w00t! He's all OURS!('nother update pg 2!!!)

Originally posted by TheOtherVillainess
The biological father,though, was being somewhat a jerk.
Pleae rethink this statement. You have no idea what is going through this young man's mind until you have walked in his shoes. He is probably torn.........and given that he is getting no support from his parents, he clearly has little options available to him. How sad that he has fathered a child that he will never know. While it is wonderful for your DSIL and her DH, it is no doubt equally as sad for the young father.
 
You're right. That was snarky of me.

But I can't wait to go see LittleBitty. DH and I bought him a gift the other day at Wal-Mart. It's a little vinyl-backed spitup bib that reads Fragile! Hug Carefully!


In our case, we make sure to let them know that the birthparents did everything they could to provide for them, including finding them a family that loved them. In your case, it could be a comfort for them to know that the dad really, really cared but was not able to provide a home.

That's why the birth mom chose DSIL. She met DSIL through her cousin who attends the same church as DSIL and really,really liked her. The birth mom KNEW she couldnt' keep the baby (she's a college student) and wanted to find the best possible parents for her unborn child. DSIL even went to one of the sonograms with the birth mom and was there the night LittleBitty was born. Jess (DSIL) really supported the birth mom as best she could and I'm sure the birth parents know that Jess and Brian (her DH) are going to do everything possible to make sure that LittleBitty is happy and healthy. I know he's going to be well cared for because Jess is excellent with kids, very loving and giving of her time. LittleBitty will grow up to be one of the most spoiled kids around, along with my own DS James. :teeth: If it's not the parents spoiling the kids, it'll be the grandparents. :teeth: They're good at that already. I know DMIL was thrilled to find out DSIL was adopting. She gets to be a double grandmother heh heh heh..and she LOVES showing off DS and pictures of DN. I'm sure she'll be showing DN off too as soon as she can.



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I've posted before about my nephew,LittleBitty. Well,now the adoption process is nearly complete thank goodness. They've terminated the rights of the birth father (birth mother terminated hers at delivery)and now Jess and Brian are almost the parents of Little Bitty free and clear. Since that's happened, the lawyers (or whoever) have decided it's ok for family and friends to visit Little Bitty in the hospital and we got to see him for the first time last night.
He seems to be doing well..he's off all the machines except for the feeding tube. They monitor his heart and respiration of course, but other than that, he's got no strings on him. :)He's learning to feed from a bottle and he has to be taking at least 8 feedings of like 2-3 oz per day before they'll let him go home. Jess said he's worked himself up to 2 feedings per day by bottle and the rest via feeding tube. It's kind of touch-n-go as far as the bottlefeedings because he hasn't learned to coordinate sucking and breathing all at the same time. If his oxygen saturation level goes down (they monitor that too),they make Jess stop feeding him until they go back up. If they dont go back up quick enough, they'll stick an oxygen maskover his face until it goes back up.
Anyway...we got to see him live and in person for the first time last night. We had to go in with Jess one at a time and Brian sat with the other person out in the NICU waiting area. Oh my gosh is he TEENY WEENY! He could barely wrap his tiny little fingers around one of mine. He's so wrinkled he looks like a very old little man and his feet are just..well..tiny can't even begin to describe it. One of his feet lengthwise was no longer than about half how long my hand is wide and I don't have very big hands. I got to hold him for a few minutes and it's amazing how light he is compared to James. Little Bitty barely weighs four pounds and James is now a little over ten pounds (oh btw..we went to the doc's yesterday. He now weighs 10 lbs 1.5 oz and is 22 and 1/4 inches long :)The green sticky poop is caused by lactose intolerance and now we're on lactose free formula which stinks even worse than regular formula if that's even possible. :-P) I was just amazed at how tiny this kid was and I had to keep reminding myself that he wasn't even supposed to be born yet.
Jess is such a loving,caring parent. She didn't freak but she did look concerned every time his numbers went down and kept encouraging him to eat more, to remember to breathe while he sucked and so forth. I knew before I saw him that she was going to be a good mom and that she and Brian deserved to be parents but this just proved it even more. :)


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