WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 18

[EllaEnchanted]

More on sunday... then maybe spring?

That's another foot of snow on top of what was already on the ground. YUCK!!! Enough already!!

Most of our snow/ice on the ground washed away with all the rain we had today. Now I hope it doesn't freeze over. That's the worst.

 

[Tink rules]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BUBBA!!!
(hope today's party is very Tequila-y!!!) ​

 

[EllaEnchanted]

So Tom has been living about an hour NW of me for the past two months with a roommate. He's been looking for work, but he's limited because he doesn't have a car. Well a job came up for him, but it's closer to me than to where he lives. SO guess what we're doing today......???? YUP we're going car shopping for Tom. Actually John and Tom are going to look at an old truck locally that runs good, but it's hopefully going to be cheap. My budget can't take anymore of these boys going out on their own. haha.

The other thing is that Lilly, Tom's daughter, is due on Easter Sunday. Her mother, Rachel, cut me and Sandy off of her friends list on FB. We don't know why. It was sudden without any warning. We have no idea what changed her mind. Tom is determined to be in Lilly's life. He said he will be there for her birth. I told him that he's going to need a lawyer. Rachel doesn't want to have anything to do with him.

I have to give Tom credit because Lilly is his motivation. He is trying very hard to get a life and have a good job. If he gets this truck today, he'll be able to take the job near me. It will be a good paying job for him. He already has a place to live with a roommate that he gets along well with. So all that will be left to do is hire a lawyer so he can see his daughter.

 

[Tink rules]

Greetings!!!

Awaiting the arrival again of my brother and nephew... Will has apparently survived winter camp... My brother went skiing at Gore and I do believe, played with his friend Ronnie's back hoe... (Ronnie moved to Lake George years ago and decided that was the way to deal with snow...)

We went to brunch a little while ago... but my brother wants to go and grab something to eat... I'll let the QM decide...

 

[HollyTyler]

So Tom has been living about an hour NW of me for the past two months with a roommate. He's been looking for work, but he's limited because he doesn't have a car. Well a job came up for him, but it's closer to me than to where he lives. SO guess what we're doing today......???? YUP we're going car shopping for Tom. Actually John and Tom are going to look at an old truck locally that runs good, but it's hopefully going to be cheap. My budget can't take anymore of these boys going out on their own. haha.

The other thing is that Lilly, Tom's daughter, is due on Easter Sunday. Her mother, Rachel, cut me and Sandy off of her friends list on FB. We don't know why. It was sudden without any warning. We have no idea what changed her mind. Tom is determined to be in Lilly's life. He said he will be there for her birth. I told him that he's going to need a lawyer. Rachel doesn't want to have anything to do with him.

I have to give Tom credit because Lilly is his motivation. He is trying very hard to get a life and have a good job. If he gets this truck today, he'll be able to take the job near me. It will be a good paying job for him. He already has a place to live with a roommate that he gets along well with. So all that will be left to do is hire a lawyer so he can see his daughter.

I'm so glad you're able to help Tom out. Seems he's headed in the right direction, but will surely have to be strong, and need lots of moral support, to deal with Rachel. How awful of her. She really seemed to want a good relationship with you. She's only hurting Lilly by keeping away her family. It's just rotten what she's doing.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I'm so glad you're able to help Tom out. Seems he's headed in the right direction, but will surely have to be strong, and need lots of moral support, to deal with Rachel. How awful of her. She really seemed to want a good relationship with you. She's only hurting Lilly by keeping away her family. It's just rotten what she's doing.

I know, Tom really has grown up from where he was two years ago. I'm proud of him that he wants to support his daughter and be in her life and that he's taking the right steps to get that done. Then there's Rachel. Who knew that she was going to turn around and do a complete 360 on us. One minute everything was fine and the next she just disappeared.....no word and no warning. Somebody got to her and told her to cut ties probably. It's just so unfair for Lilly. She has a right to know her family.....both sides. The sad part is that Rachel lives with her mother. Mom supports her. So she doesn't need Tom or his money. One day that's going to change. She and Lilly can't live with her mother for the next 18 years. At some point she will be a single mother living on her own. She will need all the support and money that she can get and that Tom is willing to give. She doesn't realize that yet.

No matter what, Tom has rights and he will have to hire a lawyer and battle it out in the courts with her. That's only going to make it worse and it's completely stupid. Rachel should just grow up and do the right thing for her kid.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

So Tristan is home on leave in Virginia and he doesn't want to see me or his father. He's on his mother's side and now he won't talk to me or my brother because we helped Casey move out against Jane's wishes. OH PLEASE!!!!!!! The drama is just rediculous. I'm extremely hurt by him not wanting to see me. I would love to go down and see him while he's home. He won't even write back to me on FB. I sent him two chat requests and one private message and got no response for any of them. Sad.

But he's his mommy's boy and what she says is what he does. Pathetic.

 

[mishoe01]

Happy belated birthdays to Bubba & Deborah. Hope you both had a great time!

