I sure hope you guys can give me some advice. Yesterday, my daughter (10 years old) was playing at the neighbor's house. She and the neighbor girl are close to the same age, and sometimes play together very well, sometimes they fight.
Well, yesterday my daughter comes home crying. She said that the friend was running down the hall of her house and bumped into her little sister and the little sister started crying. The mom jumped up and called the friend a "b" word, (that is what my daughter said), and proceeded to hit her twice strong enough to knock her head on the wall behind her.
The mom told my daughter to go home. She ran home, and cried for quite a while. She was worried that the mom would crack the girls head open or hurt her. And she was a bit traumatized by the whole thing. She wanted me to call Child services and report it. I did not see what happened. Although, this is not the first time that my daughter has seen hitting in their house.
She was upset for over half an hour, crying and yelling, because it made her so mad. I didn't know what to say. I didn't witness anything and I don't think that child services would pay much attention to a 10 year old. But, I did tell her to discuss it with her counselor at school, I thought she needs to discuss this with a professional as it was disturbing to her.
I don't want to start a war with my neighbor. She has been good to me and helped me with my daughter after my husband died and I believe is, basically, a good person. I believe that she just went over the edge and snapped. The other occurrences were not quite like this one. I never seen her hit her kids or use bad words around them.
I would like to think that she really feels bad about it and would never do something like this again, because she has always been so good to the kids. Taking them out to do fun things, throwing big birthday parties, and generally spoiling them. I just don't know how to proceed.
I guess I am just looking to people that I know can be objective and that I trust to have good sense for some advice. Thanks for listening....