We Called Disney Today!

[DansBride2009]

I am so thrilled. We called Disney today!! We should be hearing back from them this week about everything. We hope our wedding is going to be late September.

How did your family and friends feel about traveling to get to your wedding? I mean, his dad thinks I should do it in his backyard with his planes, and that's fine but my mom and I are paying for the wedding. I want a Disney wedding. My fiance's grandma is afraid of flying(and everyone in their family owns a plane, go figure), and because the mother in law (who is dead now) loved Disney they get all misty eyed and don't want to go. And they have Disney things all over their houses! The grandma has a bathroom covered from ceiling to floor in Disney stuff!! Go figure.

My dad died, and Dan's mom and his twin brother died. I want it at Disney because it would just be a special event where we're celebrating life, not mourning death. I really don't care what they think and will go ahead to plan my Disney wedding because that's what I want. But I still feel bad. But I am not going through the drama of 'well so and so can't come on that weekend so you have to move the date because they HAVE to be there'. Either they come on the date, time and place or they don't. It's my wedding, not theirs. Am I so wrong? Any ideas from folks who have gone through similar events? Thank you!

 

[disneygal922]

Congratulations on calling! it is very exciting. i know how you feel on a few points. df's family were hesitant at first when we told them, and kept saying 'well, we don't think anyone will be able to afford to come.' or 'if you do this, you can't expect to get wedding gifts from your guests b/c they are spending so much to come'. I told df 'this is my wedding, NOT a fundraiser'... he agreed with me! they came around though and agreed we should do what we want. my dad and sisters on the other hand are very excited that they get to use my wedding as an excuse for a vacation!!

i also understand how you feel about celebrating life. my mom passed away a year and a half ago and the thought of her not being here with me breaks my heart. my whole life i've always wanted a big traditional wedding and reception in my hometown area, but once i started planning i decided it wasn't for me. i want this day to be special and not have to worry about 200 people I hardly know. my grandmother hasn't talked to me since i got engaged and my sister told her we were doing disney and she completely ignored her. if we were having an at-home wedding, we would have close to 300 people (most of which we are obligated to invite) In disney, we are only inviting 65 and that's it... if they can't afford to come, that is ok b/c my dad and sisters will be there and df's immediate family will be there and that is all that matters.

so... what i'm trying to say is... stick to your guns. this is your wedding, not your fmil or grandmothers. it is YOURS! do what you and df want. if others have a problem with it, let them know that while you are disappointed (if you actually are) they feel that way, this is your special day and your dream wedding, not theirs. keep your chin up and a smile on your face! it will all work out, it always does. those who mean the most will come around! good luck! hope this helps...

 

[DecemberBride]

First of all... congrats on a Disney wedding, can't wait to hear all your plans! Second, I have not gone through what you're going through, but I think you should plan your wedding and hopefully the people you want there will come! it's a sensitive subject, but I'm sure underneath they are happy for you guys and where you want your wedding to be, it might just be hard for them... which I'm sure you understand! Have fun and plan away!

 

[DansBride2009]

I will have to 'stick to my guns'. And that is so right about it being a 'wedding' and not a 'fundraiser'. I'll have to make that point if they bring things up. Thank you ladies for your posts, I will be looking forward to more!!

And, It's not like I want this huge, super expensive 'platinum' wedding; I want something that can be paid off quickly but is nice and well done. I don't want like, to come in on an elephant or hire a 'top 40', singer to come, I just want a nice party, which also happens to be a party in which I'm getting married to my honey and I get to wear a super super nice dress. And everyone's going to have to travel to where I live to get to the wedding anyway; why not make it Disney World?