We need a Bachelorette thread!

[Imzadi]

I'd like to see Chris win, because I don't want to see what I suspect is going to happen. I suspect he's winning the sympathy vote (Awww! He's such a nice guy and deserves someone nice!) so he'll be the next bachelor.

I think the same thing. He's been kept on to be the next Bachelor.

I think Josh will win. Andi lights up when she talks about him. They both live in Atlanta, so there will be no transitioning/moving for either of them to see each other.

MOST of all, he's had the high profile career that Andi craves. She chose the DA's office, not for the low pay, but the for the status being an Assistant District Attorney gives her. I think Josh will become a TV sports commentator eventually. All this footage of him on The Bachelorette has put him in the public eye. A total win for him.

Plus, Andi having to fight with him on where they spend their weekends, and that she is NOT always top priority is exactly what she needs, if not wants. She needs a guy to put her in her place every once in a while, or she would get bored with him really quick, if not start to feel contempt for how weak/soft/Beta he is. That's why it didn't work out with Marcus. He kind of put her on a pedestal, was softer going, and she had no chemistry with him. She's an attorney - she LIKES to fight. She needs an Alpha male to have sparks with, to keep her on her toes.

 

[asta]

I think the same thing. He's been kept on to be the next Bachelor.

I think Josh will win. Andi lights up when she talks about him. They both live in Atlanta, so there will be no transitioning/moving for either of them to see each other.

MOST of all, he's had the high profile career that Andi craves. She chose the DA's office, not for the low pay, but the for the status being an Assistant District Attorney gives her. I think Josh will become a TV sports commentator eventually. All this footage of him on The Bachelorette has put him in the public eye. A total win for him.

Plus, Andi having to fight with him on where they spend their weekends, and that she is NOT always top priority is exactly what she needs, if not wants. She needs a guy to put her in her place every once in a while, or she would get bored with him really quick, if not start to feel contempt for how weak/soft/Beta he is. That's why it didn't work out with Marcus. He kind of put her on a pedestal, was softer going, and she had no chemistry with him. She's an attorney - she LIKES to fight. She needs an Alpha male to have sparks with, to keep her on her toes.

I agree. Don't underestimate the draw of Josh being part of a big football family. His brother Aaron is a big deal for a lot of people in Georgia. Most southerners love their college football and a successful quarterback is like royalty.

Edited to add that I think Josh is better looking than Aaron and Aaron was able to attract a gorgeous Philadelphia TV personality, Kacie McDonnell.

 

[doodle]

I want a man who's a farm hand
I want a lover who can clear some brush
I want somebody who's not afraid of grime
Then enjoys a steamy shower very much
I want somebody who will understand
When it comes to love, I want a farm hand

Robin, this is fantastic!

 

[Disney Khaleesi]

Nick isn't from Milwaukee..ack! I know that the place he actually lives in isn't nearly as glamourous but they could at least get it right...

 

[robinb]

Nick isn't from Milwaukee..ack! I know that the place he actually lives in isn't nearly as glamourous but they could at least get it right...

FWIW, they *did* show the Waukesha city sign and the quaint/historic part of downtown. It's a pretty cute area of town ... I once accidentally drove through it on my way to a swim meet at the high school while following my insane GPS.

 

[Robinrs]

I think the same thing. He's been kept on to be the next Bachelor.

I think Josh will win. Andi lights up when she talks about him. They both live in Atlanta, so there will be no transitioning/moving for either of them to see each other.

MOST of all, he's had the high profile career that Andi craves. She chose the DA's office, not for the low pay, but the for the status being an Assistant District Attorney gives her. I think Josh will become a TV sports commentator eventually. All this footage of him on The Bachelorette has put him in the public eye. A total win for him.

