VENT I'm just so mad!!!!!

[irishsharon]

I know this is the budget board but I just love all the wonderful advice from all the wonderful people who visit this board So hear is why I'm I get paid to care for two little girls in my home and today when their mom droped them of she told me she was mad someone at her job got promoted before her snd thst she was going to leave the job in the next few weeks.I'm really mad that she has no consideration for me.Let me explain, my dh has been out of work on short term disability so his income is next to nothing right now(she knows this) My dh had hip replacement surgery YESTERDAY!!! and will be having hip revision surgery on his other leg in a few weeks(she knows this) I count on the money I earn from watching her children more so now than ever.Also this is NOT the first time she has said she is leaving her job.I'm tired!!! I'm stressed!!!! and I'm really mad right now!!!! I want to say something to her but need help finding the right words. Thanks for listening I just need to get this frustration out before I visit dh.

 

[okeydokey]

I realize that her work effects you also, but she shouldn't stay in a job that is not working out in order to continue to pay a babysitter.

If you want to try to look at the positive, at least she is giving you some advanced warning. Can you advertise for some other clients? Who are you registered with? Sometimes state licensing offices will offer a list of providers to people looking for care.

Good luck to you.

 

[wendow]

I agree with the pp. This mom owes you notice that she will no longer be needing your services and it sounds like you got that. I would start advertising wherever you can that you have a home daycare and are accepting new clients. I'm sorry this comes at such a bad time for you though.

 

[kathie859]

I know this is the budget board but I just love all the wonderful advice from all the wonderful people who visit this board So hear is why I'm I get paid to care for two little girls in my home and today when their mom droped them of she told me she was mad someone at her job got promoted before her snd thst she was going to leave the job in the next few weeks.I'm really mad that she has no consideration for me.Let me explain, my dh has been out of work on short term disability so his income is next to nothing right now(she knows this) My dh had hip replacement surgery YESTERDAY!!! and will be having hip revision surgery on his other leg in a few weeks(she knows this) I count on the money I earn from watching her children more so now than ever.Also this is NOT the first time she has said she is leaving her job.I'm tired!!! I'm stressed!!!! and I'm really mad right now!!!! I want to say something to her but need help finding the right words. Thanks for listening I just need to get this frustration out before I visit dh.

I did in home day care for several years so I can sympathize. I think that tomorrow when you see your client, it's perfectly fine to say "Gee, I've been thinking about what you said yesterday. Does this mean Susie and Billy won't be coming here any longer? As you know, I really appreciate the income I make from sitting and I need to know if I should be advertising for another client."

Jobs can be difficult to find quickly so I'd probably take her comment made in frustration with a grain of salt.

 

[RitaE]

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Go apply for her old job?

 

[Mrs.Malone]

I understand your concern, and it's not right for her to throw around the statement that she is going to quit her job if she really isn't. But from an objective perspective, of course she should not have any consideration for you
(other than appropriate notice) when she's deciding whether to quit. Her responsibility is to support her family, not yours. You cannot and should not say
anything to her about your anger.
I would politely ask that she put her notice to you in writing so you can
find new income asap. She may just be blowing off steam but you have the
right to know.

 

[HappyMomma]

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Go apply for her old job?

This!

 

[Freesia123]

If she keeps saying it repeatedly and keeping you in limbo I'd be pusses too. But, she shouldn't have to keep her kids in daycare if she doesn't want to. Did you discuss your policies with her when you started? Maybe draw up a contract and her to sign it? It would a be good idea if you don't have one, regardless of this particular woman. My daycare contract for my kids states that two weeks notice is required by either party for termination of services, or a $300 fee.

 

[Disneylover99]

You mentioned that she has said she was leaving before during a different time. Did she not follow through?

All babysitters I have used have always had me sign a written agreement that I would give two weeks notice if I were leaving. That seems fair to me.

Sorry that this is coming at a bad time though.

 

[mrsklamc]

Will this woman not have to get another job?

 

[danygirl]

If you have a contract with her, I would take this opportunity to remind her that she has to give you the agreed upon notice or pay the penalty. Be polite and businesslike. If you don't have a contract, well, then I would still ask her politely - "yesterday you were pretty upset about your job. If you are going to quit, I would appreciate some notice. Even though we have an informal arrangement I am sure you would want me to give you notice if I was going to stop caring for your kids, and I would expect the same from you."

