Thanks everyone for the ideas and insight where social media is concerned. As Tammy says, you set down and you get sucked into FB
I have my friends that I like too stay connected to, which is my main reason for being on there. But even then, the political jargon starts filtering through them, and wham!! Im stuck. I try very hard not to comment, either way. Maybe my mistake is hitting Like when Im really just acknowledging something they wrote or shared. If I do decide to be back on FB, I will refrain from doing that and see what happens.
Like a few of you have said, I join a lot of the things that interest me, Disney related mostly. Some music, etc. I post occasionally Dr. David Jeremiahs Turning Point daily devotions just to share the Good Word with others. And I tend to never get negative feedback from that. But I shall refrain from that as well just to keep away.
I really do appreciate your honest and sincere words shared on how you deal with it all. Its easy to say just turn it off, but hard to walk away from the friends you know and re-connected with. But its time.
So, unfortunately for y'all, you will probably be seeing even more of me around here
In all seriousness though, I really do appreciate you folks being who you are, knowing our kindred spirits connect via the Lodge. Its a safe haven, and I am glad its remained that way. You folks, each and every one of you, are special to me. I really mean that. And I hope I never take that for granted!
My policy for dealing with FB [and where appropriate other social media and interactive online discussions], in case parts of it helps you and others.
I do not view FB as a way to grow my social network. I view it as a way to keep in touch with trusted friends and family who are scattered across the planet and FB is an easy and in some cases the only way to keep in touch with them.
My only "friends" are people I actually know/knew in "real life". Which for me means from high school, university, and family. I have my privacy settings set so you have to be a friend of an existing friend to be able to send me a friend request, and you can't search for me. I have accepted only two such requests and ignored a handful of others -- I am highly selective of who I decide to actually accept and each one is an intentional decision that I want to share my personal life with at this point in my life. I have 17 FB friends.
I can unfriend or block people if needed. I have not done this yet, but a couple of my close FB friends have had to do so in recent months with now-former friends of theirs. One unfriended a family member who adopted extremist political views.
FB has a feature that allows you to choose
hide all posts by someone for 30 days. If you receive notifications for them you will still see that they posted something, but the post itself will NOT show in your Timeline. I have done this to one of my extended family members for the last 6 months or so. My next step will be to unfriend them but I am not quite there yet mentally, so for now the hide for 30 days at a time works. I do not engage/communicate with them in any other way, so it works ok for now.
The organizations I "Like" are businesses that sell products I am interested in or organizations/blogs of topics I am interested in, which are predominantly Disney or food allergy related. Fortunately they do not get into political or religious discussions so I have not run into those issues.
I have joined a VERY small number of private groups [all Disney related!!] and was very very selective in which ones. Most I read but do not post to or acknowledge posts in. To be honest, it took me a long time - years - to even be comfortable joining a private FB group, but in the end I am glad I did as one in particular I have learned so much from and it is such a helpful community to be part of; it is one of the few I participate in.
Finally, I do not "like" or comment on any PUBLIC posts. In the private groups I belong to that I actually post to or acknowledge posts in, I am very careful in what I say, treating it as if it is semi-public. For friends' posts that are shared with friends only I am a little freeer, but still careful in what I reply. While I may 'like" something to acknowledge it, I won't if I don't also agree with it; and there are also the care and sad and other icons to show other means of support for a poster. But I tend not to just like to acknowledge a post, even on friends' friends-only feeds; I tend to reseve the acknowledging for something of importance or when something moves me or when I feel there is a need to show support. Remember that I am reserving it only for friends' [those 17!] feeds and the few private groups. Default is "read and move on".
My privacy settings in FB are set to basically paranoid mode. My public profile is as non-existent as possible. I make no public posts; all posts are friends only. Pretty much everything that can be set to "me only" is and everything that is set to "friends" or "friends of friends" is very deliberately set that that specific setting. I review my privacy and security settings regularly.
[you may ask why I post here... well, that is because I do it as Starwind not under my real name... I have been posting online as Starwind for decades now, since before the world wide web existed, so have a different relationship with this identity and the online world]
I apply a similar principle here in this group. I read every post, but I don't like every post, and don't reply to every post. Part of that is a time thing. But a bigger part is being selective in what I acknowledge with a "like" and reply to. It doesn't mean something else isn't worthy of it, it is just a reflection of what in the moment moves me to acknowledge/reply. Most things don't because the default is "read and move on".
This little group is a wonderful community. There is very much a sense of community and family. There is a diversity of conversation, not all of it about VWL, but it always comes back around to our beloved WL. Pretty much every time I read this group I am reminded of that feeling of "home" I get when I walk i those huge front doors, that feeling that makes me cry every single time we arrive for our stay. I don't know how to really describe that feeling of home to others, but I know my fellow Groupies know what it feels like. Though we've stayed at several resorts, we only feel it at WL. We so wish we could visit more often than every couple years.
Hope this helps.
SW