Plus, Andi having to fight with him on where they spend their weekends, and that she is NOT always top priority is exactly what she needs, if not wants. She needs a guy to put her in her place every once in a while, or she would get bored with him really quick, if not start to feel contempt for how weak/soft/Beta he is. That's why it didn't work out with Marcus. He kind of put her on a pedestal, was softer going, and she had no chemistry with him. She's an attorney - she LIKES to fight. She needs an Alpha male to have sparks with, to keep her on her toes.

Amazing analysis.

Andi is an alpha female. She wants someone who will challenge her. She doesn't want adoration, she wants a man who SHE can chase.

BTW, Josh is a financial advisor so he's doing VERY well, especially for a young guy.https://www.linkedin.com/pub/josh-murray/22/29a/652 (check out the guys on the right of that page! :lmao)

My niece did a search while she was in Stanford on top paying salaries and she changed her major from medicine to economics. Less schooling, less insurance issues, MO money!

 

[KiKi Mouse]

I have a husband that adores me and it ain't that bad of a life let me tell yah! LOL

I think Andi is still young or maybe just one of those women who likes the action of the big city and a shiny lifestyle.

I would have no problem staying home and raising kids. LOL Going to work and raising three kids isn't easy. But I'm older and shiny doesn't appeal to me.

As for guys owning their own homes etc. I know quite a few single guys with houses, condos, and cabins. Maybe I should set up a bachelor show!

 

[Jeafl]

I think the same thing. He's been kept on to be the next Bachelor.

I think Josh will win. Andi lights up when she talks about him. They both live in Atlanta, so there will be no transitioning/moving for either of them to see each other.

MOST of all, he's had the high profile career that Andi craves. She chose the DA's office, not for the low pay, but the for the status being an Assistant District Attorney gives her. I think Josh will become a TV sports commentator eventually. All this footage of him on The Bachelorette has put him in the public eye. A total win for him.

Plus, Andi having to fight with him on where they spend their weekends, and that she is NOT always top priority is exactly what she needs, if not wants. She needs a guy to put her in her place every once in a while, or she would get bored with him really quick, if not start to feel contempt for how weak/soft/Beta he is. That's why it didn't work out with Marcus. He kind of put her on a pedestal, was softer going, and she had no chemistry with him. She's an attorney - she LIKES to fight. She needs an Alpha male to have sparks with, to keep her on her toes.

Imzadi, I think you are totally correct. Andi would be bored with someone who didn't challenge her. My older daughter is very much like Andi, and I always wonder what will happen if she marries her very nice, but very passive boyfriend.

 

[Robinrs]

I have a husband that adores me and it ain't that bad of a life let me tell yah! LOL

I think Andi is still young or maybe just one of those women who likes the action of the big city and a shiny lifestyle.

I would have no problem staying home and raising kids. LOL Going to work and raising three kids isn't easy. But I'm older and shiny doesn't appeal to me.

As for guys owning their own homes etc. I know quite a few single guys with houses, condos, and cabins. Maybe I should set up a bachelor show!

Some women love adoration, some women step on guys who adore them too much... I resemble that remark!

I grew up in a VERY expensive town so owning homes (or CABINS ) and having your own apartment was RARE until you were much older or had a REALLY good job. Even then the women made the nest first. I've found lots of personal experiences are location and economic based and you roll with what you're given.

I'm twice Andi's age and I like shiny still but would take a year off shiny to hang out with Chris.... Love a hard working man with dimples!

Josh and Nick are too slick for me and Marcus, though adorable, was the MEGA metrosexual.

What? You don't like my scarf???​

I heard a dj mention she dated Marcus once only to find out he has a gf. Now I hear he's ENGAGED already (somewhat of a spoiler for Bachelor in Paradise so I won't post a link). This guy doesn't waste a lot of time, does he?

 

[mblondie0509]

BTW, Josh is a financial advisor so he's doing VERY well, especially for a young guy.https://www.linkedin.com/pub/josh-murray/22/29a/652 (check out the guys on the right of that page! :lmao)

Ok so that made me giggle that they all finish the show and then stalk each other on LinkedIn

 

[kimmar067]

Last night's show was the best of the season. No drama, no controversies, just nice families then a respectful time out for Eric...

