Unfriendly DIS users??

[Laila_Adam]

All the forums that are not specially for teens and children are here on the DIS are adult forums. It was that way when you joined this month and it was that way when I joined 5 1/2 years ago. That doesn't mean that a teen or even a child cannot post to those boards. However, it does mean that they should be prepared to write in a way that can be understood by everybody.


LOL! Opinions are one thing that DIS members have in excess! And we rarely wait for someone to ask for it!

You are absolutely correct - the purpose of the threads are to get opinions. What you're not realizing is that the opinions people ask for is on the subject of the thread and a public dicussion of that topic. Whether someone chooses to use shorthand, it is their perogative and has no bearing on the discussion at hand.

So my understanding about your post is this - that you're upset that it took you a long and painful time to understand the shorthand, and you feel that you are getting old and out of touch with today's youth. The world changing, and when you joined 5 1/2 years ago, was a completely different world from now. Technology is changing the world and either you assimilate or get left in the dust.

Like in every job, there's an office grouch (like Squidward from Spongebob)... so instead of furthering useless discussion, I've decided to move forward and respond only to posts regarding the topic of the thread and not to someone who's in here just so they can make themselves feel better by putting others down. We're not in Junior high Skwl!

 

[kbmoo]

I just joined alittle over a month ago, and I have found for the most part everyone is wonderful! Sometimes someone gets alittle serious, but just take it with a grain of salt. They may just have a srange sence of humor. And yes, my spelling is terrible, but most people can figure it out.

 

[kimberh]

I have found that some people just want to set others straight or argue a point that is pointless to argue. I told my husband about one the other day on a post that I became involved in , the post is still going on, some of the people are unreal. My husband said, " Why did you waste your time and get so upset?" I said, "I know." I joined this board to learn about Disney and get all the details that I may not know, even tho I have been to many times to count, not to get into a debate or arguement with a unknown internet person. My advise to the Op is don't get your feelings hurt and I couldn't understand what you typed either so if you want to talk on this forum type full sentences. It's just a fact, I wouldn't take the time to read it.

 

[sjaakie]

I`m member of a Dutch forum. Better I was member of a Dutch forum.
I was witness of a group of members sloughtering a boy of 16 years becouse he had a minor disabillety.
Not only the members but also two admins took part of the hunt.
The two admins made abuse of the pm part and everyone could read what the boy told in private pm to the adminds.

I signed out.

Problems are every where so please think a litlle bit of eacht other.

By the way. I know my wrighting is bad and I make mistakes,please excuse me for that.

 

[CRSNDSNY]

LOL! Opinions are one thing that DIS members have in excess! And we rarely wait for someone to ask for it!

You've got that one right! .

Oh, wait, I mean -- yve gt tht 1 rite!
LOL -- Personally, I don't know how people write like that! I teach college and when I get emails like that from students I cringe....and then I correct them!

I'm always blasting my opinion everywhere I go on the DIS. If you don't like my opinion, you'll ignore it. If you like it, you'll comment. No big deal. Collaboration is what makes the DIS run.

It's all good on the DIS!

 

[JPN4265]

Just a quick question but has anyone else had a dis user be generally unfriendly to them?

Today on another board i was typing in shorthand and another dis user told me she hoped it was a joke because me typing like that made her feel sick and other stuff like that.I almost cried it just felt so horrible to be talked to like that

anyone else had a similar experience?

Yes, but thank goodness its only a few. The great majority are really trying to help out their fellow Dis. Just don't sweat the few, they really don't matter.

 

[robinb]

So my understanding about your post is this - that you're upset that it took you a long and painful time to understand the shorthand, and you feel that you are getting old and out of touch with today's youth.

Nope. You don't understand at all. I am not upset by any of that. The OP was hurt by someone else's nasty comment. I simply explained to her that her choice of IM shorthand will usually illicit a negative response with the non-teens on the DIS. If I read the original post on the Gay Board that caused the nasty response I would have simply skipped it.

The world changing, and when you joined 5 1/2 years ago, was a completely different world from now. Technology is changing the world and either you assimilate or get left in the dust.

You are telling a computer professional all about technology. Thanks for the uninvited advise. You'll fit right in here!

Like in every job, there's an office grouch (like Squidward from Spongebob)...

Since you're new here you may not know that personal attacks are not allowed.
http://www.disboards.com/faq.php?faq=vb_faq#faq_vb_board_usage

HTH and Welcome to the DIS!!!
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[HeatherFeather]

My experiences in life have led me to believe that the people who act ugly generally are misberable human beings and they cope by trying to bring others down with them. I guess it makes them feel a little better to make someone else feel bad. Don't let them get to you...it's what they want.


And, as another poster pointed out...there is always the "ignore" feature.

 

[mikymouse]

I also got a pretty nasty response yesterday and I have been feeling blue about it. I think most people read the DIS to visit their "happy" place and so I am learning only to post "happy" thoughts. I started to post to this web site so hopefully someone would find "my" experience helpful just as I found the posts so helpful for my trip.

It is amazing that how quickly people judge based on a single action or a single word on Disney behavior but don't think a thing about spending a ton of money visiting WDW as often as possible, instead of giving to charity or something more worthly than a self indulgent vacation. I am going to have to quit DISing because the nasty responses are eating away at my happy disney memories and I don't have enough time or money to go replace them with new happy WDW memories anytime soon.

