Vows column in last Sunday's NY Times

[ctinct]

They were legally separated...once that happens you can do what you want.

I think they were selfish to do the article. I also think they should have gone to some counseling. But obviously we do not know all the details. Staying with a spouse but beimg in love with someone else and being miserable, is not a wise thing to do. If you are not happy then the spouse isn't and the kids aren't.

What they did caused pain all around and it was sad..but they told their spouses and then moved on. I am sure it hurt, all of them. Was is selfish?? Yes, but ya know...what is wrong with that. Hopefully they and thier kids will be happier, and their ex's will move and meet the right person for them also.

I wouldn't want to live with a person that wasn't in love with me and wanted to be with me, but was only doing the right thing. That kind of life sounds horrible.

Not sure about the legally separeted part-the article said they "officially separated". Maybe in their minds officially separated meant when they moved out. It's really not quite clear in the article.

 

[momrek06]

Not sure about the legally separeted part-the article said they "officially separated". Maybe in their minds officially separated meant when they moved out. It's really not quite clear in the article.

Ya, I half listened to this on the Today show ... but I thought they said they fell in love with each other after meeting each other at their children's school and then just left their spouses to be with each other.

I did not hear anyone mention they were legally separated before they moved in together.