Vow renewal questions

[englishteacha]

My DH and I are renewing our vows this summer in a very small ceremony. We did the big wedding when we were married 9 years ago, and plan on just having a few people come to our renewal. We're not doing a party or anything, just the renewal ceremony, then getting on with our day. Should I tell my family we're doing the ceremony but that we're keeping it private? Or should I just not tell them? I have several siblings, all married, all with kids. There was no way for us to have a small wedding, or an adult only wedding when we were married. Too many feelings would have been hurt because they weren't included in our wedding. This is for US. We've had a very difficult time in the past couple years and now things are looking up, and we feel it's the right time to renew our vows. We are going to renew our vows in the chapel of the summer camp where we volunteer, and then camp will be starting, so there's no time for a party anyway.


I graduate with my Master's this summer and a friend is throwing me a party. I thought of having our vow renewal pics out at the party for those who might want to see. Is that OK? I plan on wearing the same sundress for the party as what I'll wear for our vow renewal.

Any thoughts? I don't want feelings to be hurt, but we want/need this to be small.

 

[MamaJessie]

I graduate with my Master's this summer and a friend is throwing me a party. I thought of having our vow renewal pics out at the party for those who might want to see. Is that OK? I plan on wearing the same sundress for the party as what I'll wear for our vow renewal.

Any thoughts? I don't want feelings to be hurt, but we want/need this to be small.

If it was just for me, I'd probably skip on showcasing the pictures. Have fun

 

[scrapquitler]

Should I tell my family we're doing the ceremony but that we're keeping it private? Or should I just not tell them? I have several siblings, all married, all with kids.
Any thoughts? I don't want feelings to be hurt, but we want/need this to be small.

If it's just for you, then don't tell everyone about it. I think it would seem kind of like you are rubbing it in that you are keeping everyone out of it.

 

[okeydokey]

Small and personal just between the two of you sounds great. Nobody else needs to know.

 

[mickeyboat]

Small and personal just between the two of you sounds great. Nobody else needs to know.

This. Congrats!

 

[bellebud]

Please don't take this the wrong way, but since it's only 9 years, but you've had some challenges, I understand *why* you're doing it, but it definitely doesn't sound like something anyone else should be included in on, ever after the fact. I'd just go, enjoy your ceremony and each other, and not even tell anyone about it. I think it sounds like a wonderful idea for your relationship, and I'm happy for you, but putting out a pic just seems like it would be... it don't know... weird (but I don't mean it in a mean way at all). It's just a very personal thing you're doing, for very personal, private reasons. Sharing it verbally w/ appropriate people is different (like telling your bff or someone).

That's great you've worked out whatever your challenges were, and are renewing your vows. Again, hope you don't take this the wrong way.

 

[low-key]

dont do it

 

[bumbershoot]

I think it's great that you know what you want. Just keep it small, no need to tell people who you aren't inviting, and I wouldn't put the picture out at your grad party.