 

[mishoe01]

Deb - that's crappy of Rachel & Tristan.....don't they know how much better their lives are/will be having you & John in their lives???

It's amazing hearing about Tom - he certainly has matured in the last couple of years.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Deb - that's crappy of Rachel & Tristan.....don't they know how much better their lives are/will be having you & John in their lives???

It's amazing hearing about Tom - he certainly has matured in the last couple of years.

I know....add one, lose one. It's hard to keep everybody happy all the time.

Out of my four boys....Tristan, Casey, Tom and Kris....I figure I've got three out of four covered. I wrote to Kris and told him it's his turn next if he wants to move up here we will help him out. He said his friends from up here are moving down there so he wants to stay. He's working and living in his own place. He did it on his own. He still doesn't have wheels. Maybe we'll help him get a car. And then I'm done!!!

Haha....John was against us having kids because he had been there done that and wanted our lives to be just about us....HA! Let's see....Sandi has come to live with us three different times now, his son is STILL living with us, then we took care of my brother, my mom and still are taking care of Ray. Now we have the four boys. The only one we didn't have to do something for was Tristan, but I remember taking him to a lot of concerts over the years. How quickly he forgets. Oh well.

Tom is doing great and now I'm proud of him. We found him a truck for $550. Perfect! It's got a rebuilt engine with only 15k miles. Awesome. He'll pick it up this week. Then he has to get his license reinstated. It was suspended in Ohio.....I forget the reason why. I just mailed the fees to the court for him. He has already passed the waiting period. So now he can go the the PA DMV and get a PA license. Then he'll be able to take this job. They are holding it for him for two weeks. I think he'll make it there in time with wheels.

I'm happy life is turning around for Tom. He needs a break and is definitely appreciative now and not arrogant like he was two years ago. He was on a path of self destruction at that time and no one could help him. He's come a long way since then.

 

[Tink rules]

He grew up Deb...

Tristan has been sheltered away from the family and maybe he only gets one side. If he ever comes "home" to live with his mother... I'm sure he'd be packing and going soon enough...

You and John are good people with big hearts!!!

Hugs..

 

[EllaEnchanted]

He grew up Deb...

Tristan has been sheltered away from the family and maybe he only gets one side. If he ever comes "home" to live with his mother... I'm sure he'd be packing and going soon enough...

You and John are good people with big hearts!!!

Hugs..

Thanks Shell....so sweet of you to say.

My brother called tonight to say that a close family friend of my mom's passed away. In the conversation I told him what was going on with Tristan. He asked me to send him a message in FB asking him to call his Dad and to tell him that he loves him and would have done the same thing for him that he did for Casey. Tristan has an international phone plan and number so my brother can't call him from his cell but he can receive a call from him.

I wrote the message, but I doubt that he called his father. It breaks my heart to know that my brother had to lose a son to help another one. So unfair. I hope Tristan gets over it some time soon.

 

[mishoe01]

Morning!!!

Welcome to the 1st of March!!

I'm tired! Wishing I was still in bed...it's clowdy & rainy this morning, so a perfect day to spend snoozing away

Instead, I'm at work & working a little OT this week....not too much, but I'll take what I can (1 hr today, 1 1/2 tomorrow & 1 1/2 on Thursday).

I did 6 miles on the bike last night Super happy about that. Signed up for a 5k at the end of Apriil & have 2 more that I'm thinking about. Not able to do any 5ks this month.

So??? What's up people??

 

[Tink rules]

I've had a couple of nervous breakdowns today... anything else you want to know?

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Morning!!!

Welcome to the 1st of March!!

I'm tired! Wishing I was still in bed...it's clowdy & rainy this morning, so a perfect day to spend snoozing away

Instead, I'm at work & working a little OT this week....not too much, but I'll take what I can (1 hr today, 1 1/2 tomorrow & 1 1/2 on Thursday).

I did 6 miles on the bike last night Super happy about that. Signed up for a 5k at the end of Apriil & have 2 more that I'm thinking about. Not able to do any 5ks this month.

So??? What's up people??

SIX MILES on the bike.....that's so very impressive Monica. You just keep going, you're doing amazing!!!!!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I've had a couple of nervous breakdowns today... anything else you want to know?

What's going on Michelle? Spill!!!!

 

[Tink rules]

The world has all caught up with me... that's all..

Took mom to the Dr. today... she has to have another Moh's surgery to remove the skin cancer from the eyelid... followed on the same day with some plastic surgery to repair the damage...

Except it is scheduled at a very bad time for ME... I had hoped to run away for a bit to take a break from everything because the world's been nutsy crazy and I've had to deal with her problems on top of MY medical problems... which have flared up and I have been back to living on meds again.

I broke down in the car on the way home. Because I REALLY need this break. I've been going nonstop with it for years. A break alone... by myself. Away from home... away from mom... away from all the troubles that have been following me lately. I haven't been away from home in almost 3 years except to go to family events (and I don't call those vacations...because they're not...)

