Unusual Requests on an Invitation

[PrincessPatty]

Well with all these horror stories I thought I would contribute one that I thought was very nice. My cousin is having her first baby and of course a baby shower, on the invitation my aunt wrote, "In lieu of cards, please bring a story book for baby"

back to the bad stories, I was invited to a friends surprise birthday, thrown by his fiance. On the invitation she wrote so and so would really like a gas grill so if you plan on giving money please give to fiance by Friday @ 5:00 p.m (party was on Sat.)

 

[barkley]

i just remembered-i recieved an invitation some years ago for a bridal/baby shower (yeah-both events for the same person). inside the invite was a copy of the bride/mom to be's registry list, an item was highlighted and next to it was written "you have been assigned to bring this". needless to say i did not attend.

 

[kadaten]

i just remembered-i recieved an invitation some years ago for a bridal/baby shower (yeah-both events for the same person). inside the invite was a copy of the bride/mom to be's registry list, an item was highlighted and next to it was written "you have been assigned to bring this". needless to say i did not attend.

Ok, you have me beat.
I was offended by the invitation I got to a bridal shower from the fiance of a 3rd cousin who I wouldn't recognize if I ran into him in the street with his name stenciled on his forehead! Yeah, his name isn't even familiar!!! They went down the family reunion mailing list and mailed EVERYONE an invitation to the shower (which of course listed where they're registered....which is tacky, even for a shower!). Didn't get a wedding invite at all, even though I'm the ONLY family member who lives here in FL where they got married!

Two things I was taught coming up that seem to have gone by the wayside:

1. Showers are more intimate affairs than the wedding. Meaning just because you got an invite to the wedding doesn't mean you'll be getting one to a shower. But if you got one to a shower, then you should have already been invited to the wedding! People seem to be doing it backwards.....inviting everyone possible to showers (asking for more gifts) then not inviting many to share their special day. I don't get it.

2. Presents should be mailed to the home of the bride or bride's parents (or whatever return address is on the invitation), not taken to the ceremony and reception. I mean, honestly....who has time to deal with presents/cards at a reception? And who wants to nail a family member to a spot to guard the table? Presents should be mailed/dropped off preferably before the ceremony, or sometime soon after.....enabling the bride, groom, all family, and guests to enjoy the wedding and reception without worrying about housekeeping chores like carting packages around. I usually mail mine one to two weeks before the ceremony....that way I know it arrives before they leave on their honeymoon and isn't sitting on the front porch while they're gone (if it was going to their house).

 

[pfishgirl]

Wow I didn't know my post would get such a huge response...

Thank you all for your imput and your stories..

 

[Lil_Tink]

Good idea but a little tacky, ITA its almost expecting a gift. I wouldnt be hurt if someone never brought a gift.

 

[twojo21]

those little notes may have good intentions but i think theyre tacky.

 

[mrsgus06]

The year before hubby and I tied the knot, his mother passed away from pancreatic cancer. I did not have it printed on the invitation itself, but I did include a small card stating in lieu of gifts, please make a donation to the American Cancer Society in honor of his mother. We did not need anything as this was a second marriage for both of us. We also included an American Cancer Society envelope (with a stamp) in our wedding invites. All they had to do was write a check and stick it in the mail! We also received a notice from the Society stating each persons name that donated, but not the amount. I thought it was a wonderful tribute to his mother. Was that tacky?

 

[Bob Slydell]

The year before hubby and I tied the knot, his mother passed away from pancreatic cancer. I did not have it printed on the invitation itself, but I did include a small card stating in lieu of gifts, please make a donation to the American Cancer Society in honor of his mother. We did not need anything as this was a second marriage for both of us. We also included an American Cancer Society envelope (with a stamp) in our wedding invites. All they had to do was write a check and stick it in the mail! We also received a notice from the Society stating each persons name that donated, but not the amount. I thought it was a wonderful tribute to his mother. Was that tacky?

No, that's not tacky. Anything you do out of generosity and love for a departed family member cannot be considered tacky, in my book anyways.

 

[pfishgirl]

The year before hubby and I tied the knot, his mother passed away from pancreatic cancer. I did not have it printed on the invitation itself, but I did include a small card stating in lieu of gifts, please make a donation to the American Cancer Society in honor of his mother. We did not need anything as this was a second marriage for both of us. We also included an American Cancer Society envelope (with a stamp) in our wedding invites. All they had to do was write a check and stick it in the mail! We also received a notice from the Society stating each persons name that donated, but not the amount. I thought it was a wonderful tribute to his mother. Was that tacky?

NO WAY was that Tacky.... I'm just sorry she couldn't physically be there to watch you two get married..