....that episode was probably the BEST single one in a very long time....

 

[iheartdisney]

I liked Monday Night's episode, but....
The segment about Eric went on way to long. It was uncomfortable to watch. The camera just kept skipping between them, waiting to see who shed the first tear. It was just...difficult to watch. And then all the crew and handlers got in there. The skeptic in me couldn't help but wonder if they were consoling Andi and the boys or if they were reminding- oops I meant encouraging-them to really open up and embrace their emotions.

That is just the kind of person I am. TV or no, there are some things that don't need full coverage. I LOVE Deadliest Catch, have watch since season one, and still can't bring myself to watch the episodes where Capt. Phil Harris dies.

Can't wait to see next week! Hopefully Andi won't be *Just laying there with her eyes closed hoping it will be over soon*!! Just don't talk about last nights overnight and you'll be good, Andi!

 

[kimmar067]

....and, speaking of overnights, I cannot [unless, of course, I don't WANT to! ] imagine any 'fireworks' on Nick's part....bleccchhh! Chris and Josh - definitely....Nick, not-so-much...

 

[Imzadi]

Here we go. . . the overnite dates.

 

[Jeafl]

If Nick says "like" one more time I will like, kill him!

 

[Robinrs]

Just dropping by to post the entire cast of Bachelor in Paradise:

http://www.people.com/article/bache...20264d5de8d817e2c8f845ceb875f3&linkId=8821074

DVRing the show, I guess I'll watch it in about 30 mins in the morning

 

[Imzadi]

I think the same thing. He's been kept on to be the next Bachelor.

I think Josh will win. Andi lights up when she talks about him. They both live in Atlanta, so there will be no transitioning/moving for either of them to see each other.

MOST of all, he's had the high profile career that Andi craves. She chose the DA's office, not for the low pay, but the for the status being an Assistant District Attorney gives her. I think Josh will become a TV sports commentator eventually. All this footage of him on The Bachelorette has put him in the public eye. A total win for him.

Plus, Andi having to fight with him on where they spend their weekends, and that she is NOT always top priority is exactly what she needs, if not wants. She needs a guy to put her in her place every once in a while, or she would get bored with him really quick, if not start to feel contempt for how weak/soft/Beta he is. That's why it didn't work out with Marcus. He kind of put her on a pedestal, was softer going, and she had no chemistry with him. She's an attorney - she LIKES to fight. She needs an Alpha male to have sparks with, to keep her on her toes.

Imzadi, I think you are totally correct. Andi would be bored with someone who didn't challenge her. My older daughter is very much like Andi, and I always wonder what will happen if she marries her very nice, but very passive boyfriend.

Sounds like your daughter is in a regular Alpha/beta relationship. She doesn't want the constant challenges or sparks or power struggles of a relationship that two Alphas would have.

Most relationships are Alpha/beta, whether peopke realize it or not. Meaning one person is the Alpha, taking the lead, making the decisions, and the other person is more easy going, and lets the Alpha lead, take charge. One person has to be the Beta in order for the other person to be the Alpha. (Of course a person could be an Alpha in one part of the relationship - like parenting, while the other is the Alpha breadwinner, making money.) But, generally, one person does usually defer to the other person in a lot of the relationship. It's just in people's personality (and genetics) to be an Alpha or a Beta. There are Alphas & Betas throughout the animal kingdom.

When an Alpha & a Beta find each other, the relationship can run really smoothly when they are aware of this dynamic. The problems happen when an Alpha wants a Beta to be more Alpha and take charge more often, or in that one area of their life where they agreed that person will be an Alpha, too. Like one had the career, but because of their Beta personality, they never advance in their career or go out for projects. Meanwhile the stay-at-home Alpha is prodding them on, "Go for that promotion!" when the Beta is quite happy staying where they are at.