You see.. I took care of my grandfather when he lived with us. (9 years) And that was after taking care of my grandmother who lived with us for a little before going in the hospital (she never came home again (she had alzheimers...)).. I took care of him because I was home, between being in school and also I was going through the surgeries, etc at the time. NOW.. I'm taking care of mom.. all well and good, even though I do have 3 other siblings I should ask for help from... and I'm lucky.. mom's in relatively good health... but she IS 79 this year.

I just feel that even if I get myself settled... I am afraid that most of my life is gone because it will only get to be more and I'm never going to be able to leave her alone here. I am always afraid of the stairs in the house that if I go away, she's gonna fall and break something and I won't be there.

When my grandfather lived with us it was like we didn't hate each other but we came to resent the situation that we were in. NOW... I'm getting afraid and beginning to resent that it's going to fall to me and then that's it... I'm stuck. My life is gone.

So... I got very upset today.. more than once.. (cars are very good places to yell and scream...) (alone...)

It's just something to figure out.. but mom is resentful also because she knows she's getting older and that she HAS done alot for me over the years. She makes it seem like I am ungrateful and that she has done her share and now it's time for me to do mine... and i have.

Throw in a whole bunch of other issues and there've you got it..

So... that's it for now...

 

[EllaEnchanted]

The world has all caught up with me... that's all..

Took mom to the Dr. today... she has to have another Moh's surgery to remove the skin cancer from the eyelid... followed on the same day with some plastic surgery to repair the damage...

Except it is scheduled at a very bad time for ME... I had hoped to run away for a bit to take a break from everything because the world's been nutsy crazy and I've had to deal with her problems on top of MY medical problems... which have flared up and I have been back to living on meds again.

I broke down in the car on the way home. Because I REALLY need this break. I've been going nonstop with it for years. A break alone... by myself. Away from home... away from mom... away from all the troubles that have been following me lately. I haven't been away from home in almost 3 years except to go to family events (and I don't call those vacations...because they're not...)

You see.. I took care of my grandfather when he lived with us. (9 years) And that was after taking care of my grandmother who lived with us for a little before going in the hospital (she never came home again (she had alzheimers...)).. I took care of him because I was home, between being in school and also I was going through the surgeries, etc at the time. NOW.. I'm taking care of mom.. all well and good, even though I do have 3 other siblings I should ask for help from... and I'm lucky.. mom's in relatively good health... but she IS 79 this year.

I just feel that even if I get myself settled... I am afraid that most of my life is gone because it will only get to be more and I'm never going to be able to leave her alone here. I am always afraid of the stairs in the house that if I go away, she's gonna fall and break something and I won't be there.

When my grandfather lived with us it was like we didn't hate each other but we came to resent the situation that we were in. NOW... I'm getting afraid and beginning to resent that it's going to fall to me and then that's it... I'm stuck. My life is gone.

So... I got very upset today.. more than once.. (cars are very good places to yell and scream...) (alone...)

It's just something to figure out.. but mom is resentful also because she knows she's getting older and that she HAS done alot for me over the years. She makes it seem like I am ungrateful and that she has done her share and now it's time for me to do mine... and i have.

Throw in a whole bunch of other issues and there've you got it..

So... that's it for now...

Oh Shell, I so know what you're going through. I took care of my Mom and Ray from when they started getting sick and for many years. I was 47 when Ray fell down the stairs on my birthday. That's when it started. I turned 50 the year that mom died. I never got to celebrate it being a special day. We were in and out of hospitals every day at that point and Mom was critical.

Add to that your own health, which I also deal with.....I so do know what you're going through.

Don't look at the whole picture, it's too overwhelming. Just take baby steps one day or one hour at a time. You'll have your time. It may not work out right when you want it, but it will happen. And everything happens for a reason. So just go with the flow and don't look at it as a burden. Look at it as an opportunity for growth and understanding.

Hang in there, I'm always here for you if you want to just vent. It will help. And I can so relate. Hugs and Love.

 

[Tink rules]

Thanks Deb...

It's not that mom is a real burden yet... it's just we've gone through way too many Dr's appts in the last couple of months followed by proceedures, tests, etc....

but something is going to have to be figured out - mom doesn't like it... but she may have to go and stay with my sister for a few months here and there just so I can have a break and do some things for myself. Let someone else take some of the worry.

 

[granmaz]

Sorry you are going through this Michelle. Seems so unfair. Even though it is in the future a little, i was going to suggest going away when your mom goes for her summer trip to a relative, but you then posted ...

Thanks Deb...

It's not that mom is a real burden yet... it's just we've gone through way too many Dr's appts in the last couple of months followed by proceedures, tests, etc....

but something is going to have to be figured out - mom doesn't like it... but she may have to go and stay with my sister for a few months here and there just so I can have a break and do some things for myself. Let someone else take some of the worry.

It would be better sooner rather than later to be sure, even though the promise of a summer break would keep you going. It is fair enough she goes somewhere for your benefit or else you aren't at your best to look after her. She must realise that.