Up date on Daughter, hopeful things

[Mathfailure]

Our meeting at the HS on Mon. was much better than expected. The hitting is a suspension for 5 days, on it right now, homework can be collected and done during this time so she is not too far behind. The school was/is willing to do tutoring, change schools, online...whatever to get this child on track again.

I saw the Dr. on Tues. and was totally relieved. He did not think she was worse or even as bad as before (Spring), just impulsivly reacted wrongly, and needs to review and put in place coping skills and thinking before acting. He is not changing the meds, and is following up in two weeks to see.

My daughter had been firm in not wanting to return to the HS, until she recieved an email from the teacher of the class all this happened in. The teacher told my daughter she had an A in the class on her mid point, and that the teacher looked forward to seeing my daughter's "beautiful smiling face again." I swear this was the changing point, because at the Drs my daughter said she was ready to go back, full days, on the coming Monday. Knew she would face some talking, and still was ready. I could have fallen off my chair, as she had not shared this with me!

I am anxious still over the re-entry, but I also know that we all have to face uncomfortable situations - especially when we have messed up. I do not want her to go through life bailing when the going gets rough: I also do not want to set her up for another fight. Such are my see saw of fears right now.

I am going to look into a parents group, and I love the suggestion of an indicator if one of us is having a particularly bad emotional moment. We are going to figure that one out and put it into practice.

So, thank you all. No more news will be good news from me. I am going to try and get my head back to normal. I really am a fairly low maintance kind of person, so the drama wears me out!

Kathleen

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

That is all GREAT news!

 

[rosiep]

Kathleen!

Mothers raising daughters....such a precarious balancing act. My heart goes out to you because I know how hard it can be....do we push, do we yield, to we coddle, do we yell.....I know that I am willing to do whatever it takes to keep my daughters safe, strong, happy...and yet..

I have two very different personalities and what worked for one was poison for the other. One daughter is clear about her needs..the other vague...

My only advise is to keep telling your daughter you believe in her and are confident that she WILL become stronger, smarter, happpier in time (even if inside you wonder.. )

And please remember to take care of yourself...there's no doubt that this is stressful for you and that you need to be giving yourself the same TLC that you give your children.

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers..
-Rosie

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Thanks for the update. What great news! The teacher was wonderful in sending the to your daughter. Life is a tough road. Good thing she has you.

Good luck to her on her return to school!

 

[soulmates]

You all are in my thoughts. Parenting is THE toughest thing I've ever done. Each child is different therefore, you have to be a different mom to all each of them, again, tough job. Hang in there!