Very annoyed with DH.

[Liberty Belle]

I've had a virus for over a week that has now become quite possibly bronchitis. I'm hacking up really gross stuff and my chest burns. My head is also killing me and I'm having tons of sinus pressure.

He says he's been sick for a few days, too, with a cold. I've yet to see him use a kleenex and while I have heard him cough once or twice, it didn't sound bad.

I'm sitting here playing on this and watching a Christmas movie with my son. DH gets up and starts cleaning the living room. Then he says, "You know, sometimes you just have to buck up and say, 'It's just a cold, I don't have to stop doing what I'd normally do.'"



So, I reacted. Probably a bit too strongly. I think I said something like, "How much green and brown stuff have you hacked up?" and so on. He gets all mad at me and said I took it wrong. That he was just basically "thinking out loud" to psych himself up. Whatever.

So, how would you take it?

 

[Beth76]

ooooooh, someone's visiting sofa city tonight. I posted about this last week: when I was sick I had to ask my DH to drive my son to school. When he got back he asked if he got brownie points for it.

I hope you're feeling better soon. Have you seen a doctor?

 

[Liberty Belle]

ooooooh, someone's visiting sofa city tonight. I posted about this last week: when I was sick I had to ask my DH to drive my son to school. When he got back he asked if he got brownie points for it.

I hope you're feeling better soon. Have you seen a doctor?

Oh boy. Men.

I haven't seen a doctor, because I've been so busy during office hours. I might have to, though. The bad chest stuff just started yesterday.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

I've had a virus for over a week that has now become quite possibly bronchitis. I'm hacking up really gross stuff and my chest burns. My head is also killing me and I'm having tons of sinus pressure.

He says he's been sick for a few days, too, with a cold. I've yet to see him use a kleenex and while I have heard him cough once or twice, it didn't sound bad.

I'm sitting here playing on this and watching a Christmas movie with my son. DH gets up and starts cleaning the living room. Then he says, "You know, sometimes you just have to buck up and say, 'It's just a cold, I don't have to stop doing what I'd normally do.'"



So, I reacted. Probably a bit too strongly. I think I said something like, "How much green and brown stuff have you hacked up?" and so on. He gets all mad at me and said I took it wrong. That he was just basically "thinking out loud" to psych himself up. Whatever.

So, how would you take it?

He sounds like a cranky pants. Maybe he is feeling "affection deprived" since you probably haven't been in a loving mood.

 

[I'mNoPrince]

Go to the Docs' I had the same thing start last Sun thought no big deal . Well I ended up with bronchitis and fluid build-up on the lungs.

I'm feeling a bit better now that I have 3 days of meds in me but I leave for WDW in 9 days. I need to get much better.

 

[chobie]

Early on in my marriage, my husband was not sympathetic when I was sick. I kept getting tonisillitus and was miserable and we was a jerk to me while I was sick. So, I waited for him to get sick. He got food poisoning at a family reunion (duh, don't eat coleslaw that's been festering in the sun for eight hours) and while he was throwing up I stood behind him and taunted him.

Yes, it was mean, but after that we have always taken care of each other when ill even when we are both sick at the same time.

 

[azgal81]

I would probably roll my eyes and say thanks for cleaning honey I'm really not feeling all that great!

 

[disneymama73]

He sounds like my husband. Except mine is never ever sympathetic. I had pneumonia last spring and had to drive myself to the doctor because he wouldn't stay home from work.

 

[Liberty Belle]

He sounds like my husband. Except mine is never ever sympathetic. I had pneumonia last spring and had to drive myself to the doctor because he wouldn't stay home from work.

Grrr. That sounds exactly like my husband! I had to drive myself to the doctor when I was having a miscarriage!

Really, he's a good man and does a lot, but he is lacking in the affection and sympathy departments.

Oh, and btw, I took off work to go with him when he had (well, he was supposed to have, but they couldn't do it) a colonoscopy.

 

[rie'smom]

My husband was great-until I got sick. Then he mysteriously didn't feel well. The last time this happened I told him that from now on I would get sick by myself and he would take care of me or else he would go home to momma and let her take care of him permanently! I've been sick with a sore throat and laryngitis for the past 2 days and guess who's been calling throughout the day to check on me? He went out to buy me ice-cream last night because he thought it would make my throat feel better. It did.

 

[disneymama73]

Grrr. That sounds exactly like my husband! I had to drive myself to the doctor when I was having a miscarriage!

Really, he's a good man and does a lot, but he is lacking in the affection and sympathy departments.

Oh, and btw, I took off work to go with him when he had (well, he was supposed to have, but they couldn't do it) a colonoscopy.

They must have been absent the day they taught sympathy and compassion. My husband didn't want to take me to the hospital when I was in preterm labor with our first DD or when I started bleeding heavily at WDW with our second DD.

And why is it they mysteriously become sick whenever we do but have no apparent symptoms?

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Is it possible your dh and my dh are related? Because dh doesn't like to use kleenex either and it's totally disgusting. The few times I've had to drive his car, I sanitize the steering wheel first because I've seen him sneeze all over it and then do nothing about it. Yuck.
TOV

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My DH would never say that....he knows better!

 

[Cool-Beans]

I've had a virus for over a week that has now become quite possibly bronchitis. I'm hacking up really gross stuff and my chest burns. My head is also killing me and I'm having tons of sinus pressure.

He says he's been sick for a few days, too, with a cold. I've yet to see him use a kleenex and while I have heard him cough once or twice, it didn't sound bad.

I'm sitting here playing on this and watching a Christmas movie with my son. DH gets up and starts cleaning the living room. Then he says, "You know, sometimes you just have to buck up and say, 'It's just a cold, I don't have to stop doing what I'd normally do.'"



So, I reacted. Probably a bit too strongly. I think I said something like, "How much green and brown stuff have you hacked up?" and so on. He gets all mad at me and said I took it wrong. That he was just basically "thinking out loud" to psych himself up. Whatever.

So, how would you take it?

I'd take it as the beginning of a sentence I had to finish and say, "and other times you just need your rest," on my way up the stairs, to my bed.

 

[CEDmom]

I could see how you took it but maybe he was just trying to psych himself up. If he's claiming to have a cold maybe he had to push himself to do stuff since he sees how sick you are and knows you can't do it. Of course I wasn't there and don't know your DH so maybe he was just being a putz .

Hope you feel better soon.

 

[dmslush]

Ladies, I'm sorry, but if I had a husband that refused to take me to the dr when I was in labor, having a miscarriage, or any other serious illness, we'd be in divorce court! Sorry, that is what the whole 'in sickness and in health' bit is about.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I would've taken it exactly as you did, LB. I mean really, does he talk to himself often? How often does he psyche himself up -- out loud? Probably nill. I'd guess it was for your benefit, because he was P.O.'ed at having to pick up.
When he got a reaction, he backtracked real quick. LOL.

Nothing like a dose of "things still need to be done around here", while you try to recover. When he isn't looking, give him a kick in the pants. Just enough to get his attention. It'll make you feel better. (j/k)