The Alpha may eventually lose respect or have contempt for the Beta, because eventually, they perceive the Beta as weak. IF they understood at the beginning how a Beta is, and they got involved with a Beta, the Alpha either knows not to expect the Beta to be an Alpha, and live with making the majority of the decisions. Or they just have to find another Alpha, which is what they are trying to make their Beta spouse into.


A two Alpha relationship is harder. They BOTH want to lead. And power struggles ensue if one is not willing to give up power at times and willingly defer to being the Beta. Or in Andi's case, if Josh won't do what she wants on alternate weekends, they are going to have a lot of frustrations & problems. If Andi has to defer to being the Beta the majority of the times, she's NOT going to be happy. She's not naturally a Beta.


This isn't about being controlling, which is about being overbearing, domineering or being a control freak. It's about having a leadership personality. Like, does anyone want a Beta for the President? Someone who can't make decisions or make strong choices or doesn't take charge when it counts. We want someone who can lead.

 

[Robinrs]

Sounds like your daughter is in a regular Alpha/beta relationship. She doesn't want the constant challenges or sparks or power struggles of a relationship that two Alphas would have.

Most relationships are Alpha/beta, whether peopke realize it or not. Meaning one person is the Alpha, taking the lead, making the decisions, and the other person is more easy going, and lets the Alpha lead, take charge. One person has to be the Beta in order for the other person to be the Alpha. (Of course a person could be an Alpha in one part of the relationship - like parenting, while the other is the Alpha breadwinner, making money.) But, generally, one person does usually defer to the other person in a lot of the relationship. It's just in people's personality (and genetics) to be an Alpha or a Beta. There are Alphas & Betas throughout the animal kingdom.

When an Alpha & a Beta find each other, the relationship can run really smoothly when they are aware of this dynamic. The problems happen when an Alpha wants a Beta to be more Alpha and take charge more often, or in that one area of their life where they agreed that person will be an Alpha, too. Like one had the career, but because of their Beta personality, they never advance in their career or go out for projects. Meanwhile the stay-at-home Alpha is prodding them on, "Go for that promotion!" when the Beta is quite happy staying where they are at.

The Alpha may eventually lose respect or have contempt for the Beta, because eventually, they perceive the Beta as weak. IF they understood at the beginning how a Beta is, and they got involved with a Beta, the Alpha either knows not to expect the Beta to be an Alpha, and live with making the majority of the decisions. Or they just have to find another Alpha, which is what they are trying to make their Beta spouse into.


A two Alpha relationship is harder. They BOTH want to lead. And power struggles ensue if one is not willing to give up power at times and willingly defer to being the Beta. Or in Andi's case, if Josh won't do what she wants on alternate weekends, they are going to have a lot of frustrations & problems. If Andi has to defer to being the Beta the majority of the times, she's NOT going to be happy. She's not naturally a Beta.


This isn't about being controlling, which is about being overbearing, domineering or being a control freak. It's about having a leadership personality. Like, does anyone want a Beta for the President? Someone who can't make decisions or make strong choices or doesn't take charge when it counts. We want someone who can lead.

I'm an ULTRA Alpha and have been in both kinds of relationships. The one time I was in an Alpha Alpha it was a complete NIGHTMARE

My parents made it for 60 years in the most amazing Alpha/Beta relationship. My Mom was the Alpha till she died. The minute she died my Dad became an Alpha. Sometimes the stronger of the two can become what makes the relationship WORK.

I do well with Betas, natural ones, not just the ones who try to be to please me. My current bf AND my son are gentle kind Betas, like my Dad, which is why they get along with my crazy ways

Fyi, in the animal kingdom my female cats are the ultra Alphas and my sweet boys are the betas... great combination!

 

[Imzadi]

So Andi is having trouble being on the horse, which is going too fast for her liking. She is OBVIOUSLY fearful. And Chris can't ride up next to her and grab a hold of the reigns and help control and slow down the horse for her.

 

[rmom50]

The plaid shirts are too much. How many times has she said like tonight.