Vent-Explain my BIL to me please!

[sbell111]

Did you read where the OP said the new wife was very nice and that she had no problem with her and the new wife seemed to have no problem with the OP? So, how you can say the OP clearly disapproves of this new relationship is beyond me. If she clearly disapproves, she wouldn't have gone to the trouble of making the comment.

She made the comment after someone called her on the animosity seeping from the first comment about the wife.

 

[mumom95]

double post, still trying to figure out how to multi quote

 

[mumom95]

She made the comment after someone called her on the animosity seeping from the first comment about the wife.

Wrong. I would like to see the quote where someone called her on it, before she said how nice the new wife was.

That's why he has a new wife. She can keep him company.

But you are not her parent. The parent says where the child can go.

Of course you wanted to see her, again, I'm an aunt and I understand that part. Can you try and understand that with you being pushy, you can cut off ties? You don't want that.

Does she want to see you?

I agree with the other PPs who are saying he really doesn't want to send her and his stalling is an attempt to give you a big hint.

If you want to see her so badly, go visit her.

mayeb he does have reasons he did not want to send her to you. I know I don't want my girls off staying with other members of the family.

Has he talked to you yet to make sure it's ok? Maybe that's another stall tactic.

It does sound like he doesn't want to send her and he is trying to give you a hint without saying it. Why? Who knows. You sound like a loving aunt and I imagine your neice wants to hang on to her mother's family.

Is there any chance the new wife wants to cut all ties with your family?

Yes, I spoke to him and he agreed. I really don't know why, and frankly I don't really want to ask him. I am just relieved she is coming.

Actually, the new wife is very nice and seems to have no problems with me and I have no problem with her either. I really don't think it's coming from her.

She made the comment in response to me asking if it could be the new wife wanting to cut all ties with the first wife's family. Not a single other poster had made any comment to her about the new wife before she said the nice things about her

 

[lillygator]

She made the comment after someone called her on the animosity seeping from the first comment about the wife.

exactly = may not have had a comment that particulary commented on that but OP def felt the need to address her early comment about the new wife. I think that one post was very telling.

 

[mumom95]

exactly = may not have had a comment that particulary commented on that but OP def felt the need to address her early comment about the new wife. I think that one post was very telling.

She addressed it because I asked if the problem could be the new wife, and she right away said the new wife was very nice and she didn't think so.

She didn't feel the need, she was answering a specific question asked.

 

[lillygator]

you see one thing, I see another.

 

[lillygator]

I think she now feels out of any type of control and needs to reel some of that in, I would love to know how her neice feels.

 

[mumom95]

deleted because I was in a bad mood when I typed it, and probably shouldn't have said it.

 

[ginna74]

op didn't say much of anything... and now there is this... there could be black widow spiders and BIL is scared daughter could get bit???