Was I selfish?

[SC Minnie]

No, I don't think you were selfish. You were getting out of the hospital after a week's stay for depression. If my spouse was in that situation I would want to be there to make sure he really was OK.

I agree with the other poster too, maybe your bf needs to look for a job somewhere else.

 

[RadioNate]

Were your selfish...no. Was your BF's boss a jerk...no.

My DH is a radio boss and before becoming a SAHM I was in the business too. The fact is that radio is a 24/7 business and sports play-by-play is something very specialized. Your BF knew for a long time he had a game that day and had to work. Even with 2 days notice it could have been very difficult for the boss to find someone qualified to cover the play by play. This is especially true for small markets.

My DH was a former play by play man and currently does PA for a professional team for fun and he just can't take off. Unless it was a HUGE emergency I wouldn't expect him to either. When he commits for a season it means the entire season unless something nightmarish happens.

While I do simpathize with your situation you could have asked your mother or someone else to pick you up.

On air jobs are quite demanding and unfortunatly I do wonder if you can handle it. He will be expected to work holidays, weekends and when ever else.

It can also get lonely. My DH worked nearly 20 hours straight Sept 11 as I sat home alone with a 4 month old baby wondering if my best friend from HS who worked at the World Trade Center made it out alive (she did).

Sports guys are a dime a dozen. And while the boss may be insensitive he's probablly got guys lined up begging to take your bf's job.

I don't think your selfish at all and I don't necessarly think the boss handled things in the best way but I also don't know his side of the story.

I don't mean this in a mean way at all but I would also sit down with your bf and discuss the radio business and what his goals are. Often being successful means a lot of really long hours, relocation and other sacrifices.

Feel free to ask me any questions, I'm sure my DH would answer questions too.

 

[LeesyUD]

Were your selfish...no. Was your BF's boss a jerk...no.

My DH is a radio boss and before becoming a SAHM I was in the business too. The fact is that radio is a 24/7 business and sports play-by-play is something very specialized. Your BF knew for a long time he had a game that day and had to work. Even with 2 days notice it could have been very difficult for the boss to find someone qualified to cover the play by play. This is especially true for small markets.

My DH was a former play by play man and currently does PA for a professional team for fun and he just can't take off. Unless it was a HUGE emergency I wouldn't expect him to either. When he commits for a season it means the entire season unless something nightmarish happens.

While I do simpathize with your situation you could have asked your mother or someone else to pick you up.

On air jobs are quite demanding and unfortunatly I do wonder if you can handle it. He will be expected to work holidays, weekends and when ever else.

It can also get lonely. My DH worked nearly 20 hours straight Sept 11 as I sat home alone with a 4 month old baby wondering if my best friend from HS who worked at the World Trade Center made it out alive (she did).

Sports guys are a dime a dozen. And while the boss may be insensitive he's probablly got guys lined up begging to take your bf's job.

I don't think your selfish at all and I don't necessarly think the boss handled things in the best way but I also don't know his side of the story.

I don't mean this in a mean way at all but I would also sit down with your bf and discuss the radio business and what his goals are. Often being successful means a lot of really long hours, relocation and other sacrifices.

Feel free to ask me any questions, I'm sure my DH would answer questions too.

I appreciate the way you stated your opinion...very respectful Thank you. The one thing I forgot to mention, that I probably should have is the my bf was the 2nd man doing the sports that day...there was someone else he would be doing it with...and that is the man he called several times and left messages with and talked to directly about and the guy said he would call my bf back but never did. So the guy was actually fine bc he did the sports himself that day (which my bf has easily done before). But for some reason he decided to lie about it The boss that said the rude things to my bf was actually not even his direct boss, so he was out of line and he really had no right to take it that far. But I do know how tough radio is. He has not been completely happy with his job lately because even before this. He does traffic reports which he does enjoy, but really wants to be a jockey. He has tried very hard to get auditions or considered when there are other openings but they never even give him the opportunity. And I can honestly say he is very talented. And because I supoport him and he is very talented, I have told him I will relocate and support him in what he wants to do....if it's something where he works nights and I work days...we will do our best. I really appreciate your advice. We actually have been talking alot lately about these things to make sure we are both on the same page. He actually considering getting an agent, bc he would also love to do television voice over work or something related. And I will be there for him no matter what!

 

[RadioNate]

I appreciate the way you stated your opinion...very respectful Thank you. The one thing I forgot to mention, that I probably should have is the my bf was the 2nd man doing the sports that day...there was someone else he would be doing it with...and that is the man he called several times and left messages with and talked to directly about and the guy said he would call my bf back but never did. So the guy was actually fine bc he did the sports himself that day (which my bf has easily done before). But for some reason he decided to lie about it The boss that said the rude things to my bf was actually not even his direct boss, so he was out of line and he really had no right to take it that far. But I do know how tough radio is. He has not been completely happy with his job lately because even before this. He does traffic reports which he does enjoy, but really wants to be a jockey. He has tried very hard to get auditions or considered when there are other openings but they never even give him the opportunity. And I can honestly say he is very talented. And because I supoport him and he is very talented, I have told him I will relocate and support him in what he wants to do....if it's something where he works nights and I work days...we will do our best. I really appreciate your advice. We actually have been talking alot lately about these things to make sure we are both on the same page. He actually considering getting an agent, bc he would also love to do television voice over work or something related. And I will be there for him no matter what!

Well it sounds to me like the other guy was the real jerk and in the future you bf may want to call his boss directly rather than deal with the other guy.

It also sounds like you are willing to do what it takes. It isn't an easy road but you seem to know that. There is little job security and believe me, had you asked me 10 years ago I would have never guessed that I would move 4 times in 5 years.

He should be able to get a job without an agent but in a major market he'll need one (or a lawyer) to go over contracts etc.

Voice work is highly lucritive but can be a burden too. I know most of the major national voice talent and they are tied to their home studios. They get sent copy several times a day and if there is breaking news or have to do sports scores they need to be available 24/7.

In the early days our phone rang all day and night and there wasn't a saturday or sunday night that we weren't at the station doing something.

Now he has 2 assistants that get calls 24/7 but even with that help his cel rings all day and night and he is tied to a Blackberry. I have several on the cel phone or writing email photos from our recient trip to WDW.

Good luck to you both.