I never understood the desire to want to do this - always seemed very immature to me.

 

[jeff_h]

I never understood the desire to want to do this - always seemed very immature to me.

I agree - there's only one place for pictures of cake smushed all over the face, and that's a baby's 1st birthday party.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Another vote for NO cake-smashing. DH and I agree that was not our kind of tradition.

 

[KayMichigan]

It's a trust issue. If you tell your partner "I don't want you to do this" and they do it anyway because they think it's "funny" or because their friends told them to, that means they don't really care what you want. And things won't improve from there.

 

[evilmommie]

Just no on the cake smashing. IMHO.

Haven’t seen that happen at the 2 weddings I’ve been to this year. In fact, the cake ceremony was very touching and loving. Don’t get the aggressive cake deal at some weddings. To each their own, I guess.

 

[tvguy]

Well, I learned something today. Apparently cake smashing has it's roots in ancient Rome. Never ever occurred to me to do that.

https://www.marthastewart.com/7898539/wedding-cake-smash-history

 

[tcufrog]

It seems like a waste of some perfectly good cake.

 

[ronandannette]

It's a trust issue. If you tell your partner "I don't want you to do this" and they do it anyway because they think it's "funny" or because their friends told them to, that means they don't really care what you want. And things won't improve from there.

I agree it would be very hurtful to have your bride/groom pull a stunt when you'd specifically asked them not to. But I disagree with the bolded. It could be a real "come to Jesus moment" that gets things headed in a better direction. Didn't we all have things to adapt to with one another and work through, especially in the early years of marriage?

 

[E&Cmom]

Hate it. Such a waste of good cake

 

[Disney_Alli]

When we married, I told my soon-to-be-husband, "if you smash the cake in my face, the marriage is over". And he knew I meant it.

Sounds familiar - I said something very similar to my DH.

I never understood the desire to want to do this - always seemed very immature to me.

I absolutely told my husband the same thing before our wedding. We also had two more days of pictures in our wedding clothes to get through and cake all over them would have ruined everything.

 

[Mysterian]

I agree with the room about this cake desecration nonsense.

Pro tip to all the newlyweds (from a single person, of course): Save the smashing for the honeymoon, not the wedding.