312.Duck
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Hello everyone, 312.Duck here; DH of TyRy, son of this wonderful person.
I just wanted to thank everyone for all the great, helpful info, prayers, thoughts, and well-wishes.
My mother really appreciated them.
My mother passed at 2:05am on 7/12/09 gracefully in her sleep; the suffering is over.
This happened so quick, but we were able to tell her we love her and she responded with the same.
She wasn't defeated, never cried, and simply said "We tried. We did everything we could do."
She died of primary malignant heart cancer - extremely rare.
Extremely active, fit, 69yr old supergrandma (lived for her grandkids), she was fine and at our house on May 3.
She found she was getting very tired just doing simple things like laundry, went in for scans and such,
and was diagnosed on May 13th with a cardiac sarcoma growing from the right side of her heart.
As documented here, the tumor quadrupled in size within a month after attempted excision (removed 50% -
it was already huge and had invaded the right ventricle). It was pushing on her lungs, liver, and had shoved
the heart up against her rib cage making each breath a struggle. She was administered one chemo treatment on July 1st,
but her heart (from all the pressure and internal blockage) could no longer support the kidneys and liver enough to continue.
She scrawled a note to my dad Thursday, July 9th asking: "will I ever get better?"
That day they told my dad there could be no more treatments.
.
.
.
She never shed a tear during this - just focused on getting better.
I couldn't contain myself and started sobbing on her shoulder at the hospital Friday, the 10th, when she found out they were finished.
Still, she rubbed my head and told me:
"it's going to be all right." (a mother till the end...)
Very stoic and graceful, she stated "We tried. We did everything would could do."
They brought her home that evening to expire with her family around.
Around 2:05am Sunday morning (the 12th), my brother said she let out a sigh and clutched the air as if grabbing for her parents.
The suffering is over.
This all happened so quick, yet again, we were able to tell her we love her and receive a response. She will be sorely missed.
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.
.
Thanks again to everyone for all your support during this time.
My head's still spinning; this all happened way too fast to the least deserving, most loving person in our family.
She lived a great life, but had so much more to live for and never had a chance to fight.
I've always been half a "DINK," but it kills me to know if I ever do have any kids they'll never get to love each other.
I love you, Mom. Goodbye.
- Mark Ryan
ps.
I showed her some of the emails and responses here a few weeks ago, and she was really touched by them. We are really lucky to have you all as friends.
pps.
I believe the last diagnosis was poorly differentiated synovial sarcoma of the right ventricle (though it had enveloped the entire heart).
Patricia "Pat" Ryan
3/11/40 - 7/12/09
Her license plate...
"Proud member of the Donald Duck Fan Club"
I just wanted to thank everyone for all the great, helpful info, prayers, thoughts, and well-wishes.
My mother really appreciated them.
My mother passed at 2:05am on 7/12/09 gracefully in her sleep; the suffering is over.
This happened so quick, but we were able to tell her we love her and she responded with the same.
She wasn't defeated, never cried, and simply said "We tried. We did everything we could do."
She died of primary malignant heart cancer - extremely rare.
Extremely active, fit, 69yr old supergrandma (lived for her grandkids), she was fine and at our house on May 3.
She found she was getting very tired just doing simple things like laundry, went in for scans and such,
and was diagnosed on May 13th with a cardiac sarcoma growing from the right side of her heart.
As documented here, the tumor quadrupled in size within a month after attempted excision (removed 50% -
it was already huge and had invaded the right ventricle). It was pushing on her lungs, liver, and had shoved
the heart up against her rib cage making each breath a struggle. She was administered one chemo treatment on July 1st,
but her heart (from all the pressure and internal blockage) could no longer support the kidneys and liver enough to continue.
She scrawled a note to my dad Thursday, July 9th asking: "will I ever get better?"
That day they told my dad there could be no more treatments.
.
.
.
She never shed a tear during this - just focused on getting better.
I couldn't contain myself and started sobbing on her shoulder at the hospital Friday, the 10th, when she found out they were finished.
Still, she rubbed my head and told me:
"it's going to be all right." (a mother till the end...)
Very stoic and graceful, she stated "We tried. We did everything would could do."
They brought her home that evening to expire with her family around.
Around 2:05am Sunday morning (the 12th), my brother said she let out a sigh and clutched the air as if grabbing for her parents.
The suffering is over.
This all happened so quick, yet again, we were able to tell her we love her and receive a response. She will be sorely missed.
.
.
.
Thanks again to everyone for all your support during this time.
My head's still spinning; this all happened way too fast to the least deserving, most loving person in our family.
She lived a great life, but had so much more to live for and never had a chance to fight.
I've always been half a "DINK," but it kills me to know if I ever do have any kids they'll never get to love each other.
I love you, Mom. Goodbye.
- Mark Ryan
ps.
I showed her some of the emails and responses here a few weeks ago, and she was really touched by them. We are really lucky to have you all as friends.
pps.
I believe the last diagnosis was poorly differentiated synovial sarcoma of the right ventricle (though it had enveloped the entire heart).
Patricia "Pat" Ryan
3/11/40 - 7/12/09
Her license plate...
"Proud member of the Donald Duck Fan Club"
That was beautiful, Mark. The love between you all is very evident - and touching. I'm sorry your Mom passed away, but I am glad you all got to say the things you wanted and needed to say. She was beautiful, and she must have been a really great lady. 
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