 

[Lisa_Belle]

In a public forum, we'll all find lots to disagree with - and lots that will get on our nerves. I try to follow that old kindergarten advice: "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." I believe there really is a lot of negativity on this board (and other boards I post on), but there is enough here that I truly am afraid to post most of the time. It seems the mob mentality is heightened in a setting where once one stone is thrown, others join in because they have the luxury of somewhat anonymity. Reprimands and reminders of rules are best handled when they come diplomatically from moderators.

 

[robinb]

mikymouse:

I just read the mine field you accidentally stepped in. We all do it and we all get flamed. FWIW, I would be pretty shocked too!

May I make a suggestion? If you accidentally say something that someone takes the wrong way, correct it in the original post. Don't just post a follow-up. Why? If you said something that really gets people's undies in a bundle, then poster after poster will respond to the original post and read your follow-up later. Then you get flamed again and again for something you really didn't mean. I usually say "ETA:" (Edited to Add) and then add my follow-up, apology, etc. I will also add it as a follow-up post so the people how already got their licks in can read it too.

Like any community sometimes we get along and sometimes we don't. Think of things this way ... if we all agreed on everything then the world would be a boring place.

 

[mikymouse]

RobinB, Thank you I have been feeling just terrible, so mission accomplished to those who thought I needed to be put in my place. Thanks for the suggestion to edit the post.I might add that people w/o wheelchairs also have invisable illnesses but we still wait in line, so I must be a real meanie.

So a question.... Do people in wheelchairs go automatically to the first place in line.. I do not know the rules/etiquette maybe that is just standard practice???

I wanted to take my mom on the trip but she didn't want to go because of her bad knees would have made the the whole WDW very painful even with a wheelchair. Plus now that I have witnesses the ugly situation I will always avoid the night crowds with my kids and my mom... I suppose I can tolerate mornings with the Pre-school meltdowns and strollers more than get out of our way or we will run you over night crowds.

Getting over the Disney blues quickly now.

 

[flrickd]

It is a shame that such a happy place has some people who make others sad!!!!

 

[robinb]

So a question.... Do people in wheelchairs go automatically to the first place in line.. I do not know the rules/etiquette maybe that is just standard practice???

Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. It depends on their needs. Check out the DISAbilites Board for more information.

People in wheelchairs are usually loaded into the buses first, even if other guests have been waiting longer. Then again, there are only a couple spots per bus for wheelchairs and if those are filled the person in the wheelchair would need to wait for the next bus, even if there are seats or standing room available.

 

[aspcamhreditor2]

I just stumbled across this thread today. I admit that I didn't read all the posts, because, although the general topic cracked me up at first, I knew many of the messages would make my head explode.

To the OP or anyone else attacked for "poor" posts ... I would let the criticism roll off your back even though personal attacks always hurt one's feelings. I don't like to read trendy IM speak or shorthand myself. However, it's MY choice to skip something that I find difficult to read. Your need or ability to write in whatever fashion you wish, however, is YOUR choice.

Second ... I am an editor professionally. As such, I avoided chat groups and boards for a long time. Why? VERY FEW posts are completely grammatically correct and free from errors. That little fact used to make me nuts! Then, I learned to lighten up. Coming to dis is supposed to be fun. Additionally, not everyone has the same skill levels with the language, and even those who slam you aren't producing error-free work.

I thought we came here because we enjoy WDW and most things Disney. I know reading these posts is what I do for fun. I've learned to competely ignore errors & typos, AND I don't worry about whether my posts are perfect. If I didn't do the first, I couldn't read about 90% of the posts. Even grammar nazis make mistakes. Second, I'm not getting paid to edit these. I do enough of that all day.

OP & those who feel attacked... do what works for you when writing and I'll do the same when reading.

 

[Sammie]

I agree that some are too hard on grammar, punctuation and spelling, and typos. I know I make my share of them so I try to be lenient of others.

But I have to also think that if someone came to the forums and starting posting everything in Russian, very few would be able to read it.

I agree that you need to participate with a written format that the majority can read.

 

[disfanalicia]

if i were you i wouldnt let it bother you

 

[CleveRocks]

Not Many Professional Editor's Here I Would Wager

I am an editor professionally.

Okay, I'm REALLY hoping here that the title of your post was typed in a tongue-in-cheek way, that you have the same weird sense of humor I do. If not, OOOOOOOOPS!

[I don't typically comment on others' grammar, but I just couldn't pass this up, a post from someone who is an editor by profession.]

 

[SueM in MN]

So a question.... Do people in wheelchairs go automatically to the first place in line.. I do not know the rules/etiquette maybe that is just standard practice???

Most of the lines are wheelchair accessible and you will wait in the same lines with everyone else.
If you come to the disABILITIES Board, check out the disABILITIES FAQs thread neat the top of the board.

 

[rgribik]

Mikymouse:

I read the other thread that you got blasted on, and replied in your defense. MQuara must have been looking to blast someone, all I took you to say was that it was a shock to see that. It would have been shocking to see, end of story.

To the origanl poster: Yes, some things get blasted over and over, but if people don't like your post they don't have to read it. That being said, I always tell my kids, if you want to be taken seriously by adults, you need to talk seriously.