LOL, we are probably Disney suckers, not elite members. Owning DVC doesn't get me any big breaks at DL. DVC members get a small discount on annual passes and a discount at some restaurants. Occasionally there is a special DVC event. They already have our money, they don't need to cater to us any more. There are 50 villas at The Grand and they are totally booked over 95% of the time. There is no way the lounges could support all of those guests.
At the end of the day, DVC is just a timeshare from the Disney brand. Owning gives me pretty nice accommodations for the length of my membership. I consider it a prepaid vacation(we still pay annual maintenance fees on top of our initial purchase) and it gives us some flexibility. Luckily there is a great rental market for GCV DVC, so if I don't want to go, I can rent my points very easily. We are also sitting in an unusual situation right now where we could sell our membership for the same price, if not more, than what we paid for it since the price has gone up to buy direct and resale prices have risen above our original direct buy in. That's pretty odd in the timeshare world and it could change at any minute.
If DVC members are acting elite, they don't have any right to. For our family, we actually take advantage of having a full kitchen and we make most of our meals in our room, so just looking at a week long trip, we probably spend less money in the park than the average family. My kids are older, so it isn't a big deal to make the short walk back to the villa. That is just speaking for my family, I know that other owners use their villa times in different ways. I will say that it has changed our park habits. We do get up and take advantage of the early entry, but we are no longer park commandos. We assume that there will always be a next time.