Don't expect much from her if you don't have a contract, though, because you can't enforce anything.

In the meantime I would see about getting some replacement clients, regardless.

 

[ilovemk76]

I know this is the budget board but I just love all the wonderful advice from all the wonderful people who visit this board So hear is why I'm I get paid to care for two little girls in my home and today when their mom droped them of she told me she was mad someone at her job got promoted before her snd thst she was going to leave the job in the next few weeks.I'm really mad that she has no consideration for me.Let me explain, my dh has been out of work on short term disability so his income is next to nothing right now(she knows this) My dh had hip replacement surgery YESTERDAY!!! and will be having hip revision surgery on his other leg in a few weeks(she knows this) I count on the money I earn from watching her children more so now than ever.Also this is NOT the first time she has said she is leaving her job.I'm tired!!! I'm stressed!!!! and I'm really mad right now!!!! I want to say something to her but need help finding the right words. Thanks for listening I just need to get this frustration out before I visit dh.

Are you a licensed daycare?

She only owes you notice. I would ask what day the kids will stop coming and look for others to watch or get a full time job.

 

[bumbershoot]

I did in home day care for several years so I can sympathize. I think that tomorrow when you see your client, it's perfectly fine to say "Gee, I've been thinking about what you said yesterday. Does this mean Susie and Billy won't be coming here any longer? As you know, I really appreciate the income I make from sitting and I need to know if I should be advertising for another client."

Jobs can be difficult to find quickly so I'd probably take her comment made in frustration with a grain of salt.

I like it.

 

[wiigirl]

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Go apply for her old job?

 

[ceecee]

I like it.

Me too! Basically she did give you a "few weeks" notice, so advertise for some new kids.

 

[Burnedout]

I don't get what you want from her? None of the stuff in your life is her fault or respomsibility.

 

[MarriedToAPrince]

I realize that her work effects you also, but she shouldn't stay in a job that is not working out in order to continue to pay a babysitter.

If you want to try to look at the positive, at least she is giving you some advanced warning. Can you advertise for some other clients? Who are you registered with? Sometimes state licensing offices will offer a list of providers to people looking for care.

Good luck to you.

I have to agree with this. It isn't this Mom's concern that your DH is out of work.

 

[jperrot1]

The free market could be frustrating. Next time you take on new clients I would type up a contract with something like a two week deposit and a required 2 week in advance payment, as well as a 4 week advance notice of contract termination (on either side). If you do the math you'll see why this could work well. You can explain you have to do this because you were taken advantage of before. It sounds to me as if she is trying to make you feel insecure and she is being mean, but that's just the vibe I'm getting from your post.

I should add my wife and I have used 3 different places/people for daycare and "bow down" to the service you folks provide. You deserve every penny you're being paid (and I'll bet it's not a lot), and she should be praising you every day she picks her (happy and well cared for) children

Just remember the service you provide is worth so much you might not realize. Hang in there and keep thinking about reshaping your business model so you can earn a bigger profit at the same time having the great clients you deserve.

 

[Mama Who]

Things my last babysitter had written into her contract:

Two weeks paid notice before leaving
A week of paid vacation and a number of holidays, also paid
Strict closing times and high fines for being late
Pay for the space regardless of whether we used it. Sick? Going out of town? She still got paid to hold the space.


You need a contract and a clear mutual understanding. She does NOT owe it to you to stay in a bad job for your benefit but she absolutely owes you some reliability.

 

[ceecee]

Things my last babysitter had written into her contract:

Two weeks paid notice before leaving
A week of paid vacation and a number of holidays, also paid
Strict closing times and high fines for being late
Pay for the space regardless of whether we used it. Sick? Going out of town? She still got paid to hold the space.


You need a contract and a clear mutual understanding. She does NOT owe it to you to stay in a bad job for your benefit but she absolutely owes you some reliability.

WHAT??? Paid vacation and sick days for a baby sitter??????? Our licensed day cares don't even ask for that. I can see the closed and late fees and a 2 wk notice but not paid holidays. I work in healthcare part time and don't even get that!